How do you sound to other Dopers?

In My Humble Opinion
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Well, I was talking to, um, a certain someone last night. (if you want to know who, just ask… I doubt he’d mind) I was updating him on what had happened to me during the course of the day, and happened to mention that I was bad at online flirting. He thought that was rather funny, so I asked him if he’d ever known me to be a total wanton. (I’ve been talking to him since October or November, so I figure he would know) This is what he had to say:

Affter I’d laughed at that, and told him that it was definitely not me, he said:

Then I said that I seemed crazier on ICQ than I was in real life, and he had this to say:

Hey, it has to be a contrast if a goofball talks to a precise, analytical person, right? :slight_smile: But it’s none so bad as all that. :smiley:

Then he gave me some tips on flirtation, particularly Internet style. But I’m not going to tell you what he said… it’s a secret. :wink: Although he did have this bit of opinion to pass on after I told him I didn’t have a secret network of girls around the world (because he didn’t think he should be telling me all these secrets, otherwise the male population would be doomed):

When I told him that it certainly wasn’t the case because then I could message him at any time, and never mind the time difference, he told me that it wouldn’t exactly be the case, since I was trying to emulate a human (:p). Then I brought up the point of the online picture of me that I had showed him back in January. (which is thankfully offline, since my sister finally updated her webpage :D) He said it was all part of an illusion, since there were millions of online pictures. Hmmm…

So what gave him the impression that I was an illusion? He said it was because I speak in a very analytical, precise, well-ordered manner. He hastened to reassure me that there was nothing wrong with it, but most conversations weren’t really like that. (you didn’t have the benefit of editing your words carefully) In his words, I should “just say it, and send it out. :p”

Well, in real life, I tend to blurt out the wrong thing at the wrong time indiscriminately, and stumble over my words, so maybe this online chatting is a good thing. :smiley:

My final thoughts were that I didn’t think I sounded like a computer spitting out sentences in the most well-mannered way possible. I do have a humorous side to me, and am certainly not all analytical and stuff.

So the whole point of this long and rambling OP? (and who would honestly expect anything less from me, really?) Just this: I have discovered that my impressions of how I sound to other people (at least on ICQ and stuff like that) are perhaps vastly different than what they may really think.

So what about you? How do you think other Dopers (not necessarily me ;)) sound when you read their posts, or chat with them off the boards? FWIW, I did ask another Doper what he thought about this, and he said that I sometimes did sound very precise even when the situation didn’t call for it. So maybe it’s not just the person I talked to last night. And maybe it’s because I really do want to sound like I have a handle on being rational. (at least, most times)

Give me your impressions… you know you want to. :wink: Looking forward to reading it, as it’ll make for interesting reading.

F_X

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All right then. Since you asked for it, I’d have to say that Flamsterette_X strikes me as an analytical goofball who likes smiley faces. What I mean by that, I don’t know, but it just seems to fit.

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I skimmed your post, and I was thinking it was going to ask what I thought I sounded like to other people, but it didn’t. Not that it would matter, because people would have to read what I say for them to have an impression of me.

Terribly unappreciated and abused in a cyber community of smarty pantses,

Dignan

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I don’t really have much problem imagining how dopers sound and I honestly don’t know how I sound to other dopers, but imagining what they look like? Why that’s a whole 'nother story, as you (and Res) very well know.

I think it’s safe to assume that I’m the only doper that though ResIpsaLoquitor was a girl and Flamsterette_X was just a white bread Canadian girl? Yeah I thought so. slinks off in shame

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Most people, I imagine, think I alternate between a bubble of buttered-up happiness and a pile of festering depression/anger.

I promise I’m not so bipolar:)

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Most people, I imagine, think I alternate between a bubble of buttered-up happiness and a pile of festering depression/anger.

I promise I’m not so bipolar:)

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iampunha - maybe not bi-polar, but apparently bi-postal.

(Yeah, lik I could resist THAT one.)

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One of the women at the last ChiDope saidsomething to the effect of, “I love you. You write so beautifully.” She was almost the first person I spoke to, and then I drank heavily for several hours. I would say I’m being a gentleman by not identifying her, but I’m such a complete moron I can’t even remember who it was.

Nevertheless, it was the nicest compliment I’ve had in years.

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Well, given especially posts of the past few weeks. . .

