I'm getting married!

I’m finally allowed to tell - we were keeping a lid on it until we could tell both sets of parents in person, which means I only told my mom, all my coworkers, and my massage therapist. (Hey, I pledged them to secrecy!) I told my mom it was imperative she didn’t tell Dad, and I entirely expected her to not be able to make it a whole week (we intended to do it a few weeks from now at a party, but it became clear that I’d have gotten through my whole contact list and possibly put it on the news between now and then) and she did moan and complain about it, but when we told him he coughed and said, “Do what?” so I think she actually managed it. :slight_smile:

Mom has counted up 230 people she just absolutely has to invite, so we’re scrambling to find venues that I like that will accommodate all these damned people - I refuse to do it in some conference center hotel looking thing, she just suggested the country club that suspiciously doesn’t have any black members, I asked about the art museum… it’s a thing.

Anyway, whew. I feel good about it!

Congratulations! Planning a wedding is the first big test of any relationship :wink:

I’m so very happy for you!!! Wishing you many many years of happiness!!

Wow, Zsofia, what terrific news! I’m very happy for you and wish you and the lucky guy many blissful years together, and a trouble-free wedding planning period. :slight_smile:

And while I appreciate everybody’s advice earlier telling me not to get all attached to Rebound Guy, I’m glad I ignored it. :slight_smile:

Congrats!!!

Vis-a-vis wedding planning, just remember that decline rates are around 30-40%, depending on the time of year and how many people have to travel from out of town (most of my invites were out of town and my declines were close to 50%). So if your mom really has 200 people she plans to invite, you can expect from 100-150 of those to show up.

Also, think very long and very hard before agreeing to a 300+ person wedding. Assuming you spend 1 minute speaking to each person, that will consume 5 hours of your reception, without getting to sit down with anyone and chat, or eat, or dance. Venues that can hold that many are usually boring and expensive, and the food tends to be bad because it just isn’t possible to plate 300 plates of hot food at once.

JMHO of course.

Sometimes being wrong is the best :slight_smile:

Unless you’ve driven cross country together. If you’re still friends after spending a week in the car together, then maybe you can think about popping the question :slight_smile:

Congratulations to you both!

May Heaven’s Finest Blessings, Shower Down Upon You Both!

Congratulations, Zsofia! Wonderful news.

Congratulations! I married my rebound guy. I met him about two weeks after I’d broken up with my fiance. We recently celebrated our 12th anniversary. I wish you a lifetime of happiness together!

Yeah, it’s just a problem all around. The thing is, I have a big family, plus my parents are very involved at the church (and I know most of those people very well - I grew up in their church too). We can’t figure out who to not invite, because not inviting whole classes of people would make all kinds of trouble - for example, if we didn’t invite cousins, I’d still want to invite the three or four cousins I’m close to. And then the other ones would be hurt.

I’d say “hopefully they won’t come”, as it’s out of town for many of them, but a lot of people will come out of respect to my dad, who’s done a lot for a lot of people. (If you really want to show some respect, stay home and don’t cost us any money!) It’s also very one-sided - my [del]boyfriend[/del] fiance has all of 39 people he wants to invite, and my personal guests are, I dunno, maybe 30 of my mom’s total. As it stands with no additions I foresee us inviting about 270.

Congratulations!

If there is a rebound brother, please give him my email address :wink:

<3

Just pointing out the advantage to getting married in a hotel…no one has to worry about driving home after the reception. We got so many compliments on that aspect. We had the ceremony and reception in the same hotel and many of our guests stayed there so it really maximized our time with everyone. We originally looked at other none hotel venues but found that they were too expensive and not super easy to deal with.

My other advice would be to take your time. I felt so rushed through a lot of decisions by family and friends and I would have liked to have some time just to enjoy being engaged and really taking the time to enjoy each decision.

Good luck! and Congrats!

Or seen each other with stomach flu.

My husband was Rebound Guy and I was his Rebound Girl. Maybe there’s something to this…

Best wishes!

(C’mon, people, has no one read Miss Manners? The groom gets congratulations, the bride gets best wishes.)

And congrats to Rebound Guy! :wink:

Congratulations :).

Congrats!

Really? I can’t help but read it like this:

To the groom: Yay, you got a woman!

To the bride: Good luck dealing with him!

:confused::smiley:

Congratulations and best wishes to you both!

Well, I was raised to say “felicitations”. :slight_smile: