OK, I just looked at the second link, about your hair.
I saw the picture you linked in that thread and I’ve got to be honest: your hair sucks. It’s weird loner hair. I think it’s time to renegotiate with your parents about the hair situation. One compromise might be Aveda. Their products are expensive, but claim to be all natural. Their salons are expensive too but give pretty decent cuts, and can advise on how to style your hair so it looks good. If they won’t shell out for either of those, go full on 16 year old and freak the geek out on them. Or just go behind their back and buy some cheap chemical-filled gel from Target.
Putting visible effort into your appearance can help you socially. It’s not everything, but it’s something.