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I hate waking and being unable to get back to sleep at 0230. At least I can read the MMP and catch up, even if I don’t have the brainpower for individual responses.

wheelie, I’ll definitely look into something like Visiting Angels. Neither Dad nor I really have a lot of extra cash, but it might be something that, between my sibs and I, we could make work. I’ll just have to see.

Things with Dad are continuing. I’ve talked to him every day. Between Nephew and Bonus Sister, they’ve each stopped in a different time to check on him.

Which is good because he’s falling again. The first time was because, in his own words, he was a dumbass who put lotion on his feet while on the toilet and then slipped when he got up. He lay on the floor of the bathroom for 8 hours before he was able to get himself up and moving. He didn’t bring his cell because he doesn’t have a case on it yet and didn’t want to drop it. The second time, he fell out of bed while asleep and got wedged under the bed. Bonus Sister happened to stop by and help extract him. The last time he was eating popcorn at the kitchen counter and fell. Thankfully, the nurse showed up 2 minutes later. His BP was incredibly low, so that’s got up be a contributing factor.

We’re trying to come up with solutions for each problem as they come up. The lotion thing is easy: don’t. The cellphone issue, he’ll be buying not only a case but a lanyard so he doesn’t hand to hold it in his hand. Falling out of bed, he wants a hospital bed for a variety of reasons but the short term answer is looking for bed rails. The kitchen fall is two-fold: start using his seated walker and, when standing at a counter, stand on the balls of his feet so he’s already leaning forward. More as they come.

The biggest worry yesterday was that he missed his appointment with his dialysis doctor. Which is rescheduled for Thursday. Now he needs to reschedule with his primary. I don’t know what lab we’ll be taking, but I’m there as much as I can be.

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Since my fingers are hitting reply buttons when I don’t mean to, I’m setting this as two posts. (I hate trying to edit with the time limit!)

On non-Dad related things, the safety meeting for CtE went well. They came in virtually for it with Hubby (CtE wow with a migraine and took one of my Imitrex.) We got a plan in place with some solid ways to try to keep them from self-harm so we’ve got tools in the kit. It’s something. We also had to come up with a plan for their attendance. The school and I are continuing to work together, and CtE is buying in now too. Even Wednesday, they’d wanted to go in but hurt too much. We’ll just have to see how things go and adjust as needed. Yesterday, on our way back from getting them their vaccinations, we talked about getting them caught up with school work. They admitted to some panic feelings regarding some of the assignments which have had them ostriching. I reminded them that their teachers are on their side and if they write an email explaining what the stressors are, the teacher will work with them. Here’s hoping!

I’m still trying to work with BtY in getting school work done. He’s starting to accept that it needs to be done but hasn’t quite gotten to doing so independently. Today (tomorrow? I guess it will depend on whether I fall back asleep or not) I’ll be working with him to slog through a much as possible. I was going to work with him yesterday (today?) since school was closed but the day ended up far busier than expected. In other news, he’s actually gaining height and weight. He’s up to 62.25 inches and 145 pounds. Progress.

Since everyone else is talking case stuff, I’ll briefly relate it car woes. The Subaru (aka Hubby’s car) had what we thought was a bad battery. AAA came out, said, “Nope, your alternator”, so we towed it to our shop and they are able to get it done in a day to the tune of $800. It could have been so much worse.

Speaking of Hubby, his new boss starts Monday. Which means he’s going into the office. Which means 2 days of having the house to myself. It will be bliss! I love him to death, I swear, but almost 4 years of him working from home every day really makes me miss having me time.

I’ve been trying to work on myself as a whole lately. Some of it made itself aware while in my relationship with Partner. It’s still good, but it’s made me realize just how many insecurities I have and what I want before I have another relationship implode. Do I’m working on meditation, a self-esteem workbook and looking into finding a poly or ENM friendly therapist. I think I want to start journaling my journey too. I’m seeing some progress, so this is good.

I was finally able to meet up with my librarian friend for lunch. It was so nice to catch up, talk about the local poly scene and things like that. I reminded them that I’m about 5 minutes away from the library they work out of and I can meet them for lunch. I hope we do.

