Happy birthday, ems! Tugig, tell your vehicles to stop combusting. I mean, seriously.
So, the Alzheimer’s was strong with Dad last night. Mom got home late, having wrapped up for four days off (she has a very weird schedule). After we’d gone to bed, and just as I was drifting off to that warm fuzzy land of sleep, Dad comes up the stairs, makes a racket with the dog gate, comes into our room without knocking, and turns on the light.
Then, he sits down in the chair on Mom’s side of the bed and proceeds to tell her that he’s in Hell, that she hates him, that all he wants to do is leave and he can’t even do that, and he doesn’t understand what he did to her to make her torture him so. He’s thought about killing himself. He was a good husband. Why do we hate him so much? Blah blah blah blah blah. And I’m there for all of it, ready to stove his head in so I can just go the hell back to sleep.
Poor Mom can only say every 90 seconds or so, “I’m very tired. We will talk about this in the morning.” Finally, she shuts up completely. I’m hoping she’s at least gone back to sleep. It takes Dad ten more minutes to get the hint, finally give up, and go back downstairs. Then, knowing that if he’s going to do anything foolish (hey, if anyone’s going to stove his head in, it’ll be me, thank you very much), I stay up for another thirty minutes, listening for movement downstairs.
sigh
And really, all this is about is the fact that he can’t drive and he doesn’t get to carry an ATM card anymore. He’s in real pain. I understand this. He’s doing the best he can. I understand this as well. But there is no reasoning with him. There is no reassuring him. There is no explaining that at 84, he’s just as likely to lose abilities as he is to keep them. There is no making him happy. I wish it were otherwise.
What I can do something about is prep for my trip, and I’m really looking forward to it. (My feet and ankles were bugging me. I told them "Look, bitches, I will duct tape you, but you are going to take me to Dallas.)