No, not just casual sex. I don’t judge people who like casual sex. But people who sleep with anyone, even people who it is unhealthy (physically or emotionally) to have sex with, and who don’t follow safe sex practices, etc… those are the people I would think of as sluts. People who are totally indiscriminate and unsafe about sex.
26, married a little over a year, 1 (including non-vaginal sex).
I just don’t care. Whatever works for other people works for them. The only one I do care about is my partner, because I am that “one.” And there I think “aw” and feel special.
I’ve always been exceedingly careful when it comes to safe sex, especially because I know so many other people aren’t. Even if somebody says they’re a virgin, or are super careful, or are 100% clean, it doesn’t matter. You wrap it up.
As for calling people sluts? No, it’s a pretty hateful thing to say about a woman (and it just doesn’t have the same sting for a man, so let’s not bother with that avenue). It’s especially egregious when it comes from a woman who claims some sort of feminist stance, because no. You’re reducing a human being to her sex life and you’re implying that her entirely consensual sex life is somehow a bad thing. You don’t have to live like her, but “slut shaming” is gross.
If a woman wants to bang a guy out of love or because she wants to have 99 partners before thirty, I don’t care. Just keep yourself safe.
Bang away, baby. Bang away.
Just in case you were including what I’d said on the topic of the word “slut” I don’t restrict it to women, and my qualifying definition is pretty narrow and isn’t just based on the number of partners someone has had.
ETA: And I would never actually CALL someone a slut. I just might think it to myself.
You seem to have missed the point were we discussed how it’s the unsafe behaviour rather than the numbers involved. Except someone who thought that Sluts were the women who deliberately target married men, which I agree is a choice that would negatively impact my opinion of that woman.
And Slut as Hate Speech? What about slut walks? Do they denigrate women? I hear they have some kind of feminist backing.
What about the women in this thread who happily self-identify as sluts? Are they gross?
I’m still going to use it as a mild curse as in “Angry? Mate I’m so slutted I could spit!” My apologies for both previous and future usage.
This is an opinion thread on sexual matters, there is an emphasis on sexual behaviours, I don’t think anyone here is reducing any actual person to their sex life.
I’m not targeting anybody in the thread. The topic of calling people sluts came up and I commented on it. You’ll note I made the same distinction of keeping safe that other folks made.
You’re missing the point if you think I was complaining about stuff like that. Those things are right up there with gay guys calling each other fag or hip-hop using the N word. Reclaiming a slur is not the same as using it to keep people down.
Apropos of nothing, I saw a image this week (which I can’t be bothered to dig back up):
Definition: Slut - a woman with the morals of a man.
Unintentionally Blank, I always liked “A slut is any woman who gets more sex than you.”
Male, 42. Lost virginity at 18, married at 21, still married. Have had 3 sexual partners. (Counting full intercourse only–three or four more with more inclusive definitions.)
I have had sex with all and only the redheads I have dated. I’m sure this means something, but I’m not sure what.
You’re the one who said it was hateful, gross and reduced people to their sexual activity - perhaps that was stronger than you intended, but its all in the post I quoted.
Something can be hateful and gross without passing into “hate speech” territory. I tend to side against calling people names when trying to be polite. Guess I’m kooky like that.
Peeta, It would have helped if you’d included all the qualifiers of your second post into the first. Because as it stands they do seem to contradict each other.
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It means I’d like you to stay the hell away from my daughter!
Ooh, is your daughter a redhead? I’ll bet she’s hot! And easy! 
And twelve…
Actually, nerdy, awkward and twelve, but a readhead.
Nerdy & awkward don’t cause me any problem at all–quite the contrary. I have to admit, the ‘twelve’ thing is a bit of a deal-breaker, though. 
Your daughter is safe from me … for now. 
She’ll let you know if you’re safe from her, eventually. She’s telling all the interested boys at school that she’s not going to date “for a few years. Ask me again later.”
Take a ticket and stand in line.
Can you explain both the idiomatic meaning of this as well as what it alludes to?
I have no idea, it started, seeming amongst all the women I knew at the time as an expression of more than usual irateness with a dash of humour thrown it. It wouldn’t be common in the coffee rooms, but was well known with performers, farm workers, students etc.
It’s been going for at least fifteen years, not endemic, but not rare either. A fringe saying.
Age 18 um probably 90or 100first time with girl was 13 first time with guy was 12 :0 holy shit my childhood was fucked up
How old were you when you fucked Pocahontas?