Brian: Wow. I can’t believe she played you like that. I thought her sudden change in attitude might have someting to do with another guy, but I was really hoping that wasn’t the case.
She didn’t even have the balls to tell you the real reason she broke up with you.
You are not a moron, or foolish. You trusted a user. It’s happened to almost everybody at one time or another.
I’ll just repeat a couple of points already made: You’re lucky, and you can do much better, when you’re ready to try again.
Bullshit.
Put an “un” in front of “faithful”, and that quote makes more sense.
My guess - FWIW - is it’s her childish retaliation to your posting of her e-mail.
I highly doubt it’s true. The page looks like it was thrown together in an hour and was done for the simply reason of trying to get back at you for posting her immaturity.
Besides, no man in his right mind would marry that shrew.
Be thankful it isn’t you on that page.
I’ll bet money that she read every single post here. Her ego wouldn’t allow her stay away from the SDMB. She can’t handle the situation like an adult, so she resorted to creating a fake web page for revenge.
But don’t sink to her level, you are above that.
She will be the one regretting this later, and what will hurt her the most is the fact that she will have to deal with your absence.
I’m not going to claim to be attractive, but my husband tells me I am every day.
I would never, ever hurt him like that.
Besides, MadPoet did you look at her pictures? I guess she’s okay on the outside, but now that I know what she’s done to Satan I think I can see her ugly soul showing through.
Well, I hope this doesn’t come off badly, but you know me, Brian, and I think you know that I think well of you. That being said, my suggestion is that in the future you try to remember that people can be assholes and what you think you see when you first meet them is often not what you get. You were with Heather for what? A week or two before you guys began declaring your love for each other? Sweetie, it takes much longer than that to get to know someone to the point of being able to feel actual, genuine love for them. It’s very easy to delude oneself into thinking a relationship is “the real thing” because we all want that so badly. But take it from one who has been burned repeatedly: Initial lust and infatuation are just that. Enjoy and appreciate them for what they are, but don’t start naming your future kids a month into any relationship. Understanding that true love takes time to develop allows you to apprreciate the giddy begining bits without having it break your heart if it doesn’t work out.
Tread lightly, my friend, and remember that claiming true love for someone you don’t know very well only cheapens the meaning of that forever-bond we all crave (no, not Connery).
Relax Love, and don’t worry about it. You’re way too good for her anyway.
Don’t get me wrong–I love life. I’m just finding it harder and harder to keep myself amused.
Having viewed the site, I can only say this must be some new use of the word “forever” that I’m not familiar with.
BTW, did anyone else think the filter applied to the “hands” graphic made them look like gnarled, 90-year-old witch hands? Guess sometimes the camera DOES capture your soul.
Anyway, Satan, I’m not as sure as the rest of these people that you’re not a stupid moron, but if you are, it’s not over Heather.
PS–does anyone think we have an obligation to warn Matthew about the strap-on? DON’T DROP THE SOAP, MATT!!!
Either it was a case of love ( or maybe lust ) at first sight. Or, this has been going on longer than you thought. Or as someone pointed out, it may be a fake just to get in a jab at you Satan.
Ayesha - Lioness
There are two solutions to every problem : the wrong one, and mine
(Thomas A. Edison)
Unfortunately, I have it on good authority that it is not a fake. Namely the wonderful Teeming Millions Detective Agency who found out via an AIM chat with the guy when he was at her computer.
Those that know can get into it in better details than I, and I welcome them to do so here, especially since I only got a small bit of how it was “proven,” as it were.
All I know is that I want nothing more than to be able to call her a cunt to her face.
All I know is I want nothing more than to tell her mother what a monster she raised.
All I know is that I don’t know how I can ever trust again.
All I know is that for some stupid reason, this hurts more than when I left my wife and her step-daughter who I still love.
All I know is that in spite of all of my hurt and anger (th latter as much towards myself as it is to her), I can still see that there are a lot of caring people here, and I thank you for being this way.
I honestly like that last post, Satan. Not in a foolish way. I didn’t think it was healthy for you to be so angry at yourself for this breakup. I am glad you are spreading your venom out towards her, as she deserves it. Blaming yourself, and internalizing anger is no good.
I think its cool that you get a chance to see your dad, and family next weekend. You will have a good time. And, of course, You will be able to watch your Giants lose.
Oh, and the ironic thing is that there are still several; pages on-line still where I am still refered to. Her “About Me” page still talks of her moving to North Carolina. And a few of her many pictures pages still include me with that hilarious “L” word.
Take it from someone with some psychotic girlfriend experience: you are way better off without her. I know it hurts right now, but you will get over it and move on. She, on the other hand… well, in the eloquent words of the famous **Mr. T **: “I pity the fool.”
Satan… you trusted someone you loved, and believed the feeling to be mutual. That is not being a moron, that is being human. I don’t think anyone can say they haven’t been through the same experience. Each time I am let down by the trust I put into a person, I remind myself that that person is also human, capable of making errors in judgement and life choices. It helps to forgive and accept the person for who they are, and I have learned something from the experience. My thoughts go with you.
“Only when he no longer knows what he is doing, does the painter do good
things.” --Edgar Degas
Don’t really have anything to add that hasn’t been said before, but that is a bunch of bullshit. I wasn’t going to say anything since I’m not as much of an insider on this board as some of the others, and it’s not my business, but I gotta admit I always did think ya’ll made kind of an odd couple–in that you seemed a lot more mature than her. I think you’re much better off out of it.
Yeah, it looks to me like he knew about ya’ll–I get the impression she may have given him some kind of ultimatum, “Propose to me or I’m going to be with Satan” (now I’m making it sound like some kind of devil worship cult thing ), since this all happened at the same time.
Anyway, ain’t nothing to be ashamed of for being fooled or lied to, happens to everybody, a part of life you have no control over. Which is more than I can say for the bastards that do that sort of thing.
Maybe all of us Carolina Dopers can get together soon and have a big drunkfest.
Heather reminds me of my Aunt Paige. She’s almost forty now and still acts the same way. It’s going to hurt, but I’d say you came out ahead of the game.
Take your time, get up, dust yourself off, and try again.
– Sylence
And now, for my next trick, I will talk in spooky half-references.
Satan, my friend, I know it won’t do a lot for you tonight, but I think on down the line you’ll feel like ol’ Matt did you a favor. I can honestly say that is how I feel about the “Matt” that passed throuugh my life years ago.