This weekend isn’t as full as some others. Working with BtY on schoolwork tomorrow while Hubby is at a Magic: The Gathering pre-release. I need to make cookies for the pot luck after Sunday Assembly, an event that has me nervous but excited. It my first time attending so there’s the newness factor, plus it’s the first time Hubby and Partner are meeting. Should be fine, still nervous.

Finally, FINALLY, I’m getting sleep enough to try for more shut eye. So cue me crashing out. Have a great day and hugs all sound!

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Good Mornin’ Y’all! Up and caffeinatin’. YAWN ‘Tis 64 Amurrkin out and rainy(ish) with a predicted high of 66 and rainy(ish) for the day. No plans that include leavin’ da cave, so we shall stay inside and dry. Of course the usual sloth, general overall uselessness, nappage, and day drinkin’ are on the agenda. Any need to feed today will be via forage as we have plenty of sammich makin’s, chips, etc.

Now I need more caffeine and to feed r umbly tummy. Then, onward into the day! Rah.

Happy Sattidy Y’all!

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No, he’s been talking about this particular vehicle ever since he first saw one on the road. He’s been researching it… obsessing over it, long before any of this crap with his brother started. He’s a car guy - spent his teen years in the Detroit area (went to high school with an Iacocca) and in the 40 years we’ve been together, he’s bought at least 15 cars - honestly, I’ve lost count. At least he doesn’t drink or gamble…

What about a little stool? This is the one we got for our grands to use at the sink, but I’m pretty sure it would work beside a bed. :wink: And it’s just one of many kinds - some plastic, some wood.

Indoor cats also don’t get fleas or ticks. When we adopted ours, we had to sign agreements that we’d keep them indoors. Easy with Ziva, challenge with Taz (RIP). Brandy never tried to slip out. Nor did Leadfoot (I dunno - FCD named him.) To me the main disadvantage is having to keep a litter box, and that’s not a biggie.

THIS!!! And not being able to see to use her oven is part of the issue also. Which is why I’m sending food with her that just needs to be nukelated, and she claims to like my cooking. It also helps that FCD found her favorite cake at Harris Teeter. Maybe the thyroid doc on Moanday will help.

Hmmmmmm, since yarn is the common thread ( :rofl:) maybe it’s the attraction to wherever missing socks go???

I crack me up!!

Very weird and unbalancing dream last night. I woke up around 4:30 so I was playing tablet games as I often do, then I set them aside and woke up for realz to discover it was only 2 in the morning! I don’t know why that threw me off so much. But I did manage to fall back to sleep till 6 which is definitely a win!

Critters have been tended and I had a toaster waffle with peach perserves for breakfast. Caffeination continues. It was 36° when I let Higgs out - she didn’t dawdle over morning potty! It looks like it might have rained overnight, too. It’s supposed to go from cloudy to sunny and creep up to mid-50s today. There’s a big auction at one of the Amish farms and we’re taking MIL there, just to get out and walk around. I have a little folding stool that I’ll carry, since there’s not likely to be many places for her to sit and rest. But it will do her good to get outside and get some air.

It’s critter fountain cleaning day, but nothing else that absolutely needs to be done. We’ll see how it all progresses.

Happy Saturday, and Happy Veterans Day to my fellow Vets!! :us:

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Afternoon, mumpers! It’s currently 9c/49f with no predicted change, and partly cloudy. Weather app says “Today has no fucking idea what it wants to be. Cloudy. Not cloudy. What fuckin evs.” It’s actually sunny and bright out there - I was up early to do a round of bums and tums with the cats, had a cup of tea and then took myself to the gym for extreme spin and then dumbbell hustle. Our usual spin instructor is pregnant and has only got 9 weeks left but she’s convinced the baby will come early so she is going on maternity leave soon. Next week will be her last week with us for a while. She decided her parting gift would be to make spin into spiit so we had three rounds of cycle-based exercise (mostly sprints and hill climbs) interspersed with three rounds of dumbbell intervals. Good fun, but harder work than usual. Then I stayed on for the dumbbell class as well so I am feeling the burn now.

The class finished at 10.45am and I hung around afterwards talking to a couple of people so was still there at 11.00 when they turned the music off for two minutes and everyone just stood in silence to observe the Armistice remembrance. Really good to see everyone doing that, and not a single complaint.

