I’d go with the 15 months because Kay won’t realize The Douche has no intention of leaving his wife until at least 12 months in.
Good questions.
That also sounds like bullshit to me - I don’t know much about young kids and their parents getting divorced, but the standard response from a young kid when hearing that their mom is leaving them isn’t usually, “Oh, good. About time!”
You keep trying to paint her as some kind of victim of circumstances, but she’s completely making her own bed here.
Oooh yeah, good idea.
K: “So Mrs. P, since I’m sleeping with your not-ex-hubby, what inside info can you give me on him? Does he buy you thoughtful gifts & flowers?”
Xizor, You are a seriously twisted bastard; I bow in your direction.
I have a conf call dial-in # for work. Mebbe leave your phone on the table in speakerphone mode & we can all listen live.
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Not trying to paint her as a victim of circumstance at all – but we’ve all made some pretty dumb decisions. She made her bed, she’ll sleep in it (with or without him). I’m not going to try to make it all better for her, which is why I’m not going to try to change her mind. But I certainly will be a shoulder for her to cry on if and when it goes south.
The odds are miniscule that K and P will work out. But ya never know. K’s husband may be happier, and K is. For now. As you are not her best of best friend, I applaude your restraint to not tell her she’s crazy.
I have a very good friend that I’ve known for a long time. Recently divorced. And fairly well off (upper middle, no children. She is well set up for retirement). Her new love is “poor as a church mouse” and has been divorced 4 times. There are a number of other red flags.
I’ve met the guy a couple of times. He seems OK.
The only thing I advised her to do is to make sure she gets a pre-nup if they get married. Friends listen and when you can give advice that you think might be listend to, give it. No need to push though. Unless K is completely clueless, she has thought about everything you would like to say.
Well, as I said after my ill-fated marriage; “If you ignore the sea of red flags to be in a relationship with someone, you will be beaten with every single one of those red flags on your way out the door.”
In my wife’s case, it was The Douche who walked out. They won’t last a year before the shiny wears off.
Oh, yes it is. He has the child’s home, and an SO who has been the child’s caretaker. There’s a really good chance that he has purposefully chosen the babysitter as the best possible person to help him get custody of his child. He appears to know exactly what he’s doing.
K. will find herself a year from now renting a room, paying deep child support, and only seeing her child under supervision of the court.
Sounds like P and K and the OP all deserve each other. What a nightmare for the poor child.
Or she is young and hot.
Oh, lord help me. I’ll give the full run down tomorrow when I’m at an actual keyboard, but the guy was really nice. And K was super happy. Oh, boy… I may have been wrong about this one.
Anybody can seem nice for a couple hours.
Nice people don’t engage in that kind of behaviour, pretty much by definition, IMHO.
Oh no, it seems OP is also under P’s spell. I hope BubbaDog’s prediction is(n’t) right… 
Remember that narcissists can be extremely charming.
I think I am constitutionally unable to understand people who willingly leave their own kids.
well… ::waiting, waiting waiting::
Cue bow-chicka-wow-wow music in the background
I’m not sure whether I want to read any more of this or just wait for the movie.
And certain sociopaths.
So, I’m guessing no phone call to Mrs P was made.