No. You wrote previously that you had engaged in light petting which you defined as touching over a bra. That’s sexual assault.
Now, you are saying that it was only kissing, and because your previous statement has been linked to, this direct contradiction is an implicit admission that your prior statement was a fabrication.
So, you have admitted you lied previously. There is no difference in perspective. Either you lied then, which you have now admitted, or you backtrack that admission and confirm that you are lying now.
This is why folks are riding you: Most parents can’t imagine comparing their children with their dating partners. They just can’t. You’re revealing a lot about your mindset that you’d even refer to her in that manner: it indicates your pride in her comes from seeing her as a woman worth lusting over. Not for being a person in her own right.
Here’s another the thing: parental love and affection should be unconditional; romantic attraction is not. So it’s great and all that you think your daughter is pure perfection, but since she’s a product of your (narcissistic) loins, you’re predisposed to seeing her that way. Obviously no other women are going to compare to her if you’re using your feelings for your daughter as a yardstick for them. That’s why healthy people have different standards for their kids than they do their lovers.
And as I also pointed out in Post #69, he has stated that the assault was his idea, so all this “maybe she was in on it! I was the victim, Tee Hee!” is more stupid lying bullshit:
You’re a pathetic middle-aged manchild who writes about his creepy opinions of women and his go-kart rides. You don’t write about exceptional things, either.
I’d like to invite everyone in this thread to reflect upon the fact that this is coming from a man who was just regaling us with every mundane detail of a (likely fictitious) date, including the specific go-kart place they went to, exactly how much it cost, why he couldn’t post the receipt that he made a point of bringing up as evidence that this date occurred, and even the name and spiciness level of the dish he had to eat. I understand the temptation to try, but you are not going to inspire meaningful personal change in someone with zero self-awareness.
Something we might do that would be more productive, or at least more fun, is develop Shagnasty Bingo or a Shagnasty drinking game. Take a drink every time he tells us that he enjoys going to strip clubs, the women in his life use him like an ATM, women over 40 are hosebeasts, he has a date lined up with a woman he has described in oddly specific yet impersonal terms, he reminds us that he doesn’t have the sense God gave a goose…actually, for your own safety you might want to play this game with milk.
Take a shot when he says he’s a thrill-seeker. Double it when he reveals his idea of thrill-seeking is doing something as mundane as riding around in go-karts or dropping twenty dollars in change at the Chuck E. Cheese game room.