Back home, hair washed, cup of tea to hand and about to plan the rest of the day. I need to go into town to do some errands, we need to pop into the supermarket for essentials, and get lunch at the Good Chinese Place. Off out tonight to see a couple of bands in our favourite local pub but this time we’re planning to leave before 3am!

Mooom hope MIL enjoys the trip out to the Amish farm and that both fresh air and smiling faces help lift her spirits.

nellie jacket potatoes often get a mention in my work calendar as “JackPots”. Much nicer to see every week!

Cat Glove yes, I could go and stand on a picket line although that would also incur the financial and time costs of getting to campus on days I don’t actually need to be there. We also have a virtual picket line where people can post messages of support so I usually do that instead.

Right…my tea mug is empty and that situation cannot be allowed to continue!

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Good morning.

It’s 55F and cloudy out at the moment. It will cool down a few degrees as daylight progresses, so we’re already at the high temp for the day. It will rain most of the day, and we expect around a quarter inch of rainfall.

FCM, I hope MiL enjoys the trip to the Amish farm. I too am sending good thoughts her way, as well as you and FCD, who carry a heavy burden. I hope too that the doctor finds a way to increase MiL’s appetite.

JtC, I laughed at your husband’s oven reaction.

I never caught up with my mother yesterday so I will try again today. I’m sure my sister swooped her up to celebrate her birthday, and that’s just fine. My sister does a lot for my mother.

And in pet news; the search is over. A few weeks ago, my son told me his co-worker’s black lab had puppies. I wasn’t ready for another dog at the time, so I just put it out of my mind. For the last couple of weeks or so, I’ve been looking hard at the Humane Society pages and I had entirely determined that I would go down this weekend and look at a few dogs that intrigued me. I mentioned this to my kids, and I didn’t think the pups from my son’s co-worker would be available. Well, they are. We’re taking both; a boy and a girl and we’ll get them around Thanksgiving.

At first, I was only going to get one since my son mentioned he would get the other if we didn’t take both. I told my son I was good with taking one since I knew he wanted a dog, too, but my son explained he wanted them to grow up together and would only take one so they could continue to visit and play with each other. So, I took both. But now, I feel guilty for not going to the Humane Society, and now that I’m fully committed to the labs, I know I will miss having a Siberian Husky. Until you’ve owned one, you’ll never understand the personality those dogs have within themselves. I was leaning towards a couple of Sibierians at the Humane Society, but my husband was wary because they are a lot of work and very rambunctious.

However, I had to remind him that puppies are a lot of work, too. The positive is that they’ll grow up with us, so we’re not inheriting a mentally scarred dog who could have been abused or hurt while roaming as a stray.

At any rate, we’re getting pups, and I’m excited about that. But, that underlying guilt keeps creeping in and I realize that sounds totally crazy. For the record, the woman who has the pups is not interested in any money, she just wants a home for them.

Not sure of my plans for today, other than trying to reach out to my mother. I guess I’ll take the day as it comes, which isn’t a bad thing.

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I forgot to mention earlier, Happy Veterans Day to all the Mumper Veterans! Also, my Dawgs play Ole Miss (sounds like someone’s old maid sister) at six p.m., so OYKW will have to endure that, poor baby. OK, not really cause he’ll go in the bedroom and watch teevee with his preferred snackage and a bathroom nearby. Not such a bad deal really. I, however, have to wait until commercial breaks to make use of the facilities and replenish snacks and beverage. See, I am the one who suffers!

MOOOOOOM hope MIL enjoys the outin’ to the Amish farm.

Taters yay for the new doggos! Plus for free! Score!

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Well hello there. Caught the boat as planned
and am on day 5 of the cruise, have been to Cozumel and Grand Cayman so far, Cartehenga tomorrow and then the Canal on day 7. Been having fun (outside of twisting my knee and losing $75 at Blackjack) Internet is stupid expensive ($25/ day) so this may be my last missive for a couple of days. Have scanned the messages only so yeas, boos, and many and multiple hugs to all.

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I’ve been shopping for a new mattress too and my big issue is height. I want something that I don’t need a stepladder to get into and that Nelson can jump on without help. All of the new ones that I’ve tried are higher than my current 27" high bed.

