I’ve been anticipating posting to this thread, but not till I broke up with 2 last night did I actually feel quite justified. Yeah, it’s not much of a list, give me a break.
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[li]To be geeky is by definition to be passionate, and passion = good. Jumping in mud puddles, climbing trees, roaming the town golf course and looking at the stars for hours can make for a perfect date. Long-distance relationships really aren’t for everyone. And you can’t replace a best friend after he’s gone.[/li][li]When he’s gay, he’s gay, and no amount of mutual affection will change it. Also, you can date a friend and break up with them and still be good friends (what a relief!).[/li][/ol]
P. S.) John Carter of Mars, that’s a great story.
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MagicEyes: “Good things I learned: James Bond is cool, skiing is fun, and you can shoot sparklers out of a BB gun. That’s about it–I guess I haven’t learned very much!” Actually, I think you’ve learned some excellent stuff. James Bond is very cool. The first movie I saw was “Octopussy” in the eighties. I went with my two best girlfriends, and we were all into spies and just though it was the best thing! Skiing I always sucked at, so good for you that you learned how. I’ll never forget the time I went down the beginner hill backwards… And I’m with John Carter of Mars on the sparkler-BB gun thing. I’ve been thinking about how awesome that is all day, but I don’t own a BB gun and I’m afraid if I buy one I’ll shoot my eye out. But I still love running around with sparklers in the dark on Fourth of July. So you learned a lot, I think!
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EmeraldGrue: “To be geeky is by definition to be passionate, and passion = good.” When I finally learned that and stopped trying to be cool and “pass” as a cool person (after I lost weight and got attractive and stuff), I really did have a lot more fun. The boyfriend who was into sci-fi and comic books taught me that. We did a lot of walking around and just being goofy, as you have, and I remember it as some of the best times of my life. Also, I hope that your breakup last night hasn’t left you too upset. I’m glad you posted and your list was fine! There are no uptight rules about lists here, Missy!
This is a really fun thread and I hope you all are finding it entertaining as well. I have been amazed at the responses and how varied and interesting and honest they are. Thank you all so much! And John Carter of Mars… what you said is about the nicest thing I think anybody’s ever said to me on this board. I thought about that all day, too! 
1st and 2nd boyfriends: summer romances are not the same thing as an actual relationship.
3rd (1st real) boyfriend: it is possible to be in love so much you have to break up. It’s also possible to have a relationship where you agree on everything but grammar. Also, sex in Esperanto is hot.
4th boyfriend: Never move in with your boyfriend as your first house after moving out from your parents’; unless you’ve been going out for ages, never move in with a bf in a house with only one bedroom.
5th boyfriend: you can attend your ex’s wedding and feel genuinely happy for them.
6th boyfriend: someone truly can be attracted to every aspect of me and fully accept me. I can have a long-term relationship. It helps if they live on the same continent, though.
Yeah, the sparkler thing was the best thing that came out of that relationship. It’s been a long time since I’ve done that…almost makes me want a BB gun. Good times! 
JCofMars, have you tried it yet? Just wonderin’!
Yeah, I’ll second this! Very good thread idea.
Thanks Creaky, my husband is really a wonderful person. Most people feel elated to be around him, he has that quality about him to where he’s a magnet. People are always vying for his attention, it’s quite entertaining to say the least. He just has that very special spirit about him.
Holy crap! Jerry, Andy, and Ed, right???
Now THAT was funny!
By matt_mcl:" 4th boyfriend: Never move in with your boyfriend as your first house after moving out from your parents’…"
Everybody still living at home should write this one down. I was never in that position, but it created quite a bad situation for my sister.
Heh:
About that sparkler in the BB gun thing: It works! The BB gun kicks ‘em out there pretty good. Going on the premise that bigger is better, I took it one-step up and got the .22 rifle out. Use the shells that have “rat shot" in them. That makes a real sight after dark. Now, I must say the missus was watching all this with some skepticism, so when I went back inside and pulled the 12-guage shotgun out she put the stops on the experiment. Said I was gonna blind myself or burn the place up or something.
