*Page 3, toHis4Ever:
Umm… I really think you’re missing the point, His4Ever. I like you as a person, and I think you’re sincerely trying to do your best to follow Jesus.
Which makes it really difficult to understand why you can take stances like this.
Because for every word Jesus had to say about repenting of particular sins of commission, He had twice as much to say about people who used the Law as a means to justify their own behavior (by interpreting it out of shape) while judging other people by it.
I think there would not be a person on this board who had a problem with your saying, “Well, I wouldn’t engage in sex with another woman, because I can see in the Bible that God condemns it. What you do and whether you’ll risk His judgment is up to you, but I feel honor-bound to point that out.”
What a lot of us are saying is that we as Christians have a direct command from our Lord to show compassion and friendship – agape love – towards all other people, and particularly those whom society stands in judgment over. Read practically everything He said to the Pharisees, especially the Parables of the Prodigal Son and the Good Samaritan (remembering that Samaritans were evil half-caste heretics to the Jews). Read the Parable of the Sheep and Goats.
And the “hypocrite” thing results, not from you having gone through a divorce – there are few of us who would condemn you for divorcing your first husband after seeing your comments on what that marriage was like, and those who would deserve to be guests of honor at their very own Pit threads, IMHO – but from your apparent judgmentalism towards gay people combined with your willingness to “bend” a literal reading of Jesus’s teaching on divorce to justify what you felt it necessary to do.
You aren’t gay; you don’t have a feel for what it must be like to be gay. So stop, listen, understand what they’re saying. Then, in love, advise them as you see fit based on your understanding of what Jesus wants.
I emphatically do not want you to “change your mind” on anything related to your salvation – you are following the Lord, and that’s what matters. I want you to do what He said to do.
Slightly over two years ago, I said to FriendOfGod, in a very similar context, “Nowhere in Scripture does it say, ‘Go therefore forth and smite them about the head with thy Bible.’” I hope you see the point – you can use a Bible verse to hurt people with, as those who took Jesus’s teaching about divorce to chastize you did. In the name of the Lord God Almighty, I say to you, don’t do it.
Show His love instead.
Peace be with you.
Page 4, to Shodan:
If it is my premise that a given set of rules is mandatory on humanity, then I am honorbound to follow that set of rules myself. I cannot find a way in which rule 3 applies to you, Shodan, and rule 4 condemning giving legal advice for money applies to minty), but the reason that I am not in violation of rule 7, which it looks like I am, is this carefully reconstructed loophole that I’ve come up with.
If, on the other hand, I suggest that the set of rules is actually a bunch of guidelines on how to follow the Golden Rule, not stand-alone mandates on what you must do in a given situation, I will not be hypocritical in my (apparent) violation of rule 7 – but I had better not start condemning you and Minty for what looks like violations, either.
Whether or not His4Ever is right about what God thinks about homosexuality based on the Bible has nothing to do with whether or not she’s right as regards her marriages. But if she feels that the Law applies verbatim to Esprix and Gobear, then it applies verbatim to her too. And if circumstances modify the way in which the law fits as regards her (divorce at whim does not equate to divorce from a violently abusive felon), then the same flexibility applies to them.
It’s not who’s wrong or right in an absolute metaphysical sense; it’s about consistency, integrity in behavior.
For all of me, Gobear can live his life as he wishes, though I wish he’d see his way clear to make his way back to a church that does not demonize gay men. And so can His4Ever. You see, I believe that God is at least as merciful as I am – and I would choose to see neither of them trapped by legalisms.
Also on Page 4, not directed at a specific poster:
My reading of the two Scriptural prohibitions referred to indicates that they are not applicable to the cases in view here. Jesus was not condemning the case of a woman abused by a monster to whom she had married, but rather the idea that a man might disavow the woman he had committed himself to in order to justify taking in marriage the woman he had since developed the hots for. Likewise, Scripture does not condemn the union of two people in a covenanted marriage bond but the gratification of lusts – and IMHO that says nothing about the genders of the parties involved in the relationship.
Quite simply, a merciful and compassionate God forgives any errors that His4Ever may have made in her past relationships and desires that she find happiness in the arms of the man she loves and who loves her, including lots of good hot wet sex, that he will provide for her and comfort her in sadness, rejoice with her in happiness, and that she is privileged to provide him with exactly the same, comforting him in sadness and rejoicing in his happiness.
And exactly the same privilege is available to gobear.