Ditto about Boomers, and ditto sentiments from me, Shaggie. I hope you’re serious about change and not just charged full of dopamine due to New Relationship Energy. I’m willing to wait and see.
I often thought you were somewhat “out there” on numerous issues - not just gender related ones. Perhaps it was because my particular ox was never gored, but I never thought of you as a “bad person.”
Whatever your actual and perceived sins in the past, good luck on your efforts to improve.
Pigs on wing; could it be? :dubious:
Here’s to this one ending well for you, OP.
FWIW, male here, and the “everything I have ever said is true” thoroughly undercuts the whole apology from my perspective.
I’m not particularly interested in his browbeating, but if he decides to become a better poster, in a year or two I might believe it.
I for one, am glad for the sense of closure with regard to the Russian gambling hooker.
From many posts so far here, we have some good people here on SDMB. Cool.
Excuse me? You missed Little Nemo and me, both male non-whats. Maybe some others too.
I will add one more well-intentioned bit of advice here: perhaps instead of focusing on “helping”, you would be better served by doing more listening, and particularly to women (as this seems to be a weak area for you). It sounds like you’re listening to the one at home; now try listening to others as well.
So are you going to change your username to Shag-nicety now?
You said you didn’t recall any such remarks.
I don’t know what the ratio of make to female responses are in this thread, but things you’ve said in the past have been pretty awful, OP. And I agree with LHOD, your statement that these horrible things are “all true” does make your apology seem less than sincere.
Thank you, I appreciate that. I’m glad things are going well with the priest and you found someone compatible. I hope the kids are doing well too. I don’t go out to new england often but if you’re in Indy for any reason we could meet up for a beer.
I don’t recall saying that.
I keed! I keed! 
Thanks.
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t, eh?
Good luck to you as you go forward!
Really?
The targets of hurtful comments have been more hurt and maybe are more skeptical and slower to forgive than those who have not been the targets blows your mind?
Recognizing that you’ve been an ass and trying to atone is A Good Thing. As someone who has not been very impacted by his past behaviors I can recognize that. And I can (and btw do) wish him and his beloved a good path forward with that as a start. It is however not my place to grant or to withhold forgiveness or to define what would or should earn it.
It’s also worth noting that sincere apologies and genuine atonement do not require forgiveness from the aggrieved parties (nor does forgiveness require the offender to repent). Repentance and forgiveness are obviously linked but do not impose burdens on one another.
I concur, on all points. I wish him well in his journey, but the start is a little shaky.
Any major change typically has a “shaky start” — by the very definition of change meaning a change from one’s recent history. ‘Personal inertia’, if I can call it that, can hinder one’s attempts to change. Especially early attempts. But eventually a new trajectory is defined, and let’s hope those trajectories are dramatically different.
Say, Shagnasty, what about your promise to the He-Man Woman-Haters Club?
Rather. Starting out with saying he wasn’t wrong, just nasty about being right? :rolleyes:
No, what blows her mind isn’t that the male posters in this thread are less skeptical and quicker to forgive. It’s the male posters who say they don’t even remember Shagnasty having said anything objectionable in the first place.
“I’m not sorry for the things I said, just the way I said them.” Rather limited scope to this apology.