Yes. Though it makes me feel a tiny bit better that penile-vaginal intercourse isn’t the most frequent method of spreading HIV. Nor are hookers in some areas, though it does raise the risk in hetero sex.
:: whimpers ::
If it’s any consolation, CitizenPained, when I broke up with ‘the love of my life’ back in '97 there was a lot of ‘crossover’ between me and her new guy (and I suspect there may have been others involved too in the few months while our relationship went into the shitter). One day she called me and said that the new guy had been somewhat irresponsible in the recent past, so I should get tested. We went together to the clinic as she was getting tested too… and I was grateful to spend two hours with her (I wised up eventually). Thankfully I got the all clear. That was pretty much rock-bottom for my emotional life, and everything has been uphill from there ever since.
Ugh. You’re earning your name today! Do you have a load of break-up songs going through your head? If not, listen to some - they can kinda help, with either misery loving company, them being suitably angry or just them being a little too over-the-top and making you laugh.
I recommend I hate you so much right now. It’s raargh! which is awesome. And I don’t even like that genre of music. (I can’teven name that genre of music).
Or try the Buffy version.. Better sound quality.
I’m glad you went to get tested with him - sounds like you got more info that you do actually need.
And now your last in-person memory of him can be seeing him being guilty and talking about hookers while being tested for an STD. 
The smiley is because, while in the long-term it’s good to remember the positive aspects of a relationship, in the short term it can really help to be reminded of their failings, at least when they’re the one who broke up with you.
Well, if you were aware that someone was sleeping with loads of random people in bars who also have sex with loads of randoms in bars then you might also be extra wary of having sex with them without a condom.
Thanks, SciFiSam. The best ‘breakup’ type stuff I have right now is Adele and Regina Spektor and they are most certainly not helping me hate him.
He’s currently online and agreed to answer my non judgmental clinic-y qs. I was hoping he’d say he had sex in a brothel elsewhere in Nevada, but no, Vegas. As in, the city with 5,000 HIV cases in 2004. I’m not sure how worried I am about HIV right now - chances are pretty friggin low - but the mental/emotional aspect of this is something else.
I have SERIOUS opinions about the sex trade and this whole thing is f’ing with my head.
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I recommend I hate you so much right now. It’s raargh! which is awesome. And I don’t even like that genre of music. (I can’teven name that genre of music).
HipHopFusion
CitizenPained, i am so very sorry you had this happen to you.
This kind of crap happens, and remarkably, we actually recover from if we want to.
You need to decide what you want to do next.
This guy sounds like way beneath you. Honestly, I think you should kick him to the curb. We can all tell how intelligent you are by your posts here. You have quality, you have intelligence, and I bet you have beauty as well.
I wish the very best on what happens.
It looks like it’s a go. I’m on the Chattanooga to Manchester leg.
StG
Is this for the dog rescue thread?
Sorry, it’s the wrong thread.
StG
I reported it to be moved.
If that’s the case, I’m a little confused as to the level of vitriol against the guy.
I was for many years a subscriber to HBO, and thus I am under the impression that no Vegas prostitute would do this.
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Can you sue people for giving you STDs?
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Yes, you can. We had to read a case for school about a person who successfully sued her partner for giving her herpes.
How to effectively punch someone in the face? Need answer fast.
I know you all want an update. I had a positive pregnancy test and the doc is suspecting an ectopic re: nothing on the ultrasound and the Chlamydia infection. I’ve been in constant pain, ER twice, yadda yadda. In the meantime, Shit Head tried to be supportive and we got back together. We were almost normal, even with the hospitals and stuff. I was forgiving him. Everything was OK again. He was being REALLY nice.
He just dumped me on the phone. He got frustrated and said, “Yeah, I’m checking out. Checking the FUCK OUT NOW.” I was explaining my fears about everything and how sad/panicked I was and he just couldn’t handle it, I guess. Don’t get me wrong - he’s been pretty supportive and amazing and helpful. But I guess missing a kung fu lesson or possible skiing trip to help with this pregnant girlfriend (who’s being monitored for a potentially life threatening condition) is just too much.
He’s en route to say it in person and then “it’s all business from there” (eg, the abortion or whatever). His words, not mine.
My face is very puffy from crying.
So I’d like to know how to punch him in the face and break his nose. It’s Jewwy and large, so I don’t anticipate missing my target.
thoughts?
1- wtf were you thinking getting back together with him?
2- how can you seriously talk about how amazing and supportive and helpful he’s been? Do you have amnesia?
3- a “Jewwy” nose? A “JEWWY” NOSE??? What the FUCK, woman???
She’s Jewish too so she kind of gets a pass. A little attempt at levity, I guess.
Don’t take out your anger on him, instead, figure out why you’re letting this scumbag have complete and total control of your life. As we’re all replying, you’re probably sobbing in his arms, playing right into what he wants.
You’re better than that.
One quick question though: when you “got back together” did you let him fuck you again? Because if so, I don’t even know what to say.
That would be my question as well…
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I’m an idiot in love? I don’t know. No, he was pretty nice and wonderful. I mean, he was making up for his mistakes, but he doesn’t get extra credit for it. No, we’re not sleeping together. He did do a full STD testing round but I wasn’t ready yet.
I’m an idiot. And a pregnant one. He did go to the ER with me 3 times and help with Little CP and was overall wonderful.
I didn’t hit him. I did cry and yell a little, but then he cried too and I’m a mess. Oh, and I have to be up in 2.5 hours for work. 
We are definitely broken up. And now I get to go through an abortion by myself. I’m scared as hell and I will have to take the pill to do it at home (I’ve heard horror stories) because I have no one to drive me home and they make you have a person for that and I’d rather have the outpatient surgical one. I had a friend who did the abortion pill at home and it took her over a week - days of cramping and screaming in pain, an infection… <shudder>
The docs also think this is tubal, so I suppose I’ll get a shot of methotrexate and cramp/cry at home if that’s the case. All in all, it sucks.
Since he 200 per cent doesn’t want a child, I believe he’s footing that bill. I’m freaked out about the bill for tomorrow’s bloodwork and post ER checkup. I can’t afford that.
Wait a minute. This guy lies about sleeping with a hooker, gives you an STD and you got back together with him?
… unbelievable.
As tempting as it is to be judgemental here, I think we can all appreciate that CitizenPained is going through an immensely difficult time in her life. Now is not the time to judge, she could really use some support as she goes through this.
CitizenPained, I’m so sorry that you have to go through all this. Please continue to post and let us know how you are getting on.
If he’s adamant about not wanting the child, and you both agree that an abortion is the way you should go, then he should be driving you home from the clinic. You really want to mess around with a DIY option when you’ve potentially got an ectopic pregnancy going on?