Reading this, I’m wondering : did this behavior (trying to corner and kiss his female relatives (and rather indiscriminately : niece, sister-in-law, mother-in-law) began recently? Is he doing other weird, unusual, socially unacceptable things?
Because, given his age, I’m wondering if this man’s behavior couldn’t be a sign of some kind of senile dementia, Alzheimer disease, for instance…
Update: I told my brother, nieces and nephew. My bro knew about Mom’s encounter already, and I had told him earlier this week that Perv was being too friendly. As always, he tried to make it a big joke (he never thinks anything is serious) but I told the girls that they should never, under any circumstances be alone with Perv. The kids are pretty damn grossed out, by the way. I told them that it may be funny when it happens to someone else, but it’s very scary when it happens to you. They understand.
Mom made it clear to my aunt yesterday what was going on. I don’t think Mom ever told her about Perv trying to corner her years ago because she included in her report, “I know about Perv too.” Anyway, she told me that Perv will not ever bother me again, and that aunt will take care of it.
Hubby and I went out to see Grandpa yesterday afternoon and he was there. He didn’t have much to say which is unusual considering he normally has diarrhea of the mouth. Auntie arrived maybe 5 minutes after we did, and he buggered off real quick. I may be wrong, but I think Auntie was watching me extra close. She’d better not think I’m making this shit up. Maybe she was just embarrassed about the whole situation and was trying to apologize non-verbally. I don’t know.
This has been pretty disturbing to me. I woke up from a dream this morning in which Perv was telling me that it was “all my fault.” UGH! I hate it when my brain is against me.
Thanks for the tip, sturmhauke. I’ll try the pressure points out. The only problem is that when you’re in that situation, it’s hard to remember stuff like that.
Clairobscur, I think it was four or five years ago that he tried this with Mom. He does have a habit of taking his teeth out and holding them in his hand. And rubbing his two lower natural teeth on his upper lip. Weird? Yes. Socially unacceptable? Debatable, I guess. When I was growing up, I didn’t see him do anything strange. I just got the creepy vibe from him.
My mom told me she had a problem with her ‘lecherous’ uncle, and I in my ignorance laughed it off because the idea of a family member hitting on my mom seemed absolutely preposterous. Then I finally got to meet the worm, and like your situation, the guy was in his seventies and hitting on my mom! :eek: Thank goodness I’m a guy because hell knows what he might have tried to pull on me! I swear I wanted to take the old bastard out back and beat him up wtih a shovel for acting like such an ass around my mom right in front of me! :mad: So I can understand your level of shock and discomfort at the situation, at least in some small, vaguely-similar kind of way 
Actually, a much easier and more effective pressure point is the jugular notch. Right at the top of the sternum, the bone structure takes a small dip, resulting in the so-called hollow of the throat. Put two fingers in that hollow and shove HARD. Believe me, he will clear off you real damn quick.
NB: I am an atheist, civil libertarian, shacking-up, pro-choice, pro gay marriage liberal, and I am about to channel Dr. Laura at you. Maybe the fact that we agree will give greater impact to the statement.
Some people are evil. In my experience, a certain subset of women (who tend to have “Welcome” imprinted on their foreheads) seem to always try to explain away bad behavior and make everything “all right.” It’s not that he’s a disgusting, opportunistic, pervert, it’s that he needs counselling.
This is a noble view of humanity, but I think it’s dangerous as well. I think regardless of what his childhood was like, he is responsible for controlling his actions. Since you intimated you’d been victimized, I’m sure you can empathize with the sentiment that bad stuff happening to you does not magically make you do terrible abusive things to others.
So I applaud you for getting the word out. Everything I said above does not make it any more comfortable or less scary to confront family who may or may not believe you. The younger female members of your family are in your debt.
Forget all the VERY bad advice here to commit criminal assault on an old man. :rolleyes:
DO Report him to your family and the police. ASAP.