Wha? Sorry, no idea what that’s supposed to mean. This is some other-wordily stuff right here tho. Wow.
Yet you’re posting here… :dubious:
Well, when Ambivalid wakes up/gets over the hangover/whatever I’d really like to know how the date went. Detail not necessary, just wondering if a good time was had by all or if it turned into a trainwreck.
Yeah, at all alternative events I’ve gone to, they have a strict no-device policy inside. You can step outside and use your phone, but otherwise it stays locked up either in your car or in the facility-provided lockers. It’s been in place since at least the early 90s, but became a lot stricter with the advent of camera phones. Obviously private parties can have all sorts of different rules (or none at all), but I would be extremely leery of any event (unless I knew and trusted everyone in attendance) that didn’t ban phones.
So…did all y’all have fun?
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“No devices” only in the Fantasy Room. Im omw home now, ill be back after I get some rest. But it was great
“Detail not necessary”? Speak for yourself, Broomstick! I want to know everything! 
Rest?! You are not allowed to rest. Make a cup of coffee when you get home and boot up that computer and get typing. And yes, details, please.
Tick tock…tick tock…are you home yet?
Ok, I’ve slept some of the booze off so I’m ready to spill the beans. This party was at a hotel, the entire hotel was rented out just for this party. There was the main area which consisted of a dance floor and tables and chairs scattered throughout. Surrounding this main area were certain hotel rooms, which were rented out for the year by the party planners and housed various themed rooms. These consisted of some who gave away free drinks, some who took photos and others that I don’t even know for sure what went on.
In many respects, this was like any large party anywhere. Lots of food, music, a dj, of course alcohol. The theme for the night was “Naughty School Girl”, so many of the women were in costume (thankfully the guys weren’t asked to dress up). It was like many other parties, that is, until you get to the Fantasy Room. We had a brief tour when we first arrived and when we got to the Fantasy Room, that’s when we were informed of the “no phone” rule (there were many security guards patrolling this area too).
I could see why they wouldn’t want phones back here; it was basically a giant orgy room. Little “rooms” were constructed around various sex tools/toys, with four sides of see-thru red satin-y material. Inside, there would be things like sex swings, chairs, and other sex tools with which I wasn’t familiar. Chairs were set up alongside the “rooms”, so that anyone could come watch the festivities taking place inside. When we were being taken on our tour, we saw one couple putting on quite a show for about 6 or 7 spectators, it was unreal. I mean, yes, I saw these people fucking right in front of me but it just didn’t seem real.
Only couples and single women were allowed in the Fantasy Room. They were allowed to come and go as they pleased. When we finished with the tour, we headed for the bar for some tequila shots. The four of us then found a table near the dance floor. It didn’t take long for the two ladies (who were both in skimpy schoolgirl outfits) to get up on a conveniently-placed stripper pole and start dancing. As I sat and watched this, I got to talking a bit more with the male-half of our date.
I asked him about his experiences in this lifestyle and if he had ever had pangs of jealously or anything. Well, while he and his wife did LOVE the life, he did remember one particular sex session that brought all his fears out in the open. He said that up until this encounter, his biggest fear had been his wife getting “owned” (his words) by another man. Until one day she fucks a black man, a black man with a foot long cock, and he watches. He said he had never seen his wife been so completely fucked as he did that time. When it was over, he said he sheepishly approached the man and thanked him. Thanked him for giving it to his wife so good. “This is what it’s all about anyway. I know she loves me and she’s going home with me tonight”. I guess I couldn’t argue with that. 
The drinks continued to flow and honestly, the night got a little hazy. We ended up going back to our hotel room with a different couple than the one we arrived with (I still don’t know what even happened to them!:D) It was the most surreal experience of my life. I’m watching my girlfriend making out with another dude, I’m watching him grab all up on her ass. But, I am also getting blown by this dude’s girlfriend (or wife, Idk), so. It was just crazy. The only thing was that I’ve been with just my girlfriend for so long, I had gotten very used to sex without condoms. But obviously, condoms were used last night. But it was only a minor blip.
I know now what these parties are like, so next time I won’t be going quite so blind. But all in all, it was a blast and an awesome way to be introduced to this lifestyle. Just about all the people at this thing were amazingly friendly people and it was easy to make friends. One little side note, as I didn’t know what to expect at all, I was unsure as to what sorts of people came to these things. Well I found out it’s just about all types. Fat, old, ugly, and sexy, hot and young; all had on the same types costumes. And everybody had fun. There was one dude who just walked around everywhere completely nude. And he was the friendliest guy too. I just couldn’t look at him when he talked to me because, being in a wheelchair, my eyes were just about at his crotch. 
Yeah because the few seconds it takes to make a one sentence post really is time consuming. Those two brief posts I made last night were at relative “down-times” in the evening.
Ambivalid, let me be the first to say: congratulations! I hope every experience after this proves to be as good if not better than this one.
Dave
Wow. Surreal is the word of the night. I’m a very sexual person and I must admit that your story makes me quite curious about exploring possibilities. Though it would be impossible where I live. Not to mention that I am very much in the “public’s eye” working for a library in a relatively small city. And my husband and I have not seriously discussed this type of thing anyway.
I’ll have to experience this vicariously through you. Glad you had a fun evening, Ambivalid! So now what? Does it leave you wanting more?
Most certainly. :D. We’ve made plans for next weekend with a couple we met there (not the ones we took back to our room).
And why do you say its impossible where you live? These sorts of things are off the radar and unless you actively seek them out, you’d never know they’re even happening.
Discretion is important to all attendees, which is why no phone use is allowed in certain areas. The information about this party was mostly disseminated through a website, one which centers around swinging.
I remember when i was in my 20s and dating a guy who was fairly adventurous and we decided to try a swingers party. And we were able to find one somewhere near us here in the Cleveland/Akron area and it was at least 10 years ago or more, when the Internet was smaller.
We never went to the party or tried swinging, but we did go to a nudist party haha Anyway, you definitely can find these parties anywhere of you do just a little searching.
Glad you had fun, Ambivalid! Sounds like swinging is right up your alley. Maybe you can bring a better name for it to all your “pals” here on the SDMB. Ha.
It’s his option to give as much or as little detail as he wants, we can’t demand it. Well, we could, but that would seem rude to me.
Not my cup of tea, but I’m glad Ambivalid had fun.
I’m hearing “I” a lot, but not much “we”. How did your girlfriend enjoy her night?
Oh, this stuff isn’t new, i remember about 30 years ago my parents gossiping with their friends about a local hotel that had been rented out for the weekend to a swingers’ group. I dunno if it included sex toys, but I’m sure it included couples mixing and matching and getting it on.
You said “holy shit”
Shit= scat (play)
Holy= cassocks (monks/clerical robes)
It was a joke
:eek: I’m more than a little shocked that you even know about the teacup thing, let alone mention it in a public forum.