Yes, it is a mistake, and no, don’t do it. Dragging it out with workaround sneaky ways to figger out if you like each other is what has gotten you into this position to start with. Don’t prolong it.
I feel like I’m in the middle of a “How do you keep an idiot in suspense” joke. If a TV show was stringing me along like this, I’d be writing angry letters to the producers!! Aigh! This is better than a soap opera!
You’re not making this up, are you?
** Real Bad Idea ! ** The other girl thing! Call her NOW!
DON’T WAIT UNTILL SHE WAKES UP ! Tell her you love her now and have loved her since time began and that the only thing that has kept you away is your silly fear of rejection.
Tell her that and find out where you stand! Not knowing is not good for your psychy in matters of the heart!
If you hit the snooze button one more time on telling this girl you like her, I’m going to stroke out.
Tibs.
In the name of all that’s round, bready and covered in tomato sauce, pepperoni and mozzarella - TELL HER NOW!
Or I will find you, and when I find you, I will kill you.
Thank you.
(and don’t do the other girl thing. In the name of beer, don’t do that.)
Geeze and I thought I was tentative and overintellectualized things…ARE YOU TRYING TO KILL US !!! JUST DO IT AND SOON !!! DO YOU WANT ALL OF US TO COME TO YOUR PLACE!!! Sorry…just got a little overwrought there… at worst you will still have a very good friend and at best…well true happiness…so all I have to say is…good luck. 
Keith
Obviously I wouldn’t really kill you, but I would be UNBELIEVABLY CROSS
Nah… don’t do it.
OK, just kicking in a little dissent here…
DO IT!! DO IT NOW!!!
You are killing us, man! Can’t you see that?
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The above was brought to you by brachy’s head hitting the keyboard.
Tell her NOW. Thank you.
Are you on the phone yet? Wake her up! And if she says yes then you are in for the best day of your life! Don’t fret about a little lost sleep. Hell if she does have feelings for you she is probably lying on her bed cring into her pillow right now cause she don’t want you to see her with tear reddened eyes.
THE IRON IS HOT! STRIKE!
Come on man! Feel the RAIN!
Right.
Any Dopers within driving distance? I want you to track down Nicklz, drag him bodily to this girl’s house (or wherever she is at the time), and hold a gun to his head until he tells her.
It’s for your own good, man.
Screw that! I’m thinking about getting on a plane right now!
Tell her, dude! Don’t make us have to come and smack you around! We’ll do it! Don’t think we won’t!
We have nothing to fear but fear itself!
FDR
Four score and seven years ago…
Lincoln
I have a dream!
MLK
Me? I don’t mean anything!
Ford Prefect
Huh?
Me
Endless quotes applicable…
DO IT!
Unless you are in third grade, there is no way on earth that it’s appropriate or effective to go through someone else to declare your feelings for this girl. Gah! I’m with the others-- this thread is kiling me. Confidence, man! It’s the number one quality that can attract a member of the opposite sex, so get some and talk to her already!
And please, please, please don’t put any qualifications on what you say (i.e., no “If you don’t feel the same way, I totally understand” or whatevers). Just say what you have to say and let her respond. And also, tell us all immediately what happens. This is how it should go down:
YOU: “I realized that you are everything I could want in a girlfriend. Please go on a date with me Friday night.”
HER: “I thought you’d never ask! Let’s make it Thursday night!”
YOU: “Yippee! Gotta run, see you Thursday!”
Then you immediately go home and post what happened.
[sup]Y’know, we’re all gonna feel lower than chihuahua crap if she says no…[/sup]
JR8 and ASTROBOY—that might just be what it takes,gun and all.
I have to run erands and stuff. Then I’m stopping at her house, and we will see what happens. I really am sorry to keep you guys hangin because without your support and advice I wouldn’t have been able to get this far. Anyhow I will post at sometime before 11:00pm (alot sooner if it doesn’t go well, if all goes well I’ll probably be with her right up untill 10 or so) Because I have work then so I have to come home and get ready for the graveyard shift.
Please don’t think I’m some stupid dork or anything (although if you do it’s completely understandable)
Well I’m out I’ll fill every one in when I get back
NO SH!T JR8
No we aren’t.
Because even if she does, it’s better to know. And it’s good to be brave.
We would feel lower than the roundworms in chihuahua crap if: We’d said not to tell her, and it then turned out that she loved him; but because he never said, she got so heatbroken that she went off and joined the circus.
That hasn’t happened, and it isn’t going to happen.
I’m with Tansu. TRUST ME, it is better to know, and possibly be hurt, than sit around and wonder “what if” forever. Been there, done that.
Now go for it, dammit!
And for god’s sakes, stop waiting for the conditions to be perfect. I don’t care whether it’s noisy, tense, dark, smelly, the ions in the air don’t feel right, or the pH of the soil you’re standing on seems unconducive to love. DO IT!
Dammit Nicklz!
Email me. Give me her number. I’ll call her and tell her you love her.
Christ, if you can’t tell her, then send her a card in the mail or something (and not an ambiguous declaration of love like one friend to another, but an all-out I’m in love with you card leaving no room for misinterpretation.)
And send it in overnight mail. With flowers (well, don’t mail the flowers, but you know what I mean).
If you haven’t told her by the time I go on vacation (this Friday) I’m getting a posse together and we’ll drag you to her place, make you tell her right then and there, and then beat you mercilessly for putting us through this.
Don’t play games hinting at another woman. Tell her. Be honest, be sincere. You don’t want to wonder ‘what if’ the rest of your life. TELL HER.
I hope you tell her how you feel.
Love is a gift that doesn’t demand love in return, even though it’s great if it is. If she doesn’t see you as more than a friend, she might soon. If you love her, stay within reach. Don’t play with her and try to force her to choose you. But love is hard to resist…offer her something she might want: like your heart.