Why is it so difficult to be in a relationship? There are a lot of good aspects to it, but I get so tired of trying to juggle work, my house, the relationship, my kid, and everything else.
When I don’t have a girlfriend I crave companionship, when I have a girlfriend I want freedom and just want out!
I think I’ll try to set up a network of female friends (hopefully some with “benefits”) and just live that way. No commitments, no pressure.
I guess my problem is I’m just not finding the right person. But of course I’ve thought I found the right person several times before, but 6 month or a year later you figure out you were wrong…
I am right where you are. I want a boyfriend. I miss not having one. The cuddling and all that, though after the butterflies end it seems like the drama begins. While a FWB would solve most problems, that always seems to make me feel like a slut.
So I guess I am going to become the old hag with a cat.
I completely understand where you are coming from.
You can have my cat. He’s been causing quite a bit of drama for me lately.
Seriously though, I know where you are coming from. There is one thing about being responsible and letting them know where I am… but I refuse to be answerable about who I am texting, emailing or talking too. Trust me or don’t. If you don’t, there’s the door. And don’t touch the cat. He’s mine.
I think I am taking a break from the whole dating thing. All I am finding is duds and losers that like to send nakkid pictures of themselves.
Fell’ahs, once you have seen one… you have seen them all. Do you really think I am going to take you seriously after you send me a cough head shot. Get real.
Sorry for the hijack, but yah I understand you. It seems no matter what way you look at it, being single or in a relationship, it sucks. Or I just haven’t found the right one. Obviously.
I hear you. Every once in a while I miss the thought of having a boyfriend, and then I snap to. I’m just not a relationship kind of girl. That may change someday, I can’t say for sure. All I know is for the last few years, I have no desire.
I have my life set up (own house, good job, financial planning) as if I’ll be single forever. If someone comes along and I change my mind, fine. If not, fine too.
What you do need is a sex buddy. It’s not as easy to find as you might think, because people have a tendency to get attached to people they have sex with.
Yes, it definately should involve old girlfriends. Girls really like it when you show them homemade porn with old girlfriends, it shows you are adventurous and exciting.
What???
He did say he wanted to stay single for a while right???
Just tryin’ to help a brother out.
I decided to stick to being single a few months ago, and am happier than I’ve been in years. But hey, I don’t think that means I should be celibate. It took me a while getting past the ‘omg people might think I’m a slut’ stuff, but I found a meet site online where that type of approach is positively encouraged.
I really used to think I had to do the whole settling down thing, and look for a permanent partner, but part of why I’m so happy recently is that I’ve finally realised if I’m not a relationship person, so be it.
OP, IME I’ve found there are two approaches to relationships - one is to recognise that everything has its ups and downs, and needs to be worked at. The other is to say, Well, unless we have kids, or are married, or have a mortgage or some other reason why it would be better to stay together, why stay in something that’s only good 50% of the time? I subscribe to the latter. If my partner is doing something that annoys or upsets me, and doing it more than occasionally, why stay to get my blood pressure raised? It is possible to dispense with the ‘relationship’ part of things as long as everyone is on the same page about expectations.
i dont like the whole idea of “staying together for the kids” especially if it was an accident. firstly u should have kids when ur ready for it, saying “we’ll manage” is not good enough. kids will copy their parents, if their parents dont get on an argue all the time, guess what the kids will do in their relationships when they grow up. if ur relationship wouldnt survive without a thing like marriage or kids then dont expect a happy ever after with them.
as far as im concerned, the only question u need to ask urself is: do we make each other happy? and then stay togerther for as long as you are both happy. everything else; love, sex, romance etc… are optional extras.
on a side note (mini-hijack, sorry) i dont like fairy tales:
they give the unrealistic impression that u should base a long term commitment on romance, and when u get married any problems u had before will magically dissapear.
most of them are about sex or death in 1 form or another. i dont mind the death ones becuase they were designed that way to help children cope with death which is a good thing.
the sex thing tho:
rumpled-stilt-skin… c’mon how do ppl not see that 1??? a guy turns (a roll in the) hay into gold, and he wants her to give him a son (heir).
snow white: a girl… in a house… in the middle of nowhere… with 7 guys?
sleeping beauty: in the the original story he did more than kiss her to wake her up.