If he’s not already signed up, check out Meals on Wheels. It’s just as much a welfare check as bring a meal to seniors. I volunteered for a couple of years when I worked weekends (weekday volunteers are harder to come by, so I was welcomed) and there were a couple of times that I called someone’s family with concerns of decline.

I don’t know about sari, but I’m a klutz enough that I’d fall off or over the damn thing when I was half asleep. :stuck_out_tongue:

Congrats on the puppies taters! They’ll be a lot of work for a while, but they will be worth it.

Up, caffeinating, breakfasted, a load of towels in the dryer, jeans in the wash and everything else on deck. Starting the Friday chores once I post 'cause I was at the dealership most of Friday. :stuck_out_tongue:

Stay safe and healthy y’all!

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:rofl:

Man, this is the life. I’m so happy for you. :slightly_smiling_face:

What kind of oil do you have in your bod? Olive oil? And what about Carmen; when does she get her oil changed? :wink:

Well I was wrong yesterday, I actually did do one thing in the a.m., I took the large trash bag out of the kitchen waste basket out to the trash barrel and rolled it out to the curb before the collectors came so I count that as a win.
After I posted yesterday afternoon, I rolled the trash barrel, the recyclables barrel and carried 2 yard waste cans to their spot in the backyard. Then Hubs got up and we went to the Fitness Center to workout. After which I went to Kroger to get the salmon he wanted for dinner as well as everything else on the list (since it was 4x gas points Friday). I see red also took advantage of 4x gas points Firday, good job.

Today will be work (should have already been there but priorities), then Hubs mentioned it might be a good day for walking in the woods. Tonight my Spartans will likely get slaughtered again, this time by some Bucknuts, er Buckeyes.

I had never heard of these things but my daughter has them at her new abode, 2 on the front, 1st floor stairwell and 2nd floor entry door, and 2 on the back, same. They are very convenient, no digging for key ring, you just have to remember the combo.

I’m thinking of making turkey cookies for Thanksgiving with anise flavoring; Hubs loves anise Christmas cookies as well as our BIL so why not do the same for Thanksgiving, particularly since Hubs will likely be in the hospital at Christmas. I say likely because who knows when the transplant will take place now since his sister has been rejected due to a detached retina 3 yrs ago. So, they’re searching for another donor now; there are 4 candidates that they have to check availability on.

swampy I didn’t see you include TV watching on your agenda; don’t your Dawgs have a game? Ooops, didn’t scroll down far enough. Enjoy the game (and can’t you hit pause on the tv in case you really need to GO?

curious; what HS?
Hubs went to school with the Illitch’s; his next door neighbor married one of them.

this is what my Mom used to say when asked if she minded him being away all the time playing sports (baseball, bowling, speed skating, golf).

Inovative idea; I like it!

metal mouse I was just thinking we hadn’t heard from you in a while and there you are posting just 23 minutes ago. Sounds like a fun trip!

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Eggs, fried potatoes and sausages for breakfast. Coffee, of course. Wordled and puzzled.

We were supposed to go to youngest son’s place for dinner tomorrow, but the freeway is going to be closed, which would add at least another half hour of driving to the trip because of the traffic clogs. Forget it.

Think I’ll make beans and smoked ham hock soup today. Maybe some cornbread to go with it. Or biscuits.

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Somebody who runs chronically low BP will fall for any reason or no reason. And then back-construct a “reason” like slipped on lotion, or juggled their phone, or must’ve tripped over the edge of the rug or … when the truth is simply that they randomly fainted. Which usually triggers amnesia of the few seconds leading up to the faint. Hence the natural unconscious reaction to invent a story to explain what they can’t remember. Our brain is not always our friend. And it runs very badly on low blood pressure.

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It’s a dark and stormy morning for sure. There have been ferocious downpours and the backyard is coated in leaves and fir tree needles. I just cleaned up all the leaves on Thursday, lol!

Anyway, this is the pic of the puppies that was sent to me.

