Oh, it all works. I orgasm just a little bit when the barkeep freshens up my cocktail.
Just to represent, or whatever, I like big dicks.
The other thing I think people forget is that, yes, most women cannot achieve orgasm through intercourse alone. So “bad” sex for men still usually results in orgasm, but for women it doesn’t. When I was in my sexless marriage (and I was told frequently it was “my fault” and that I was frigid) it just got to the point where I didn’t care anymore. I didn’t come, and I was tired of being used as a masturbation sleeve. Also he was gross, and smelled weird, and drooled and just… ugh.
I do often think back on him saying how frigid I am, and how I am probably a lesbian, as I lay in the glow of multiple orgasms after hours of wonderful sex. As it turns out, I really like sex with a good lover. So yeah, I “withheld”. But I still don’t think it was all my fault.
Maybe that’s because eating your favorite food all the time will make you fat. Having sex all the time does not have adverse effects.
And besides, the OP was not about “sex every single day”. I assume that if someone likes sex a lot, they will want to have it more than once a month. Which I think is borne out by all the men & women who complain of not getting enough sex.
“Women do too want sex as much as men do! And men claim they’re being sex-starved when they’re getting it three to five times a week! And it’s men’s fault they don’t get enough sex, for being too unattentive. And it’s men’s fault they don’t get enough sex, for being lousy lovers! And it’s men’s fault they don’t get enough sex, for having small penises!”
And furthermore, your honour, I don’t even *have *a lawn. 
waves at DianaG Don’t worry, this is all the poisoning I’ll be doing in this thread.
Yep, and getting out of the habit is really easy when lives are busy.
When you date someone, you are setting aside time to be with that person. And at some point, for a lot of people, you sort of are setting aside time to have sex.
You get married and now you don’t set aside time for that person (or most people don’t), and time with that person, even if you love them and lust after them, sometimes becomes a lower priority than just taking care of the housekeeping of life.
And then you are out of the habit. And then the resentment builds.
But I also think that for a lot of people, they don’t want sex to be a habit. Sex should be a glorious and spontaneous act of lust. And with marriage, you often do need to make it a habit. That doesn’t mean its distasteful, just that if you wait for the spontaneous act of lust between two people married for ten years with preschoolers in the house - you may be waiting a while.
One other factor is that testosterone levels drop throughout the course of the day (hence “morning wood”). If the woman is used to sex happening in the evening, just before going to sleep, that will be at the absolute nadir of the male sex drive.
By the way, in my experience women don’t value a large penis anywhere near as much as an agile tongue.
Because this thread is NOTHING BUT assumptions and blanket statements. And if your assumptions and blanket statements don’t match my assumptions and blanket statements YOU’RE WRONG! 
Here’s what I’ve found: If the difference in your libido is GREATER than your SO’s by a certain threshold, you will part ways. (I tried to work dick size into this, but couldn’t.)
Less than that threshold, you will be unhappy and grouse about it, but stay together.
That threshold is surprisingly large in certain circumstances.
That reminds me. When I worked in town, Hubby and I used to have a standing date on Thursday at lunch time to meet at home for a little fun. At first he hemmed and hawed around about having to have “an appointment for sex”. After a while he stopped fussing about it. 
Difficulty of orgasming is one important factor.
Both women and men need to realise that sex doesn’t need to begin and end (emphasis on the end) with PIV sex.
Heh, look, you have to think about where this thread is coming from. We’re working off the premise that women don’t enjoy sex. When several women chimed in the other thread and stated of course women enjoy sex, the response was a thread essentially titled, “Oh yeah? Then why are there so many sexless marriages?” We’re kind of operating from a “You know, men can be the culprits, too” angle. Sad truth is marriages often get stale, and I’m not going to assign blame to a particular gender in.
Polerius - several women have now answered your question (some are quoted below). I wonder what you think about the answers. Do you agree that a “sexless marriage” is a complicated thing, and that it’s way too simplistic to generalize that “sexless marriages” tend to result from women having low libidos or not “loving sex”?
Also, I notice that you’ve asked people to volunteer a lot of personal information, e.g., about their marriages, their sex lives, and whether they like big dicks. I don’t think you’ve told us much about your own experiences (although maybe it was there and I missed it), so I’m curious whether you have anything personal to add about your experience with marriage or sex (or lack thereof).
I have been in a relationship that was not sexually fulfilling. I tried my damnedest to get it where I wanted to be sexually, and it never happened. I eventually gave up. The relationship didn’t work out.
This was my experience, too (in my failed marriage). Fortunately, sex with other partners, including my current partner, has been great.
Can I get this on a t-shirt?
That wouldn’t attract any negative attention at all.
Do they do one about throwing a kit-bag up a dry-dock?
Well, I need something to wear for my weekly gangbang at the video store.
Malacandra, I heard of hot dog down a hallway, but yours is a lot more colorful, isn’t it?
How much time did you invest in these marriages/relationships before you gave up? Do high libido women stay in sexless marriages/relationships for years on end? (Because there are many marriages/relationships that remain sexless for years on end)
[BTW, Sidney, from your username, I did not realize you are a woman]
Do high libido men?
Hey, here’s an interesting question… if men like sex so much more than women do, why are so many of them willing to live without it?
Let me see if I can summarize what can be gathered from reading this thread, regarding sex, enjoyment of sex, desire to have sex, and long term relationships:
Both men and women enjoy sex to the same degree
In the beginning, everything is hunky dory, plenty of sex
As time goes on, the desire to have sex with one’s partner goes down for the some or all of the following reasons (which apply to both genders)
- Practical: Kids, work, housework, being tired, lack of time, etc
- Emotional: Emotional connection declines, pissed of at the partner for a variety of reasons, etc
- Physical attraction: He/She let themselves go, put on weight, effects of aging, etc
- Sexual ability: “She gives the worst blowjobs”, “He is a selfish lover”, etc
The above affect both gender’s desire to have sex with their partner, but men are more willing to overcome the problems and want to have sex anyway because:
- Men still get to orgasm even in adverse situations, whereas women don’t, which gives men an added incentive to have lousy sex compared to women.
- Possibly hormonal/genetic/etc differences between men and women (difference in libido, on average)
- Possibly social pressure (implicit or explicit) felt by men who don’t get “enough” sex
The decline in the willingness of women to have sex with their partner in long term relationships versus the non-decline in the willingness of men to have sex with their partner should not be taken to mean that women don’t enjoy sex as much as men, but should be evaluated in the context of all the above points.
Do we have an agreement? Did I misstate something? Any points I have missed?