Inspired by the “One of THOSE compliments” thread over in MPSIMS.
I have, as the pictures of the first LA Dopefest confirm, straight, longish (not as long as I’d like) straight, auburn straight hair. Over the years, I’ve had an unaccountable number of people tell me that I “should” get a perm. Well, in the early '80s, it was “You should get your hair feathered.” Ugh! If someone reading this is unfamiliar with the style of feathered hair, you’re lucky. I don’t regret not giving in to that.
But I’ve also had people warn me off straight hair on the grounds that “it drags your face down”. I’m not sure about that, and what I am sure about is that perms, which I have had in the past, make me look insipid. I think naturally straight hair has a good look, sort of waifish, or schoolgirl-like. I admit that hair that’s been ironed or chemically straightened tends to lack bounce, but that doesn’t apply here. (I’ve had numerous people show me photos from circa 1969 and say, “Don’t they look awful?” First of all, no; if they look awful it’s because they’re not smiling, and secondly, just because someone else arguably looked bad with straight hair doesn’t mean I do.)
I think the mindset here is that a female has to “do something” with her hair to show that she “cares how she looks”. When I do “do something” with my hair, I pull it back at the crown with a barette, or put it in a bun. Both look good, in my and other peoples’ opinions (the ones who don’t think that a female is incomplete without a perm).
So is a female with long straight hair unfashionable? I’ve just heard it so many times. But there are many female Dopers who look outstanding with same. And I do care how I look; if I didn’t, I wouldn’t color my hair.