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My nephew is on the way to check on Dad again. His phone is going straight to voice mail. I’m really trying not to worry. He probably accidentally turned it off and is fine. But not knowing…

I’m going to talk to him about Meals on Wheels and what we need to do to get him safe and not have this happen regularly. I love my dad and I know how important his autonomy is, but every day, wondering if he is OK or gone or anything else because I can’t get ahold of him… I don’t know how much more I can take. And I don’t know what I can do to help him beyond helping him get what assistance I can, talking to his doctor’s and nurses. But I can’t move out there with him because of my own responsibilities here and I can’t move him here with me because I don’t have the room.

I need to call his doctor or one of his nurses on Monday. I need to talk with him about all of this and come up with a better plan somehow.

And I need to not be borrowing trouble because Nephew hasn’t messaged yet.

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I hope everything turns out fine, and wish things could be better. Myfather died after and accident, but if he had lived he would have been an invalid and he would have hated that. I feel guilt because of the little bit of relief I had amidst the sorrow of losing him

It sounds as if you are doing all you can, and that’s the best for anyone Take care, we can listen.

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taters OMG those are some cute pups! I saw the pic, then started reading. At first I thought Dark and Stormy are the pup names.

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My nephew got in touch. Dad was sleeping. Not sure why his phone was off. But this up and down… I just need some hugs and support to make it through all of it. Please and thank you.

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Happy Veterans Day to all Mumper vets! :us:

I woke up to a text from my personal trainer saying that he needed to cancel this morning’s session. Despite yesterday’s not-great body composition scan results, that was totally fine by me. :grin: I could use a couple of days of complete sloth before jumping back into “real life” on Monday. I spent most of the morning on two things: composing a long-overdue (and long) email to my mom’s best friend, and working out the nutritional content of the tuna melts I like. I made a batch of them last night and will be having two for lunch, and I decided to start tracking my food again.

I (figuratively) dusted off the app I like but last used over a year ago, updating my age and weight, etc., and so far I’ve entered this morning’s protein shake and the two tuna melts. My bariatric program doesn’t really have any daily calorie/carb/etc. guidelines; it’s more about regaining awareness of what – and how much – I’m eating. I will be cutting back on carbs, but I already had the English muffins for the tuna melts and decided to go ahead and use them. At least the tuna is a decent source of protein. :slight_smile: Tracking what I eat tends to only last until I go out and/or have something I can’t find the nutritional info for, but this time I’ll make an effort to not let a meal here or there stop me from tracking what I can.

LOL :grin:

Whenever I move to a new place, I get all of the locks re-keyed and I make it so they all use the same key. It costs a few hundred dollars, but is worth it to me for the convenience and mostly the peace of mind that no one who used to live there – or who otherwise has a key – can get in. Sometimes I also upgrade the locks while I’m at it. So far, no property manager has objected as long as they get copies of the new key.

Um…were the two related? :wink:

OMG SO CUTE!! Congrats!! :smiley:

Whew! And also :people_hugging:. I completely understand the rollercoaster you’re on and how stressful it is.

Have you guys considered a service like Life Alert? I started to look into them right before the fall my mom took that landed her in the hospital and then assisted living. I don’t remember what the pricing was like. It took them several months to stop bugging me, though, so just be prepared for that if you ever do ask them for info (I imagine that any company providing that kind of service would be equally tenacious).

You’ll figure out a plan, and the “not knowing” will go away/get better. It’ll just suck in the meantime. I’m so sorry. :two_hearts:

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So I was on the 200 and 300 slides today And I’m apparently part of a fierce custody battle between Smalls and the Mez. It’s nice to be wanted. Anyways, laundry is washed and drying, so I shall nap before game time.
Spot has shown no desire to go out. But he was feral, so he knows inside is better.

Awwwwwwww, congrats! I’ll have to wait a bit more before I get one, with the Canine flu still going, and Peak coming up.

I drink enough martinis that that is probably right. :cocktail:

{{{{RealFish}}}}, that is a lot to deal with. but glad CtY is got a plan working.

Dude, you’re not supposed to jump up and down on the table. :stuck_out_tongue:

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They are so precious!

{{{RealFish}}} I know this is a very tough situation for you. Could you ask Dad to message you each day when he wakes up? What about possibly getting one of those thingies that are advertised on the “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up” commercials?