Please Join Me for the Pitting of LinusK

[wonky]

This is my favorite exchange with him:

@you_with_the_face

And how many times have women been warned about trying to “have it all”? As if “having it all” isn’t something that men have taken for granted for most of modern history? The implication is that women should fear becoming too successful, because success is antithetical to a balanced homelife. Men can’t be expected to be equal co-parents, and of course, forget about expecting them to cook, clean, and all those other girlie things. So a woman who wants to do well career-wise and have a family needs to prepared to “do it all”. This is rubbish.

@LinusK

This is just sexist stereotyping. I’ve always done more cleaning than my wife (because she basically doesn’t care what the house looks like). When she took her first business trip - when our daughter was 3 weeks old - I stayed home and took care of her. And did it every time she took a business trip - which is 4 - 5 times a year. There’s nothing “girlie” about being a good father, or cleaning up, for that matter.

I know I’m only one data point, but all the men I know who want to be fathers, want to be good fathers. And cleaning up - so far as I can see - is more about who cares more about the mess, than about gender.

@jsgoddess

That’s exactly what she is saying.

@LinusK

When she said

I thought she meant “men can’t be expect to be equal co-parents, and of course, forget about expecting them to cook, clean, and all those other girlie things.”

I’m saying: “Men CAN be expected to be equal co-parents, and to cook and clean.”

We SHOULD be expected to do it. And from my - admittedly limited perspective - we are doing it.

@jsgoddess

Try this. Read what she said out loud, and use your most sarcastic voice.

@LinusK

Well, sarcasm means you mean the opposite of what you’re saying.

So if she meant the opposite of what she said, she meant… what I said.

Which means I agree with her.

FWIW, sarcasm often translates poorly in the written form.

@jsgoddess

That can be true. But a clue when it’s being used is if an avowed feminist uses the term “girlie.”

@you_with_the_face

And “This is rubbish.”

@Frylock

LinusK in all seriousness and sincerity I suggest to you that your failure to understand the sarcasm in this remark would indicate that there is a lot you have misunderstood when reading or listening to things feminists (and perhaps people in general…) have said. This failure to note ironic, sarcastic, or otherwise non-serious intent may mean you are getting an inaccurate picture of things.