Straight guys: how much do you have to dislike a woman for sex to be off the table?

Hey! I can think in hypotheticals. I’m just having a hard time coming up with disqualifiers. Here is my list:

  1. Illness, mental or physical. Obviously, if she’s mentally ill, she can’t consent. Also, if she’s is puking her guts out or has the flu and looks miserable, then that would probably be a no, too. It has to be a BAD flu.

  2. Violent criminal. Murderers, face-slashers, acid-throwers: all off the table. Money launderers, meth cookers, bank robbers? No prob.

  3. Ummm, well…seems to me…the thing to do is…

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going back to Tequila Island with Ms. Fox…

I’m not a straight guy, I’m a bisexual female, so maybe my opinion doesn’t count for anything:

I’d sleep with someone I disliked, but not someone I hated. I think that’s what separates ‘killed a pet’ and ‘humiliated a beloved relative out of pure sadism’ from major disagreements and personality incompatibilities. Hot people who are jerks are why God invented condoms. :stuck_out_tongue:

I think the only thing deterring me from sex with someone I hate is the possibility that I may very well be stabbed in the kidney while I sleep. That kind of Teh Crazy needs to be avoided at all costs.*

The obvious solution is to do it at her place and leave before falling asleep.

*unless it’s Isla Fisher from Wedding Crashers. I would bang that like the Tunguska Event.

Ah, foreplay.

Read the rest of my post.

Basically, yeah. I don’t like it if the guy’s only prereqs are convenient and…moist. I’d rather be with someone I’m less* attracted to, but who’s practically giving himself a high-five for getting me into his bed.

*Within reason. A Seth Rogen look-alike is not within reason.

What he said.

[quote=“Really_Not_All_That_Bright, post:26, topic:501519”]

We men don’t have those body issues, even if we’re fat or incredibly hairy or ugly or whatever; once you’ve seen us naked and not run away, we figure it’ll be okay.
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Men can’t be fat. Only fat chicks can be fat.
-Peter Griffin, Family Guy
Clearly the OP is not familiar with the concept of “hate fucking” someone.

I think #4 might be my line but even then it would depend on how long ago she did it and how she did killed him. But I think anything short of massive physical harm to my friends and family I would have my pants off before the offer was finished (even then the time between events would matter).

Now off to read the thread. I’m 26 by the way.

I’ll echo the general sentiment on the four options in the OP. 1 and 2, no problem. 3 and 4, no way.

I don’t do the hate fuck thing, because then I would feel like a desperate tool that had to settle and could not find someone whom I actually wanted to pleasure. It’s the same reason I don’t subscribe to the Mark Grace Slump Buster school of thought regarding women I don’t find attractive.

Part of the appeal for me… most of it, in fact… is *wanting *her so bad I fantasize about it to the point of utter distraction. If I hate her or don’t find her attractive I’m not going to spend much time thinking about her when when her hot nonpsycho friend is right over there…

I didn’t append “out of sadism” to my condition of “humilated a beloved relative” possibility. And if it were a truly beloved relative, I wouldn’t. Someone could have humiliated my little sister for entirely valid reasons and I’d still probably hate them certainly wouldn’t fuck them.

Sure I am. I just don’t do that any more.

After I say that #1 and #2 wouldn’t put the brakes on the zipper, I’ll bypass the list.

I passed over a sweet young thing because she was “flighty.” As in, I didn’t think she could keep her mind on one thing long enough to have an orgasm. A “warm, wet hole to put it in” is not enough for me. I need to know she’s a participant. If she didn’t come, I didn’t have a good time.

Some of you have talked about angry sex. If you ever have the opportunity to have sex with a woman who is pisto about the way she was treated by an ex or her present guy, don’t pass it up. There’s an enthusiasm and a reckless abandon that is not to be missed. She’s gonna give it to somebody, and it might as well be you.

I guess I’m just old fashioned… I’d wait until we were married and that would rule out anyone I didn’t like a whole lot. (Admittedly, I did sleep with my wife before we were married, but that was more than a year into dating).

And, in case anyone asks, I have had the opportunity to say no to several potential partners who were clearly willing. When I was dating in high school, it was the girl pressuring me to have sex.

I was thinking there was probably an inverse bell curve that would graph the answer to this question, and after reading the thread, I believe I am correct!

Given the OP’s parameters, 1 and 2 are no problem - “C’mere, honey!” 3 and 4 are problems, though, and I’d pass. I’d probably be too mad at her to even want to be in the same room with her.

I’m 42 so these days I’m more easily aroused by stimulating my brains than my eyes. Physical hotness, therefore, doesn’t really affect me. Oh I’ll look. But I also will stop traffic to get a look at an exotic car or anything that is just the right shade of magenta with absolutely no desire to own said item.

I don’t have to dislike a woman to not want her. Not actively “liking” her is enough to keep me involved in whatever else I’m doing.

None of the listed options. I’d have to at least like her a little.

If anonymous sex counts as neutral, I’d have to at least pretend that I could like her.

When I was much younger I was in a hottub with a hot woman who pissed me off and I told her to get dressed and go home.

I’m not sure I would do that today… But you never know.

2.5 - basically, 2 + crazy/violent.