Actually, situational elements play a major part in appraisal of physical attractiveness - familiarity being a prime example. See here for instance. I also recall a study which found students closest to mailboxes in dorms were more likely to be in a relationship, since they were more likely to meet other students while making their way to and from their dorm.
Would she still want to marry you if she saw what you admit here? I don’t care if you’re autistic, you basically admit here you don’t love her, and you know damn well why you don’t want her to see it.
Will you cut this out- you are making ma break down laughing.
And Sandra NZ- yes I can understand the point you make, but when you read how cogent and well structured most of John Clays posts are, does it fit well with the profile you have?
The difference between you and the cheater is, the cheater possesses the wisdom to use a little discretion. Something you seem to entirely lack.
I may be misremembering, but I seem to recall the last time we covered your misogynist view of your girlfriend it was revealed that both of you have some emotional/mental health/developmental challenges. And I seem to recall it somewhat tempered people’s initial disgust with your behaviour.
As you seem to have learned nothing from those threads, and have ignored people telling you that this is an inappropriate way to speak of someone you love, you now seem to be whoring for attention with the thing you know will set everyone off.
You should be aware such behaviour borders on ‘trolling’, and is frowned upon, on this board and others.
If you and your girlfriend are happy with how your reference each other that’s all that matters, but you’d be well advised to recognize the rest of the world will be appalled to hear someone speak this way of someone they love. Just as they would be to hear a parent refer to their child as, ‘a retarded moron’, even if, in fact, their child is both retarded and a moron. Not because of what it says about the child but because of what it reveals about the parent!
Again, discretion is very important.
I am going to use this phrase in conversation from now on. Thank you. 
OP, you are seriously fucked up. Stop trying to fuck up other people’s lives also. It won’t make you any better.
Yep she’s as good as it gets in my life. I can imagine a more attractive body for her (though her old nickname was “the body”) but that would mean she’d be in even more demand from other guys and I’d be more “out of my league”.
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I’m saying you treat people you care about the same way Jack N does in the movie.
As Good As It Gets. Try the scenes starting at 2:47 and at 6:24.
Wait, what??? You went to a prostitute and you ‘forgot’ the cash??? :eek: I mean, as I understand it, prostitution is pretty straightforward - cash for sex (or, I guess in your case - kissing practice, which I can only assume must have cost extra since ‘kissing’ is not usually part of the prostitute experience - or so I’ve heard…) - but you ‘forgot’ the only part of the ‘relationship’ that you are responsible for??? How does that happen?
Yeah, that does not bode well for future ‘relationships’!
I have decided that the OP has a sexual fetish that involves talking about a woman’s big, ugly belly. I think he gets off on talking about it on message boards, or to strangers. He loves to say the words, “repulsive, gross, protruding, belly, overlaps her pussy…”
When we all react to his posts, it’s fap city for the OP.
ETA: I’m not just pulling this out of my belly rolls. I read the linked threads by the OP. He manages to work it into lots of threads.
Stick it to paper towel tubes. Literally.
I’m with sandranz
JohnClay, you are different to most people. I don’t really understand why some of the people who are claiming you are trolling are doing so because some of them at least have definitely come across very unusual people before.
You seem very consistent to me, I would say you are more than borderline aspergers though, you are very very aspergery actually. I also understand the reasoning behind your world view. I don’t necessarily agree with all of it but that’s fine.
Just go ahead and don’t worry about all this negative so-called “advice” (and definitely ignore anyone who says you don’t exist - hell it’s obvious with a tiny bit of googling you exist). Things seem to be working out great so carry on doing what you’re doing.
Let us know when you get married!
Yes, it does. My analogy of the adults with Down’s Syndrome was not intended to imply I think John Clay has a similar disorder. But I see many characteristics of Asperger’s in his post, although admittedly my real life experience with working with people with Asperger’s is pretty limited.
I clicked on** JohnClay**'s user name and read many of his posts. I had thought he was some kind of lurking troll. But now I see that he has been completely nuts as far back as the 500 post history goes.
I don’t think he has regular interaction with humans at all. He does not seem to understand basic social concepts. He strikes me as a person who is institutionalized, with broadband access.
If you are bored, read and be entertained. I don’t think he could make it to the grocery store and back without some normal person reporting him.
You know what? You’re right, and now I feel like an asshole.
Well I think it just shows that there is mainly just one thing that bothers me about her. But there are many many things I like or love about her…
The person they cheat with knows about it in a similar way to just that the posters here know about it. In both cases the partner doesn’t know.
“entirely lack”? My fiance doesn’t know the full extent of what I’ve been writing on these messageboards - i.e. I’ve been using discretion.
I also hate my own belly. I guess now I’m not just a misogynist but I also hate both sexes?!
All I’ve been doing is pointing out one aspect that bothers me about her. I haven’t been calling her an a**hole or some other name that some married couples call each other. BTW I’ve become more fond of the term of being “bothered” rather than “repulsed”.
BTW a lot of couples start name-calling when they fight… I’m not name-calling…
So there is basically ONE thing that really “bothers” (I’m using that term now) me about my fiance and many things that I love or like about her…
So therefore I have no business even being in a relationship with a prostitute?
What about that very high percentage of people who have an affair?
Perhaps you want me to never speak of what bothers me on a messageboard again and perhaps never even acknowledge it to myself.
No, dude, I want you to learn tact and compassion.
What you’re talking about isn’t love, it’s infatuation. True, actual love isn’t just the honeymoon phase.
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It’s not about pussy - it’s about me getting off.
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Yeah, real deep. :rolleyes:
Have you ever, once, considered HER feelings or her sexual needs or desires? Do NOT get married until you can identify at least three of her feelings before she shares them. Also, worry more about your own damned belly–her belly is not yours to control.
Lastly, is it not possible to be happy all the time and if someone told you that or wrote a book claiming it, they’re a liar. See your therapist about better living through lying. Yours could do with some work.