I was engaged, once. No, really. Back in 2004. She changed her mind, though. Still, we’d been friends a lot longer than we were engaged, so we stayed friends.
She’s on a high right now, having received her nursing license just over a week ago and having had what she considers a good two-hour interview at a local (to her) hospice where she’d love to work. She called yesterday afternoon. General chit-chat, as we have ever couple of weeks or so. And then she started asking personal questions. I’ve always thought I talk too much. Apparently, she thinks I don’t. Hey, I’m a guy. I try to maintain an even strain. I tend not to show strong negative emotions. ‘How did you get along with your mother?’ ‘When my dad died and I needed you, why did you come?’ ‘Let’s have a debate about Ethics.’ On UHC, I opined that it’s going to happen eventually, and we’d be better off if it came sooner rather than later. ‘Well, you know I’ll take care of you.’
Five hours later her phone’s battery was dying, and we wrapped it up. She said, ‘I love you.’ I fear I let the ‘L-word’ slip too.
Well, we’ll see what transpires. She really wants that job, and she’s 500 miles away. And she said ‘Don’t go there’ when I brought up the Ultimate Pirate Costume. (I’d look fabulous!)
I couldn’t get back with someone who had broken things off with me in the past, especially if she’d broken off an engagement. While I’m happy for you, my gut would tell me to heed Silver Fire’s warning.
I wouldn’t even want to see that at, like, a pirate convention or a costume party or something. I would want somebody to wear that shit grocery shopping or to pick up the dry cleaning or whatever.
NB: For completely unrelated reasons – i.e., no reason – I’ve consumed about 8 oz of scotch. Not a lot; but since I rarely drink, I’m a little buzzed. So take anything I say here with a grain of salt.
In the last few months you have posted about this woman several times. About appropriate nursing graduation gifts, about how she should go about finding a job, and this one. Maybe other posts I have missed.
Seriously, I think I remember Johnny LA’s posts about it when this engagement was called off. I personally wouldn’t give her another chance to flake out. “Exes are exes for a reason” as some people say. There are plenty of other women out there.
