My behavior over the years has been completely uneven and sometimes infamously terrible. My statements about women in particular were horrible. I am engaged to an extremely talented Episcopal priest against all probability. I was embarrassed when I realized she might find out some of what I wrote along with my mothers and daughters. Everything I have ever said is true but it was presented in an inflammatory way that I deeply regret.
This is a completely sincere apology that no one else knows about. I reread some of what I wrote years ago and, although there were reasons for it, that is still no excuse. I was just being a dick because I could.
People can grow and change and I certainly have. I have hurt a whole lot of people in my life even just casually and I vow to stop doing that and be more on the helping side.
That is a nice apology, although I don’t recall any such remarks.
You may find from your fiancé that as humans we are flawed, and that God forgives us, so I hope you’re not beating yourself up too much about this. Hopefully we grow and improve as we go. Growth is a journey, and I too am on that journey.
Thank you but I am a deeply flawed person and trying to improve. I have also contributed a lot over the years. It doesn’t really matter why that is. I am just trying to do much better and hope everyone else will follow that lead.
My fiancee set a really high moral bar for me that I have never experienced before. She didn’t make me apologize. She doesn’t even know that I am a longtime member of this board. I can promise you though that the change is real. It just depends on who you surround yourself with. When you are picked by someone much better than you, you better start acting like it.
It’s not an uncommon phenomenon. You start hanging out with a person who’s better than yourself and you start seeing that being a better person is a realistic possibility. You realize that if they can live their life that way, so can you.
You’ve said horrible, disrespectful, and objectifying things about women. I really hope you’re changing, but it will take a long time and a lot of posts to convince me.
I really do hope you have truly changed your thinking. Good on your girlfriend for inspiring you. You owe her.
As a newb I was just in time for your big pit thread. I poked at you alittle over there. That’s not who I really am. I wish I had of stayed out of it. I am sorry for doing that.
Good luck.
“Words on an anonymous message board” are all any of us have here. Whether the OP is sincere or not will become clear over time when he continues to post.
Agreed. Good on you for trying to be a better person.
This too. Good intentions are the first step, not the last; by our works (or rather our words) are we known here. I would suggest at the very least you take a few minutes between writing a post and hitting “submit Reply” for a while to give yourself a chance to check that you’re not slipping back into old ways.
Or - and this is just crazy talk - spend less time here and more with your lovely-sounding partner.