That basically translates into “how the fuck should I know how to pick up this girl? If I knew that I’d be banging her myself so I might as well blame it on being Persian.”
Maybe you should try decorating your appartment with blue carpeting and golden curtainrods and wearing an open silk shirt with gold chains and designer sunglasses?
What I have observed is that the only “trick” to getting a girl from a strong ethnic culture that isn’t yours (Italian, Greek, Indian, Jewish, Middle Eastern, etc) is to find one who a) is from a very Americanized family where the cultural ties are not that strong or b) find a strong-willed second generation girl who finds here cultural restrictions backward or stifling.
Other than that I got nothing. I’ve mostly been with Anglo/Germanic girls.
Why would I be “careful”? What happens if I don’t, the word police arrest me? This a thread about banging a chick, and that should have been obvious in the OP. If you don’t like my terms, stop reading. I’m okay with your not liking them, the way I’m okay with talking about all my relationships without cite checking feminist literature for political orthodoxy. And believe me, if you think the terms you highlighted are “pretty misogynistic,” then it’s gonna be rough going on this front. Pretty misogynistic is someone wrapped in a burqa, ballgagged, strapped to a table and forced to listen to “We Want Some Pussy” by 2 Live Crew. This? Please.
It’s been so long since I did the friend thing…do people honestly still do that in the late 20’s-early 20’s? I haven’t seen that in forever. You might be right though. Ohhuhhm. Hmm. Oh god, she can’t be thinking I’m doing that, how humiliating. It wasn’t like that. Now I need to unfriend without making a move because if I do then she’ll just think I was doing the friend thing which I wasn’t. This is horrifying. :smack:
Look, I kind of found the whole OP a smidge…well, off-putting. If I ever found out someone was talking about me like this I’d never want to have sex with them. I found it creepy as hell.
Persian girls are just girls, too. And I still maintain that she’s just not that into you. I am E. Indian and when I wanted a gauy in my dating days, trust me, he knew it. No tricks were necessary.
If she’s playing games it’s because she likes the games better. If she got you into bed, the games would no longer be fun.
I’ve got no problem with you banging all the chicks you want and even being misogynistic about it. The whole “classifying girls by their race” in how easy they are to get into bed makes me want to never sleep with a white guy again, though I realize some of you all are gentlemen.
I hope this didn’t sound too harsh! Mostly I couldn’t care less about one more sleazy guy making his way through girls…it’s just not gonna be me.
If he’s Takin’ Care of Business, he won’t have that problem. The woman will discourage the chaser. If he’s not Takin’ Care of Business, then it’s his fault if some Other Guy is able to score.
Seconded. Most of my neighbors in the building I live in are Persian, and they always use ‘Persia’ and ‘Persian’ to describe their country of origin and their culture.
I think the implication was that you’ll end up hurting someone, a friend of three years. Though maybe that should be ‘friend.’ Nothing a gal likes more than finding out you’ve just been biding your time, waiting to fuck her (see: A Doll’s House).
I’ve only known one white guy that married a Persian gal. He spoke Farsi. Take from that what you will.
(Dude, what is up with people being so uptight around here? Like you’re the first person in the history of the world to chase an engaged person? If she hasn’t married him yet, she’s looking for someone better. Or he is. Go forth and liberate!)
Women in their mid-twenties and older still do that. I’ve known women in their 40s who had male friends that they thought of as nothing more than friends; I’m not so sure the guy was thinking that he was excluded from her pool of available penises, though. The thing is, it’s not really a game, it’s just how most women think. And once you’re in the friend zone it’s very difficult to get out. It usually takes behavior shocking enough to end the prior relationship if it doesn’t work out.
Making a move doesn’t mean that you can’t explain that you used to think of her as a friend but now are attracted to her, or that you respected her previous relationships enough to not intrude but now are seeing signals and an opportunity to change things. If you’re going to manage the jump from friend to relationship anyway, telling about your feelings isn’t going to do any further harm, and might just help.
I’ve been with women from lots of different cultures and ethnic backgrounds, (including a short-term thing with a Persian girl in college now that I think about it) and there’s not really any “trick” to any of them. Women like pretty much the same things no matter what their upbringing or background. Most of the stuff that whitebread American chicks value will work for Persian, Chinese, Brazilian, or whatever women. Make a woman feel special, valued, safe, and strike a balance between being slightly dominant and making sure she feels like she has an “out” from things so that she doesn’t feel trapped, and you’re pretty much golden.
Notice that all of this precludes your being an asshole most of the time. If you’re going after someone who consistently likes to be treated badly, you’re chasing trouble.
I wouldn’t have a problem with giving you her number. She’s been hit on a bunch of times before and turned 'em down. She’d just turn you down too. That’s what a woman that’s contented with her situation does.
Married, engaged, or not, if your lady’s attractive, guys are going to check her out to see if she’s available for hanky-panky or whatever. You want a girl nobody else finds attractive? You got security issues or somethin’?
