There is a stereotype that shy people really want to interact, but they all have social anxiety. i don’t believe this is true. For me, i can speak up in class with less anxiety than many extroverted people. But i cannot bring myself to ‘communicate’ with people. I think this is really shutting alot of doors in my life. Girlfriends, friends, new options, new info, i feel like i’m missing all of it. But for me, its not a question of ‘go out and interact’ because for some reason interacting is just as traumatic as being isolated. Interacting feels artificial, invasive and forced. Isolation feels barren and lacking. So i am not sure what to do.
I think that deep down inside i don’t want people to ‘know’ me. I don’t want to give any info that would let people know me, or what i am, or who i am, or anything. Maybe i’m really ashamed of myself deep down inside and fear being unmasked. i am not sure. But i know i more or less acted in ways that showed i didn’t want people to ‘know’ me when i was 4 or 5. So maybe i need to learn to interact without letting people know me. Maybe i need to accept myself better. Who knows. anyone else have experience with this?
and to me interacting on the internet isn’t the same as in person. on the internet, i have so much control over who, what, when where how & why i talk that the forced & invasive feelings disappear. I can talk to very attractive women, people with Ph.Ds, 14 year olds, rich people, etc. Its a different environment online.