I’ll have to wait to report on that. Sooner or later she’ll have to go shopping, and I’ll let ‘er rip with the shotgun. Maybe stick six or eight sparklers in the barrel at once. Could be AWSOME!
Yeah, some people never grow up, boys will be boys, all that jazz.
Yeah, don’t count on its making any difference. Even with my experience, my brother went and did the same thing, and now it’s turning in on him, too.
If you get hurt, it’s not my fault!
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**Nicodemus2004 **: My sincerest apologies. I apparently missed your post inadvertently . Nothing personal was intended. I really am trying to respond to everybody! Your quote: “I have enjoyed the trip and thank all the beautiful ladies along the way. Thank you so very much. I’ll never forget you.” That is sweet and very kind. The absence of malice and grudges bepeaks a lovely spirit. Any woman with you is lucky indeed.
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matt_mcl: “It’s also possible to have a relationship where you agree on everything but grammar. Also, sex in Esperanto is hot.” Okay, the grammar part would actually be hard for me, because believe it or not, in real life, I’m kind of a stickler for good grammar… you’re obviously a bit more laid back than I!
Esperanto… I remember trying to learn that in college after I met a group of Grokking Heinlein devotees. I failed miserably, and never looked back. Did Heinlein invent Esperanto? -
PinkMarabou: Thanks very much for that vote of confidence; I often hesitate to start threads, and am glad that this one has been enjoyable for all of you. Also, regarding your post about your husband: I really like hearing about people who are truly happy in their relationships; unfortunately, one hears so much about bad relationships. I know that there have to be more good ones than bad.
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Dung Beetle: Hey, who are Jerry, andy and Ed? If it’s really personal, never mind; but if it’s a joke you can share, let me in on it!
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**John Carter of Mars ** : “Heh: About that sparkler in the BB gun thing: It works!” Man, that’s cool that you tried that. And you didn’t shoot your eye out. A true Master!
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MagicEyes: Look what you started!
My work here is done.
It’s nice to feel useful!
JCofMars–You’ll shoot your eye out! You’ll shoot your eye out!
I just thought it was kind of interesting that **Penchan ** and I learned the same lessons in the same order.
Nope, it was invented by Polish doctor Ludwig Lejzer Zamenhof in 1887. Esperanto
great thread…
1st GF - If moms crazy, daughter wont be far behind
2nd gf - “the one that got away” showed me how to laugh at myself first, before laughing at others. But as said before, if goals in life are not the same, it just wont work.
3rd gf - that incredible sex in a relationship is fun, but just not enough to keep you together…as a couple that is!
4th gf - taught me that women lie as much as men, but just dont brag about it to their friends.
5th - 8th gf - not much really…
9th gf/wife - That while love at first sight might not exist, love at second sight sure does! And having a strong independent partner doesnt dimish your own strength or independence.
Thank you. that was a very nice thing to say. And, not to worry about the delay. I didn’t really expect a personal reply. Thanks again.
Ain’t that the truth!
First BF: How to break up with someone. (Oooh, and that the scary treasurer woman at our school - his mother! - really wasn’t that scary. I learned a lot from her in the end too.)
Second: That being cheated on sucks, but that you do survive and that you can get to the point where you can laugh together again on the rare occasions when you see each other. Despite the cheating, he’s my favorite ex. Great guy really, just an unfortunate situation.
Third: Rebound relationships with your best friend are a great way to ruin a friendship. And end up looking like a bitch. And that I’m more into physical appearance than I really like to admit.
Fourth: Geeks are fun (and useful when you have computer problems!).
Fifth: Sometimes perfect is hard to live with.
Intermittent fling: Casual sex ROCKS!!
Sixth (same as 4th): Some things are all about timing. Compromise. And if you can’t compromise, live 5 states apart!
First boyfriend: Asking a boy to be your boyfriend is scary! Also, running into and making out with said boyfriend years later in college can be fun…
Second boyfriend: Not all boys are as cool as they think they are. Dodged a bullet on that one.
Third boyfriend: If you have nothing in common but the place you are forced to be from 8-3 every day, the relationship cannot last long.
Fourth boyfriend: Intelligence is a wonderful thing. Intelligence and sarcasm can be extremely attractive, but that doesn’t mean it’s the best combination of attributes.
