Well I broke up with my girlfriend… I told her I didn’t love her enough and also according to some people on the internet I didn’t deserve her. So now I don’t have to worry about offending her… I’m not sure if I’ll audition… I’m free on that day though…
I’d go for it. What else do you have to lose?
To comment on the underlined part of your post: That shouldn’t have been offered as an explanation for why you’re breaking up with your girlfriend. It has no bearing on your relationship. If you don’t love her, then okay, that’s enough, that’s really all there is to it. I don’t recall anyone on the board explicitly stating that you didn’t deserve her, but even if people did it shouldn’t matter, and it wasn’t right to hold this up as a support for your break up. :mad:
That’s $AU900, not $US900.
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I stand by my use of people like that to support my decision.
What we’re saying, John, is that’s not a good thing to tell your girlfriend.
When people are examining their relationships. they often seek advice from other people (whether they’re strangers on the internet or close friends) and that will often help them make up their mind. But it is not appropriate to tell the other person that the reason you are breaking up with them is because of what other people have said.
That is a potentially very confusing message to give your girlfriend. She may now be wondering whether you really wanted to break up with her or whether you didn’t want to, but felt forced to based on feedback from other people.
It was a secondary reason.
Her brother talked to my mum. It seems like they got the message that I thought “she was too good for me” and they thought that was at least a bit nice.
BTW I don’t think I’ll audition for Beauty and the Geek. If I did it would be a sign I’m not well (in the head).
My mum strongly suggested I send a message that included an apology and this one was approved by her.
“Sorry 4 hurting u. I hope we can be friends oneday if thats ok with u”
“Leave me alone from S” [her full name not her nickname]
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No, it doesn’t always hit you the second you lay eyes on someone. But by the time you’re actually, you know, in a romantic relationship it really ought to have. If you’re not thinking wow by the time you’re calling someone your boyfriend or girlfriend, you’re quite frankly never going to think it.
“Leave me alone from (name)”? Who the hell writes an SMS and adds ‘from (name)’ in there?
What are you guys, 12? And, “Sorry 4 hurting u”? Is is that hard to type ‘for’ or ‘you’ when you’re supposedly proffering an apology? What’s the real message? “Sorry 4 hurting u but btw ur not worth the time it’d take for 4 extra characters of text”?
Both of you are socially and emotionally retarded. You should stay together, and keep all the stupid in one convenient location.
Well dayum! I have my own critical opinion about how JohnClay handled the relationship and breakup, but I think it’s a bit much to ream him for the text lingo on his, you know, text message to his ex.
I personally try to type the words out over text message, but you’re going to far if you think typing “4” and “u” equals “you’re not worth the effort and I’m an emotional retard”. Frankly, this ain’t a hill worth defending (substitute: “barren crater” for “hill” and “being an ass over” for “defending”).
The “friends” thing is one of the biggest insults you can give someone after you’ve broken up with them, in my opinion. It generally means, or will be taken by the receiver to mean, “I expect you to forget that I was a jerk to you and make yourself available as my doormat in future.” “Leave me alone” was quite a mild response on her part.
Golly! This story just gets crazier and crazier! I can’t wait to hear what happens next!
This is so the anti pajama pants girl wearing story.
Yes, if all things are equal, but one person’s 4 might be a another person’s 7. When I step back and look objectively at my SO, he’s pretty ordinary looking, but I loves me some thin, brown haired, nerdy men so he’s a 9 to me.
I agree.
I might also suggest that someone who has been diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder would do better to get advice on his or her interpersonal relationships from a mental health counselor—specifically one who knows you, understands your baseline functioning, and can help you set reasonable and measurable goals for relating to others—than from strangers on the internet.
lorene:
I’ve asked mental health counsellors though they usually say it is up to me to make the decision.
I’m missing her a lot now for the first time. A counsellor I talked to after the breakup said that I could have just suggested a trial separation but it’s too late now.
Now THAT sounds interesting. Any chance of a link?
Yup. It’s about a guy who meets this girl, she wears pjs to school and maybe she likes him, maybe not, but she’s so adorable, and…yeah.
http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=111990
Actually, that’s the date thread, I can’t find the original one.
http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=116085&highlight=pajama+pants
This is the “Maybe the PJ pants guy is lying thread.”