That Gunslinger chap seems pretty nice.
Yeah, watch out for that one, eh?
Airman Doors, USAF, but y’all already knew that. 
And robgruver, who lives in the same city as me, so we could go to lunch once in a while. [sub]Hint, hint[/sub]
Robin
I won’t name names because he’s a prolific poster, but I’ve met him IRL… let me tell you if I was ten years younger and not already with the love of my life, I’d be pursuing him like nothing else.
Ya know, I would have thought that a cheerleading succubus with a dislocated collarbone would have been mentioned WAY more often in a thread like this - oh well, goes to show what I know.
Anyhow, I always kinda had a soft spot for Coldfire. Ever since he suggested eating my house pets, I’ve been all warm and fuzzy about him. <sigh>
Al.
Alright. I am going to restrict myself to listing ten people.
- Polycarp
- Guinastasia
- Gaudere
- TubaDiva
- Tripler
- MrVisible
- Gingerofthenorth
- Geobabe
- gobear
- Zoggie
Ah, I see the lovely Nacho4Sara has already checked in and my hopes are dashed. Hey, no fair, I’m goofy and smart and funny and can drink lots of beer! OK, so I don’t rock punkly! That’s it - Euty was right and my feelings are hurt. I’m taking my ball and going home!!
Just kidding, of course. Ha, I thrive on this. Tends to solidify my self-image.
That being said, my hastily-developed list would have to include the aforementioned Sara, Geobabe (again), and techchick68. Who, I realize, is probably quite startled by this news. Just go with it.
- Dave
(who’d like to appear on someone’s list)
Please, Mr. “I scored a perfect 10 on <amihotornot> and I’m a male model,” like you need me to stroke your ego.
You know I think you’re hot, and I think you’re a total sweetie. I officially add BigGiantHead to my list.
I’m going to go smoke a cig and fantasize about you now, okay? 
OK, Iampunha, you obviously have taste, but I see you messing with gaudere and I can’t be responsible for my actions
and that flirting is a common, and expected occurance on these boards, but I have to second Eutychus55’s suggestion that this thread cool down. Why?
(emphasis mine) This isn’t your typical board flirting. This is about “serious crushes”. I know Superdude went on to say
(again, emphasis mine)
But the fact of the matter is, their spouse (or SO) DOES exist.
Can I beg your indulgence to let me tell you a little story? Many years ago, when I was a Freshman in High School, I had a good friend. His name was Daniel. Why we were friends I don’t know. He was an athelete, I had no interest in sports(I worked out with the football team during the off-season because I didn’t want to have to deal with P.E.). He dated a cheerleader, I had no interest in cheerleaders(especially that airhead :eek: ). We were at opposite ends of the spectrum, but we were friends. I would play basketball with him and he would hang out around the theatre with me to get ready for shows(even then I was heavily into the technical side of the theatre). Well, we went to a private school, and one at a time, both of our families underwent some financial troubles. I had to transfer out in the middle of my sophomore year and he transferred out at the end of his. We still hung out when we could, but it wasn’t until his parents bought a small business near where I lived that we really started hanging out together again. Previously we were about forty or fifty miles apart, and neither of us drove. Well, it was like old times. We’d hang out for a few hours after he got off work and play some b-ball and talk about life.
Then one day he told me that he had just broken up with his girlfriend. Well, he had told me all about their relationship, and from what I could tell, they were pretty close. They were extremely sexually active, he said every day and I believe him. They had been dating for months, and he finds out she’s cheating on him. He was devestated. There had been no warning signs, their relationship was still strong as far as he could tell, it’s just that when she left him, she went straight to this other guy. She was using them both, and neither knew about it. Now here is the bad part, from my point of view at least, I had no such experiences under my belt. I had never felt the emotional attachment which comes with physical intimacy. If I had a time machine I would gleefully strangle myself for being such an insensitive bastard when one of my best friends was in such obvious pain. But, I didn’t understand. I thought it was just a “nice piece of ass” like we had joked about so often(he was a bit of a chauvinist, at least on the surface, and I wasn’t much better in his company). What’s to be so upset about? Come on, let’s go shoot some hoops and listen to some Metallica. Forget that bitch.
In retrospect, I can see that day as the turning point in our friendship. We still hung out sometimes, but we didn’t talk about anything important anymore. There was a barrier there. He had experienced something I was not capable of understanding, and there was now a generation gap between us. He was an adult, aged by pain, and I was still a child, innocent of both the joys of emotional and physical intimacy and the pains of heartbreak. We’ve kind of kept up with each other, and each are genuinely glad to see that the other is doing so well, but we’re not close anymore.
What does this have to do with anything? Well, this thread could be that point for some of our Dopers. The point where one steps out of the realm of “she’s/he’s fun to flirt with on the boards” into the realm of “he/she would be great to be with in real life.” The two are remarkably different. I’d say they are as different as Daniel and I were after his girlfriend broke his heart. Once we take that step, there’s no going back. Kind of like When Harry met Sally after they have sex. Things will change, it might be better for some, but it has the potential for disaster.
I’m for avoiding that disaster. Let’s make this a regular flirt thread, no more talk of “serious” or anything that could ruin a relationship in real life. Those are too difficult to keep on a steady keel as it is.
Steven
My goodness, these chips are soggy. I think I shall not eat them anymore. And the grapes! How sour they must be!
Sun even shines on a dog’s ass once in a while. Gotta let it feel good.
