And a guy.
Boston dopefests have a long and sad history, but do keep an eye out for the next one.
GASP
A guitar!! I’m thinking now it’s lucky for YOU that I am married and kept on a short leash. Besides being way too old for you.
Usually the interests are similar enough where I’d feel comfortable doing the dinner and a movie thing. I’m not looking to get married just yet, just to date a bit and meet some new people.
I added that picture just for you, based on your earlier comments. 
Was the personal by someone called Kim? Here’s a Kim who doesn’t like long hair either.
My long-haired, brainy guy has absolutely no musical ability whatsoever. I’m not upset about it, though. I think I’ll live. 
*this was taken about 6 months ago, so his hair is almost past the shoulders
now.
Oh and FTR: Sunspace, Hal Briston, and Lord Ashtar are quite good looking!
There’s nothing wrong with your looks, Ashtar. I’d tell you if there was. If you’re not getting results, then I’d say there’s something else going awry.
Wowie zowie! That is one FINE lookin’ guy. And the guy in the next pic ain’t bad either. (Though I think he might get better results in his online dating endeavors if he didn’t wear the paper turkey hat. 
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I’m not speaking to you people anymore. It’s just MEAN to post menus when you know I’m on a diet!
Do you live in Raleigh? I’d swear those apartments are just down the road from my bf’s old place.
OK, I haven’t figured out the quick reply thing. The above comment was directed to Lord Ashtar in response to his pictures.
And if you don’t want to give away your location, that’s fine. The building just looked so familiar that I responded without thinking.
Nah, I don’t mind. I live in Northern Virginia, just outside of DC.
And thanks for the kind words, Green Bean. I guess I’m just such a unique individual with such eclectic tastes that it’s just going to take longer than average.
Well, it does depend on your complete personally, but I can tell you that this isn’t necessarily true regarding “brainiacs” at least. First serveral of my friends are excessively intelligent and have married extremely attractive women. As for my self I have dated several people that I met online, some of which I was involved with over a year, including my current fiance (who I have been with for about 2-3 years). I can clearly state that intelligence was always stated as a big attraction after we had been involved for a while. As for the hair, that may be a different issue. I can also say that the women that friends or I have dated preferred clean-shaven, short haired, well groomed men. This of course is still always a matter of taste as well, but surely there are girls that would not mind long hair that like intelligent men as well.
I don’t know what city you live in, which could be a fact I suppose, but I would like at the big picture. If you are gainfully imployed, not excessively fat or ugly, well groomed and have similar interests to the person, then there likely won’t be any problem. It simply may be that they may have bought into a preconceived notion that will be overcome once you get to know them. What brainy means to them may not be the same it means to you or me. Without having met you, it may be hard for some of them to know that “intelligent” is not equal to “dork”
I think what it may come down to is, find someone that seems to have interests that are similar, met them, and see where it goes. Be warned that internet dating CAN be brutal as it becomes a numbers game, especially for women (who tend to have a larger pool of men online to pick from). This means that the longer they have been online, the more jaded women become. Don’t feel bad if the first person you meet doesn’t work out. If you aren’t afraid to meet a few people it can work out quite well. For what it is worth, from my experiences, I do personally do recommend it…especially for “brainy” guys.
sorry about errors in my post…after reviewing it I see several typos. The comments still hold true however.
Good Luck
Hello Lord Ashtar,
hijack warning!
As a married het guy, I can’t really comment on your degree of attractivness.
What I can say is that you bear an uncanny resemblance to how I imagine most paladin / knight / military-good-cleric type characters in D&D/Fantasy or medieval novel I read. You seem to have good forearms for wielding a longsword.
You wouldn’t happen to be a member of the SCA, by any chance? You would probably look like a Knights-Templar recruiting poster in mail & surcoat.
Oh, and imho your long hair doesn’t give you a “flower child / dropout / acid freak” look. (not-that-theres-anything-wrong-with-that) As a fairly socially conservative MBA-type, I would not have had a bad first impression in a first interview.
Good luck on the dating scene. I would try other sites. An early girlfriend was always giving me a hard time about talking about obscure topics, lousy TV/movie physics, and the technology of how stuff worked.
[boasting mode]
So I showed her:
I married a radiation doctor with a bigger SF/Fantasy library than mine and a penchant for Tudor history.
Living happily is the best revenge. 
[/boasting mode]
Check out OKCupid–it’s a lot less mainstream, and it’s free, which is very cool.
We’ve got a doper network going; if you sign up, send me a friend request (same name as here).
For those who’ve professed a preference in this thread for long-haired intelligent menfolk, I give you thisfeast for the eyes…
This post is very cool! Thanks! But um…what’s the SCA?
Done and done. That’s a cool site!
Gah! Don’t say that, Ash, or I’ll have to revoke your geek credentials. Every geek should’ve heard of the SCA. (Society for Creative Anachronism - AKA the RenFesters.)
So, gals, where’s the love for the short-haired brainy guys, huh? I’m waitin.
I’m a short-haired brainiac – not the geeky type, although I do show solidarity with them – and I do see a lot of profiles that list the trait as a turn-off; if not a majority, it’s up around 40% at least. I don’t know if they’re turned off by a stereotypical brainiac – the Asperger-ish, socially inept, olfactory-challenged, obsessed-with-computers-and-Star-Trek geek – or if they’re including guys who just happens to have a high IQ.
I do see a lot of geeky and artsy girls that list being a brainiac as a desired trait, but then they list “long hair” as a turn-off. I think it’s to weed out mullets, groders, and the like.
Many women who list “long hair” as a turn-on include “brainiac” in their turn-off list. They’re usually the girls with airbrushed wolf shirts who say they like Harleys.
A Linux users group meeting or RPG con might be filled with long-haired brainiacs, but out in the real world it’s a different story. You also have to admit a lot of those guys fall into the negative stereotype.