Sometimes leftists in general get criticized because when one leftist says something reprehensible, other leftists are too slow to repudiate the reprehensible thing said. I don’t necessarily buy that reasoning, but I certainly get why it’s nice for folks arguing with leftists to see us police our own.
Along those lines, and assuming that secretsmile is male (which, I recognize, given the username, is a pretty safe assumption), I’d just like to say: secretsmile, shut your fucking piehole.
I mostly agreed with your post, including your interpretations of others’posts, but I disagree with this. I don’t blame it on guys being resentful of anything. I do think it might have to do with social awkwardness though, i.e, they lack empathy, miss social cues, etc.
You’re bagging on the social awkward guy is getting old though. It’s almost as bad as their supposed misogyny. Do you realize that now that you’re over thirty, you’re the female equivalent of the socially awkward guy? Men, in general, are going to prefer the younger, hotter chick over you.
I didn’t find the OP ambiguous. You and others simply failed at reading comprehension. Given Broomstick’s reaction, I don’t see how you could assume a mild confrontation unless you thought she was overreacting.
Same to you lefthand of idiot. You know you can’t tell someone’s sex by their username.
Sometimes you kind of can.
It’s ridiculous to think that you can guess gender by user name, that’s just…
Oh. Never mind.
heh.
Funny, coming from someone whose username is a take off of a novel about gender-bending aliens.
You know what. As a socially awkward guy many would find “weird”, I find this rather offensive. Just because I don’t fit in with the local culture. I’ve never did anything like the OP. Yet here you are calling me a loser and linking me with the creeper in the OP and jackasses who blame rape victims.
For much of recorded human history the answer is no, men and women lived separate lives and mating was arranged.
No, it makes me not fucking crazy.
And thus men invented shaking hands as an shameful, degrading outlet for their pent-up LUSTFUL URGES!
Why yes, I am bored & trapped at work (after my shift) by the “Occupy” movement
I didn’t take the paper while he was there, I ordered him out of the shop. Granted, he didn’t see me tear it up and throw it in the garbage but no, I did NOT “take his number”.
Oddly enough, a substantial number of people disagree with you on that point.
Yes, I think there is an actual threat from men who don’t take “no” for an answer.
I asked a very specific question that you didn’t answer. I didn’t ask why it’s infuriating or why it’s a dick move. I asked why it’s victim blaming. It’s not even blaming the criminal, let alone the victim. It’s not blaming of any type. Saying “shoulda” in no way references blame to any degree.
That’s…actually pretty funny.
Marriages were arranged. Fucking wasn’t.
Yeah, some of us are awkward and timid, not awkward and creepy!
But I think what some of my fellow men are trying to say, if inelegantly, is that just as women are more aware than men about this creep factor, men are more aware than women about the harm in tarring an innocent flirt. Some guys, even me sometimes, would be overly aggressive in defending what we see as just harmless flirting
In this case though, I think we would all be better off if we deferred to Broomstick’s instincts. If only because of that pimple thread 
Yeah, but that second one really didn’t catch on till Quicky Mart dumpsters and the back seats of Edsels were invented.
I know, it’s still my favorite reverse pick-up line.
I knew this was ludicrous at a glance, since at my ripe old age of 42 I know as many women who’ve been victims of violence than not but I Googled that bullshit anyway. Hunh. The perception of tiny here is yours. Why not ask the women around you if they’ve been a victim of actual, attempted or threatened violence? I have.
While you’re at it, ask if they’ve been offered or asked for sex while at their jobs, compensated sex or otherwise. I have. Women who are a captive audience are just irresistible to some men, more than you apparently realize; they feel they might have a chance to get away w/ something and they’re going to take it.
I read this whole miserable thread and I’m convinced some people cannot or will not empathize w/ others. Most men I’ve known would be furious if the woman in the OP was their sister, mom, daughter or SO. Some of you clever pieces of shit enjoy being fuckers merely for the sake of being clever fucking piece of shit fuckers.
I think your second use of “piece of shit” needs to be plural, like the first (pieces of shit), but with that sentence I would not bet the house on it.
Clever? Shucks, thanks!
“Oh, it sucks that this happened to you, but…why were you there / doing that / wearing that?”
“You should have done this, then he wouldn’t have done that!”
“I would have kicked him in the balls / got my manager / filed a complaint (and you didn’t ergo, you handled it wrong).”
“It wasn’t even that bad, why are you getting so upset? Other women have had it worse / he was just flirting / you’re irrational.”
It’s victim blaming because it implies that the person making the complaint is either partially (or totally) responsible for their situation, or that they are mishandling their reaction to it. It takes the focus right off the person who actually did the fucked up thing and puts in on the victim, on what they could or should do differently.
K well…don’t do this. Because being made to feel dirty or dehumanized or afraid is actually a lot worse than having your pick-up lines shot down. And someone who already feels dirty or dehumanized or afraid really doesn’t need to hear about how the poor creeper was just misunderstood and she’s the one with the problem.