[ul]
[li]Has poor comprehension skills[/li][li]Knows nothing, seems to act otherwise[/li][li]Is a dork[/li][/ul]

PS: punha you did that on purpose, posting twice about being bi-polar!

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Hmmmmm…

…no, see, if I say anything, Flami will get mad. In fact, she’s going to get paranoid just from THIS post.

Fizzes has a really nice head, tho.

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Well, in real life, I tend to alternate between rambling on like a moron and near silence. Unless I really know someone well.

:o

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I thought I had built up some credibility, but after a recently locked Pit thread, I probably come off as shill and incoherent.

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err… that should be “shrill”, not “shill”. I’ve got incoherent down cold, apparently.

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I thought Res was a girl, and he still thinks I have a nice head. He sounds pretty forgiving to me! :smiley:

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Kaneda! Kaneda!

ooops… wrong movie…

I think Res sounds like an intentional tort with transfered intent and chocolate sauce.

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Sorry, I’m just poking in to look for a lost dog. He answers to the name of “Ein.” Anyone? I think he was chasing after David Byrne’s tour bus.

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Res, what on earth makes you think that I’ll get mad if you answer the question? I certainly won’t call you out in the Pit for it. In fact, I’m not sure I ever would do that to anyone, at least not at this point in time. Oh, and no… I am not paranoid.

iampunha, I’d say double-posting happens to everyone, whether they’re bipolar or not. So don’t worry.

F_X

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ummm… I think that Ein is that little girl, Lain’s dog. I get wild to think that Byrne’s tour bus stopped at the site of the last Faye Valentine sighting, but the house was burning down from falling moon rocks. The slippery people realizing that this must be the place were looking for a psycho killer humming a naive melody. But Byrne said his girlfriend is better than Faye, and went to the swamp. I think he should pull up the roots with that girl because she’s making flippy floppy. Don’t mind me, I’m speaking in tongues.
Gee, I think I must sound cryptic to others on the SDMB who aren’t Talking Heads fans…

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OK, then…

I think Flamsterette sounds like a female Woody Allen, only because she’s always asking questions about everything I say or post about her. She always second-guesses me. Hence, there’s always a slight air of nervousness about her…or so I think, anyway. She deeply cares about everyone, though, so that could just be a dark-side side effect. :smiley: (Ooooh, I’m gonna get it.)

Fizzes sounds like a big bunny rabbit. Not literally, but there’s always an excitement to her posts with a youthful energy. I think it comes with having a nice head.

lel strikes me as the Cosmo Kramer type, always showing up when I least expect it and throwing the most oddball questions at me. Enjoyable, but weirdly so.

TalkingHead is the wise-mystic monk type. If I didn’t know him in person, I’d expect him to live in some Eastern Religious monastery, spending half his day in the sand garden and the other half composing odd riddles based on David Byrne lyrics which, if you could look at them with just the right perspective of life experience, would explain the meaning of the universe AND have a secret encoded recipie for fried crab legs.

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Like my friend Justin once said: “Hey, if you don’t ask, you don’t know!” (although he was defending some rather… odd… questions he asked our friend Hon about his girlfriend) But the same applies. :smiley:

Second-guessing Res would be the thing to do… I have no idea anymore about that guy. (not that I ever did) As for a slight air of nervousness, well… let’s just say that it is justified most times. And not just around Res, either. :stuck_out_tongue: Maybe it’s my issues about self-esteem / self-confidence / things of that nature.

And he’s lucky that I don’t know enough about the Dark Side[sup]TM[/sup] to be able to make a cogent rebuttal of that point. But I am certainly not of the dark side. But I’d like to question how he would know that I “deeply care for everyone.” I don’t know that it’s true. (yes, I know it is on some level, but am still not sure)

TalkingHead has also been bugging me about being a real computer program in a Macintosh. At least, that explains why I’m pretty quick, he says. Somehow he believes me about not being a computer program, but I seemed to know a lot about stinky tofu. (which I really don’t) He says that means I must have found a body to host the computer program, because I can smell. Sure, whatever. :slight_smile:
Oh, and just for the record (and because Fizzy asked me), I was talking to Spoz. If he sees this, I am most certainly not a computer bot or program. The people I met at the Vancouver Dopefest can certainly tell him that much.

F_X