I went to a women’s college. 
Wow, it was totally appropriate! I had no idea it was misplaced; I thought it was a good observation.
For some reason, I keep hearing your posts in this thread in the delivery of Dr. Cox from Scrubs. Oddly, it works. And it would…uh…work on me in person ifyouknowotImean.
Barking up the wrong tree, man. You gotta find a nice new giggly batch of fluffy bunny pagans and spend Beltane with them. They’ll all be so busy running away from lines like johnny hempseed’s that they’ll think you’re the coolest thing since the Great Rite. Plus, there’s the whole women empowerment Goddess vibe working in your favor. Just watch out for the big biker guys wearing rabbit skins and carrying axes and mead.
I wish I had gone to a women’s college! 
It’s so hard to say, because different women are looking for different things. It’s going to depend on many factors, including but not limited to her age, her relationship history, and her immediate emotional state.
There are a few things to remember which cross all those lines, though, and none of them will get you into any trouble: Be interested, but not too interested. People (men and women both) can smell desperation from a mile away. Have a good time. Smile. Have something memorable to say about yourself. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
Overall, if you have any sort of intution, you’ll be able to tell who is interested and who’s not into you, and that also helps. And I agree with most of the posts in this thread so far.
Well, there was definately a lot of pussy available! There are times when I quite sincerely wish I’d been able to pull a LUG (lesbian until graduation) like many of my classmates. (I’ve also heard the term hasbien, which was not in use at my alma mater but which is much cuter.)
The three-second rule works like friggen’ clockwork.
For the uninitiated: Regardless of social setting, the minute you make eye contact with a woman, you have to go up an strike up a conversation within three seconds. Any longer time you spend fiddling with your drink or talking with your mates while looking her way just makes you look like an insecure wimp. Being able to walk over immediately and strike up a conversation tells her a) you find her attractive, b) you are confident and sure of yourself, and c) you know what you want and go after it.
Points a) b) and c) just happen to particularly tweak the sexiness scale for most women. Now, I am not in running for the role of James Bond anytime soon - I’m relatively short (approx. 5’7"), about 10-15lbs overweight, and not really in the ‘good looking’ territory, even in the ’ rugged good looks’ area’. And this technique didnt’ turn me into Barry Bonds - it’s not like I hit every pitch. But my god, my batting average was way, way, way above average. To the point where I stopped using it, because catching fish in a barrel just wasn’t fun anymore. Women - self-confidence in a man is an obvious aphrodisiac; it’s why you always end up having your heart broken by 26-year old traders…
I find this approach incredibly threatening and awful. It will absolutely not get me into bed ever. I much prefer about 10 minutes of shared glances, perhaps a smile or two with a raised eyebrow - enough to let me know he’s interested, but also that he’s patient and considerate enough to be gentle with me. Plus, I like teases and I like to tease, within clearly defined boundaries. (I never cock-tease, but if I’ve already determined I’m going to sleep with you, I may act as if I might not for a while just to keep you guessing.) A cute guy who’s been catching my eye and smiling for a bit before he casually wanders by “on his way somewhere” (bar, restroom, buffet) and whispers something charming into my ear (because we’re been making eye contact, so he “knows” me already, see?) is far more likely to receive a welcome than a suave brute. I guess I’m a jumpy gazelle, easier to win to the bridle with gentle slow advances than a quick rope.
But even there, yes, confidence is key. Be confident that you don’t have to mark me as your territory immediately, confident that your smile from across the room is enough to interest me, and that makes you much, much more attractive.
Just goes to show, there’s all kinds of women who respond to all different kinds of approaches. So the answer isn’t to find out what works for someone else, it’s to cultivate the style that works for you.
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In my case, I did be that 1 in 10 during many college parties; in most of them, I got asked to “go to the car”. But I never went. These are the ways those guys screwed up what should have been a real easy deal:
One had been flirting with me all through dinner, then dissapeared. Turns out he’d gone to ask Mr Daniels for help. Dude, you’re so drunk you can barely talk, I’m not going to get in a car with you, even though the car isn’t supposed to get driven.
The rest (and yes, it was quite a plural “rest”) received the answer “OK, got rubbers?” “Uh? Rubbers? Hell no, I don’t use no rubbers!” “Oh. Oh, then sorry, no.”
If the girl asks “your rubbers or mine”, the right answer is “mine”.
But it’s still good to urinate on your leg, isn’t it? I mean, it shows willingness to make the gesture. 
Only if I request golden showers!
Maybe that works, but it would come under the heading of what I would consider “dishonest.” Not only are you dissembling your attraction to Attractive Girl, but, far worse, you’re getting Homely Friend’s hopes up for nothing – how’s she going to feel when she gets blown off?