Fifth boyfriend: If everyone you know thinks a guy is a complete ass, they are probably right.
Sixth boyfriend (see also boyfriend #4): If a guy tells you what a jerk your boyfriend is, he has an ulterior motive. Also, if you break up once because of a really big fight and never resolve that issue, your second time around won’t end up any better.
Seventh boyfriend and first fiance: Wow…this list is going to be longer…How to be loved, how to love someone even if you aren’t perfect for one anothe, how to jetski, how to compromise, how to play Humans . He gave me an appreciation for country music, the Beatles and Mother Love Bone. He showed me how I wanted to be treated in other relationships and showed me that I was a special person.
1st Husband: he gave me beautiful children. He also showed me what I don’t want in a relationship. He taught me insecurity, jealousy and showed me that some people can pretend to be anything they want to be.
3rd fiance: My time is up right now, but if this is still around when I get back online, I’ll finish this out.
Small world isn’t it?
I’ll only do the relatively serious boyfriends, not the “We held hands when we were 12 once” boyfriends. Hehe.
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If he hates your friends and gets pissed when you go out with them… it’s time to run, run so far away.
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Some people really do lie about everything possible.
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Nice guys really do exist! I had been beginning to give up hope. He was nice, and talented, and sweet, and REALLY funny. We still both post on the same message board, and I’ve been thinking of PMing him, just to apologise for being a jerk so many years ago, even though we’ve long been on friendly terms. He taught me many tricks about playing bass, too, and he’s the most talented bassist I’ve ever seen.
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Love with your best friend IS all it’s cracked up to be. He and I got into power metal and black metal together. He introduced me to techno, which I never liked before him. Taught me a lot about physics. Sadly, he also taught me that when you start feeling like he’s your brother, it’s hard to turn back. He remains my best friend, however.
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My first real, raw attraction, so he taught me everything that goes with that.
Introduced me to Chroma Key (Dream Theater’s ex-keyboardist’s project). Loosened me up. Taught me that I can be sexy. But then screwed me over, and taught me that if I am really suspicious about something, I’m probably right. -
Tough guys are often not so tough inside. Like a hard candy with a gooey center. Taught me about the scariness of diabetes and cystic fibrosis. He also reminded me that racists are everywhere, and they just hide it well, except for when they are drunk. :rolleyes:
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Umm… this guy wasn’t my boyfriend, but he affected me so much. He was the brother of number 6. I’d liked him for years. Literally. Even when I had boyfriends, I still just thought he was so cool, and wanted to be his friend. I am really shy… but he was shyer than me. He didn’t know I was alive, so I had to do something. Gradually I started talking to him online by drawing him pictures. Eventually he moved away and a friend of mine told him I had a crush on him (I didn’t tell her to say it!) and he said that it was mutual. When he came back for Christmas vacation, I saw him walking on the side of the road, so I pulled over and asked him to hang out. It was the first and only time I’d ever made an attempt at something like that. We did hang out, but didn’t touch… until the summer when he came back again. I eventually did get to kiss him - last summer, the night before I moved to Vancouver, I almost missed my flight because I was kissing him on a beach in the rain. He is incredibly interesting and has an eclectic taste in music, some of which he introduced me to. But most importantly, he taught me that sometimes I have to go for it myself! I still think he is just so awesome, and we still talk online occasionally.
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The current one. Gosh, where to start… Okay, I was never one of those people who swooned over accents, but his put a stop to that, it’s so cute. He taught me how to read Cyrillic, and he is teaching me Serbo-Croatian. He is slowly teaching me how to trust again, not that I never slip up, but still, there it is. He teaches me a lot about money - how to manage and save it. He taught me that you can go through a lot of horrible things and still come out on top. Even though you grew up with war, that you can still have faith that not all of the world is bad. I don’t know how he does it, he’s truly amazing. He is also teaching me that I can be sexy. Also, in a completely shallow vein, that being with a guy with long hair is everything I’ve ever dreamed, physically. (Yeah, I’m one of those, who had always wanted a boyfriend with long hair.) Ha!