Supposing I ask a girl to have lunch with me. She is unattached romantically and so am I. We used to work together for the same organisation but she has since left, though she frequently hangs out on Friday night with my work crew (all of whom she knows, having worked with them) when we go out for drinks/dinner. So, I know her quite well and we get along fine. I have studiously avoided showing her any sign of my interest in her. Do not ask why as there is no sensible explanation. There have been some signs that she may be interested in me but nothing definite (though, being a dude, I am prone to missing really obvious stuff in this department).
My question is would a request to join me for lunch on a weekday (we both work in the city) be construed as a move on her? I guess I would like to get to know her a little more (even though I already know her fairly well) and spend time with her when there aren’t any other people around which might get her thinking I am interested in her but not be too overt about. Alternatively, would I be better off putting us both out of our misery and asking her on a bona fide date? That way, she’s either in or out but the agony is not prolonged.
Man, I am seriously over-thinking this.