I originally came in here to say that no matter the amount of sex my ex was getting, typically 3-5 times a week, (and yes he was practically a large hairy child I was raising) he would claim it had been WEEKS!, WEEKS! since he’d gotten any. So there could be some misreporting on that front as well.
I beg to differ, if all men were packing big guns, then the ‘big’ would eventually become ‘average’. Plus, from what I’ve noticed, well endowed men are lazy and unskilled.
Unless I’ve been whooshed, in which case, carry on!
he not only had a lower sex drive, but also much narrower definitions of what constitutes “acceptable sex”
there were medical issues involved (I’ve mentioned before that Mom was bedridden for almost two years, that’s the point where sex stopped and didn’t restart)
I would like to append to miamouse’s post that, while I can’t tell what are “supersize” guys like, I can certify that it’s possible to be on the short side, have the sex drive of a bunny rabbit, and blow goats in bed. My sex drive goes up a lot when it knows I’m going to get Good Sex, compared to when all that’s in the cards is pain and stress. Plus, I don’t think that a guy who’s refused to have sex because he was squicked out about something or just playing meanie has the right to complain about his girlfriend “not being horny enough” (and yes, I’ve had a bf withdraw sex because he didn’t like that I’d eaten fish for dinner - no, he didn’t last).
Oh, you haven’t been whooshed. I’m very serious. If all dicks were big, they would be average, statistically speaking, but omygodly speaking, they would still be awesome. I mean really.
I haven’t noticed that men with big penises are any lazier on average than any other man. Most times, I notice men are very enthusiastic about sex, as am I. Although, I have my lazy days, and I notice that my husband has his lazy days too. Interestingly, usually on the same days I have mine.
Too late for edit window, I know, but I wanted to say to fisha, that I have taken your points as well. But I want to avoid the idea men with big equipment are any lazier than anyone else…most times, men are men, and if you bring your big personality into a bedroom, then he is more likely to bring his too, regardless if he has anything else big to bring.
Obviously all people are different. I am glad you enjoy the large dick. For some of us, it hurts and is a huge turnoff. Therefore, one may just as easily say, “the marriage is sexless because of a large penis which is painful to the woman” as “the marriage is sexless because of a small penis which is unsatisfying.”
Both account for a very small fraction of the problem, I am fairly sure.
Agreed. I hate really big dicks. And I can’t even come from vaginal intercourse, so the size wouldn’t really affect me–unless it were SO big it was painful, which would make me dislike it.
I think this analogy might work better for many women if Person A was never sure if they were going to get wine at all. The ambiance and everything would be there, and nice, but while B got served every time A would occasionally have to go to the fridge and get a beer.
That is also really interesting, about being ‘over touched.’ I’d try to come up with an analogy for men’s bodies but I fear it would come off as paedo-like.
Not applicable to all women, of course, but because it often takes a bit more time and work to get to orgasm for a woman, having a small window in which to do it (e.g. while the kid’s asleep) might make it less appealing than masturbation. I’ve mentioned this before, but the term ‘sex drive’ is about as simple as the term sex – do we mean a wish to have sex of some sort with another human, a wish for orgasm, or a desire for both?
Since it is obvious that all women are different, let’s just assume that and not even bother to state.
I am beating the big dick drum for a reason. I think (only speaking for me; in hindsight I guess I DO have to stress that) that a lot of women hesitate to admit that they like a big penis. I believe there may be some women out there that may think people might think them sluts or something if they admit they like big penises.
I am not trying to dismiss women that don’t like big penises. I am trying to be a tiny voice for some women that may not want to admit that their hubbies aren’t really bringing the excitment in that area.
Because I believe that a lot of men that claim their women are frigid or whatever may feel more comfortable desexualizing her…pretending it is all about her widdle feewings when maybe, just maybe, it is about his widdle penis.
Why would you assume I’m talking about only the female? Why would you assume that liking sex I consider ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’, or a disorder? Why would you assume that I believe men don’t have these issues? Why would you assume that I believe women don’t grow up?
Good for you but a lot of women don’t get off that way. Some people get off with clitoral stimulation while having vaginal sex, but for me it’s kind of hard to deal with both at once…I can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation alone.
Women probably (physically) enjoy sex more than men. It’s just the way our bodies are set up.
I am having trouble with the OP’s logic. It seems to beg the question that enjoying sex means someone will want to have it. I really enjoy a stacked reuben; I don’t eat one every day. Women are simply better at controlling the urge to have sex.