:eek:
Whoah. I thought I had been long forgotten in any of these flirt threads ever since I came in second in the SDMB Mr. Beauty 2000 contest…
Weeeeeird.
[sub]And I think a lovely doperchick just reserved herself a spot high in my favorites…well, not like she wasn’t there before… ;)[/sub]
And you think they really care? Since when? This goes on about once a week. It’s mainly just people fishing to see if anyone likes them, if it were real, they’d take it to email like real people do. I’m with Hama on the flirting deal. Reminds me of the third grade when the kids would send little notes back and forth, ‘do you like me’, ‘do you not like me’ check yes or no.
First is, of course, lurkernomore… but since I’m already dating him, I guess that’s a given. 
Now, the few others that I would seriously consider dating if I, and they, found themselves single - either from having met them IRL or gotten to know them on the boards or through e-mail…
CrunchyFrog
Tygr
Tripler
Verrain
LindyHopper
mrblue92
It’s more than just the flirting that I’ve done with any (and all) of them on the boards. It’s the friendship they’ve given me off of it too.
mgtman, there’s always the possibility of this turning out to be exactly what you describe for someone. But the likelihood is slimmer than it is for it to happen IRL. In my own case, my boyfriend and I both read, and participate, on the boards. (He brought me here). Anything that comes to me in private e-mail, I let him read if he wants to. And the reverse is true. But we rarely take advantage of that because we’re open about our relationship. And I think you’ll find that true of most of the couples that are here.
BAHAHAHAHHAHHH!
Sorry, that bit just struck me funny. Like anyone’s going to believe that. But thanks all the same, Sara, you big sweetie. Doing the dance of joy! Whoo-hoo!
Oh, and JFTR folks, the 10 she gave me was one of the very few that showed up.
TwistofFate.
[sub]Somewhere in Ireland, the thud of a coronary victim hitting the floor is heard…[/sub]
Just kidding, Twisty.
Choosing from the female Dopers I’ve met in person, Francesca would top the list. Choosing from the wider online female population…actually, come to think of it…
Well, of course, I’m happily married to Mrs. Dave-Guy, and we have two lovely children, Sakura, and Halford, the Human Eel. So I’m not lookin’.
But if I were, I’d pursue Persephone, 'cause she’s hip and makes me laugh (and being a good-looking redhead doesn’t hurt, either), and Scotticher 'cause she’s a sweetie who appreciates me and always makes me smile.
Also, Tubadiva, 'cause a chick who plays tuba sorta makes me hot. Dunno why.
Yikes, Supe, who’da thunk you’d have started THIS? Bad boy. No spanking for you.
Okay. I have two points I’d like to make, so please bear with me.
First, to answer the previous questions on why this is different than our run-of-the-mill flirt thread. The way I took the OP was who would I be involved with if not for my hubby or other RL concerns such as distance. That’s what changes it… there are people I’ll flirt with but if it came down to it, would likely not be involved with IRL. Example, you ask? Okay. I’ll flirt with Simetra til the cows come home… I think he’s a total hottie, he’s got a wonderful personality, he’s smart, kind, and just overall a great catch. HOWEVER, after all is said and done, our religious persuasions would stand in our way. He’d either run screaming or kill me inside of a week (possibly both, depending on if I was on my soapbox at the time). I’d (and I think I can speak for several of the lesbian/bisexual women here) throw down on Jarbaby or Geobabe in a heartbeat, but there’s that pesky little thing about them only liking men. See what I’m saying here? Good.
Secondly, I don’t think that this thread above any other would cause the kind of self-destruction that Mtgman is talking about. Taking into account the average IQ and inordinate amount of free time of the Dopers, you can’t tell me that this sort of thing hasn’t already crossed a couple of people’s minds, especially if you factor in how many have crossed paths IRL. I don’t see the harm in saying it out loud, so to speak. Look at the several people who have said ‘they know who they are.’ One can infer (those people can feel free to correct me if I’m wrong) that these discussions have taken place at some point, possibly some time ago. Yet I don’t see any of those people suddenly dropping their RL SOs and hooking up with the DoperOfChoice. Just like it’s okay to sometimes fantasize about someone else when you’re striving for Mr. Happy O, it’s okay to sometimes fantasize about what Life Would Be Like with someone else.
That said, I would like to point out the obvious. If this thread- or any other- were to become the springboard for the dissolution of any RL relationship, I dare say there were some significant existing problems that the relationship likely wouldn’t have been able to overcome. Hell… there’s a thread out there with me half nekkid [sub]actually, there are at least two of those threads that I know of… HOW does that keep happening?[/sub] practically molesting LindyHopper. If THAT doesn’t throw a wrench into my RL relationship, this one ain’t gonna do it either. No matter how angry I sometimes get with Mr. Bobkitty, no matter how many times I just want to smack him, the fact remains that I absolutely adore him and have made a serious committment to spending our lifetimes together. Would my life be better if Mr. Bobkitty suddenly winked out of existence and was replaced by any of the charming people on my list? Who knows… and since it isn’t going to happen, it’s not that much of an issue, at least not one I spend an awful lot of time thinking about. But you know what? I like these sorts of threads. I like the flirting threads. I like getting attention here that I don’t feel I get or deserve IRL. It’s a HUGE ego boost for me, I freely admit, and not a ‘potential for disaster.’
Just my… uh… hang on, let me calculate that out… $ 4.37. Feel free to disagree.
-BK
Okay, definitely pezpunk.
It would be nice to be in warm Florida right now…(its snowing here)
Happy flirting then.
Steven