Hence (and I’ll repeat) I wouldn’t try this at home. I’m offering it as an illustration of the claimed success of Pick Up Artists (yes, this is actually how they refer to themselves) and why it wouldn’t apply to someone who is either unwilling to use this kind of exploit, or wants more (even an extended casual relationship) than a one-night stand.
However (and I’ll point this out again) in the beginning of every relationship, however casual, there’s always a level of restraint about disclosure, and for most people, a certain amount of hyperbole or deception regarding what you want. Walking up to a girl and telling her that she’s the most beautiful girl you’ve seen tonight is going to get you the Creep Walk. And I daresay that there’s always a certain amount of manipulation; WhyNot’s remark (“I like teases and I like to tease, within clearly defined boundaries,”) is an honest self-observation about the reproductive gamesmanship that evolution has built into all of us. And regardless whether your purpose is reproduction or recreation, your choice as to whether to purse/accept an intimate encounter with someone else has a signficant, if often twisted, component of evaluating the person for reproductive fitness, even in homosexual relationships.
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As a girl who did her share of picking up, I would suggest that the right way to get picked up by a girl is to first of all dress appropriately and non-sleazy, no cheap button-downs untucked over loose jeans- a polo or rugby shirt looks nice, as do jeans that FIT. No jewelry. Be ready to dive into a conversation at a moment’s notice. Go with a group and have legitimate fun with the guys, but also find ways to get away, divorce yourself from the group and linger at the bar getting another drink. I would pay much more attention to the guys having fun in groups than I would the lonely ones sitting at the bar by themselves- they just look… more FUN. I also won’t try to hook-up with someone who looks like he’s only there to hook-up. That’s a turn-off. That being said, if you’re alone and at least DOING something, it’s better than being alone and bent over like a felled log, absorbed in your depression/drink. I don’t think I ever approached someone like that. They look scary.
That being said, sometimes I’d pick the right guy and wait for him to say something to me. Girls will be very subtle about this, so you have to pay attention. But they’ll watch, if you sit down close, they’ll fidget or play with an empty drink (a nice trick some of us girls use is to buy one drink and play with the empty glass for a while- it’s like an invitation for you to ask to buy us another one- but don’t ask before we already have talked for a couple minutes- asking sort of obligates the girl to have a conversation, so some are shy to accept until they know you can keep their interest). Look for the ones dressed nice but not whorish- the actual girls looking to pick a guy up are going to want to be somewhat choosy- they don’t want every man and their dumbass brother hitting on them with bad breath. Also, girls trying to pick up men know what they want and are willing to go after it- so, they’ll be a little more confident and won’t need to build up fake confidence by wearing slutty clothing. The right girls will also not be falling all over themselves drunk- they’ll, again, have a couple drinks but look like they’re waiting for something… they’re waiting for you…
Okay, that being said, the best seduction technique in the WORLD for women is to watch a twosome… let some other guy hit on one of the girls… the other one, left alone, will be bored out of her skull. THIS HAPPENS TO ME AND MY FRIENDS ALL THE TIME Going up to the bored one and cracking a joke or two, or asking her if she wants to go play a game of pool or something while her friend is otherwise occupied (be tongue-in-cheek and funny) will be taken in SUCH an appreciative light that, even if you’re not her type, your observant nature and role as a stress-reliever will give you a better shot at her.
Oh, and also, I have never taken a man back to my place. I don’t like bringing in strangers. If you can’t offer her your place in which to screw, you’ll have much lowered odds.
Of course, this is all predicated on the assumption that you’ll be in a relatively small bar, and can keep an eye on the social and personal dynamics of the girls milling around. None of this works in clubs or overly loud, overly crowded bars.
Girls looking to pick someone up will also NOT go to overly loud, overly crowded bars. I will NOT go home with someone if the music is such that it prevents any and all conversation whatsoever.
Ooh! Two good points in one! I totally agree with these two tips.
Pretty please, pay up and be one of us! (One of us…one of us…)
Huh. I don’t get that, it’s desperation blitzkrieg style. I just think it sounds like a recipe for getting tasered.
- Make mutual eye contact. She will look away.
- Now you pretend to be busy with your boys, let her look back and check you out on her own time. Try to look like, Oh my what a clever bon mot my friend just said, watch me tilt my head back and give a throaty, manly laugh.
- If she likes what she sees, you can lock eyes again and you’ll get the eye fuck.
- Now you’re clear for approach if she’s alone, or clear to wander off alone and sit at the bar or play with the jukebox.
If 3 doesn’t happen, she doesn’t want any. Move on to the next.