Okay, got me there, some people get pissed if their SO talks to someone else. How about I amend that to say, If you don’t have to take off any clothes it’s not sex, even if it pisses off you SO.
One of us has this backwards, lizard. I do not have to love a girl to have sex with her. But if she wants me to go down on her… I would have to love her before I did that. Now her going down on me is different!! 
So, does that mean that hanging out in a nudist colony is sex?
OK, now I’m just being a pain in the ass.
quote: Kissing is sex?
Eminem thought so!!!
Since when do you have to take off your clothes to get a blowjob? Don’t your pants have a fly?
To the OP: Yes, it’s sex. However, when someone asks me how many women I’ve had sex with, blowjobs are not factored in.
To Osip: I was thinking the same thing.
“Try not to suck anyone’s dick on your way out of the parking lot”
I have entered the tabulation criteria into my computer and it is currently working over my vast personal data base of sexual instances.
I should have an answer in… oh, 'bout an hour and a half.
As an aside, who cares? It fucking feels good. Why worry about categorizing it.
If a perfume smells good, it smells good. I don’t care what it’s called.
If what I’m eating tastes god, who cares what the chef calls it.
My $.02.
I call it pseudosex.
You, know, this very question has been bothering me for some time. You see, my first sexual experience was oral (a Finnish tourist in a Venice youth-hostel bathroom - long story) while my first full, standard sex was two months later, with a different girl (an ex-girlfriend of two of my beat friends - even longer story). I’ve always wondered when, exactly, I lost my virginity - especially because I lost it at an embaressingly late age, and becaus my “list” was cut off almost immediately by my relationship with the future Mrs. Alessan. Hnn. I think I’ll keep on following this thread until I reach a conclusion.
Of course oral sex is sex, hence the name. It’s also my favorite kind of sex.
If you’ve just had the appetizer, you’ve still eaten. Maybe not enough to satisfy, but that’s another issue.
Look out the window, folks, the Millenium can’t be far behind, I am agreeing with DtL!!! 
Originally posted by Lanna
[Teenagers today seem to look at oral sex pretty casually. At parties, conversations my friends have go something like, “Hey. Nice to meet you. Mind if I give you a blow job?” Occasionally, they bother to get the other person’s name first. -Lanna
Lanna, I foresee a great future for your friends, working as greeters at Wal-Mart. Just let me know their store assignment, please.
This would be the White House intern program?
Several of you maintain that oral sex is sex simply because of the name. That means that a sex change operation must also be sex, for god’s sakes it’s the first word in the phrase. :rolleyes:
Progressing into utter lunacy, a “blow job” is not sex because it does not contain the word “sex”, neither is cunnilingus, rimming, frottage, masturbation, group masturbation (doing yourself in the presence of another person) and mutual masturbation (doing each other) since none of them contain the s-word.
You didn’t answer your own question; perhaps it was rhetorical but you seem to be implying that anything you do with another person that can cause you to become infected or diseased is a sexual act. In that case I must be a world class slut because I’m sure I’ve caught dozens of colds from shaking hands over the years.
My puh-leeze meter is pegging into the red right now.
I’d consider it foreplay if it’s simply used for arousal purposes. If I come though, then it’s sex.
Opus said "What’s in a name?
Several of you maintain that oral sex is sex simply because of the name. That means that a sex change operation must also be sex, for god’s sakes it’s the first word in the phrase"
Allow me to introduce the concept of an adjective to you. In this case, “oral” is an adjective modifying the word “sex”…Much like in the phrase “blue shirt”, “blue” modifies “shirt”…it’s still a shirt
Of course oral sex is a sex act. If someone wants to be cute and think that it is not as “intimate” as other sex acts…that’s their silly perogative.
Your example of sex change operation, of course, is a silly comparison…
We talked about this before. As I said, ask a hundred people what ‘sex’ is, get a hundred answers. So it’s not really a fair question.
‘Sex’ in the dictionary is the sharing of genetic material, in that case, maybe oral sex would count. For the purpose of safely, since you can get a few sexual diseases from oral sex, I would say it indeed counts as sex when someone asks if you are having sex with anyone else.
Emotionally, it counts too because you can’t look at the person the same anymore.
A better way to word it would be: If the act is simply meant as a way to arouse me/my partner before moving on to something else, then I’d consider it foreplay. If the act is being performed for the purpose of causing climax, I’d consider it sex.
Yes, I’d be pissed to find my SO doing it on someone who’s not me.
No, it’s not bona fide sex if you’re notching your bedposts.
Yes, I want to go to Lanna’s parties.
No, I won’t notch my bedposts afterwards.
That’s not necessarily true. Oral sex is a sexual act, but IMO its just not sex. If my partner was in some way physically involved with someone else in a sexual manner, I would be pissed. Especially if I wasn’t invited.
I can just see it now…
“Welcome to Wal*Mart! How are you today? We’re having a sale on aisle 4, yarn is in a bin up front, 50% off, and our food court is making especially delicious lunches today. Is there anything I can help you with? Finding a certain item? A blow job, perhaps? Just let me know!”
-Lanna