Ok, I’ve thought about starting this thread many times in the past, but in my head it’s a much longer and more detailed post. This is the short short version because I just want to get a teensy bit off my chest right now.
I can’t tolerate christianity. Sorry, I’ve tried, and I really wish I could, but I can’t, and frankly I don’t see why I should have to. I don’t openly criticize it unless someone else starts it, but unfortunately it comes up every so often between my girlfriend and I and I can’t bring myself to keep my mouth shut.
Tonight we were on the phone and I asked her to come over. She said she would but she would have to wait until after advent. …Advent…I’ve read the entire bible, I’ve taken bible classes, I’ve even been to church a few times in my life, and I have never heard of advent until I started going out with this girl. I did a little bit of research and it turns out that advent has nothing to do with the bible, it was created by some guy around the 6th or 7th century, and it’s primarily a catholic thing (she’s not catholic.) So back to our phone conversation. I said something about advent being a “cultist ritual” and she got a little miffed and said she wasn’t coming over. I’m not sure if she was joking or not because I had to get off the phone because The Simpsons were coming on.
What if she wasn’t joking? I really love this girl, and she says I should respect her beliefs but I just can’t. In my eyes anyone who seeks out facts and uses logical and rational thought will easily come to the conclusion that Christianity is a fallacy and therefore I can’t respect anyone who refuses to come to that conclusion. Don’t attack me based on that last sentence, I love my girlfriend and I respect her very much, I just can’t bring myself to respect her religious beliefs.
I know you can say that by saying this I’m just as stuck up and close-minded as christians but the difference is that I am completely willing to change my ideas based on new evidence. I’m not even sure that my way (atheism) is right, I’m just saying that their way is wrong. Is it really so wrong to state the fact that christianity has no evidence to support it? And is it really so wrong to point out the errors in basing your life on something that has no evidence to support it? Am I such a disrespecting jerk for this?
I love my girlfriend and I would really hate to lose her but what if she laid it down one day that it was her or atheism, not both? What if we had children one day and she tried to bring them up as devout christians? I’ve seen that screw up some kids pretty bad (several of my cousins and extended family.)
I don’t want to force her to be an atheist anymore than I want her to force me to be a christian, we just can’t seem to find a middle ground .