Not the OP, and can’t speak for him but I do have a theory. It is one thing to make a clean break, move on with your lives and then see other people. It is quite another to be in the process of having this happen and then have her fucking someone. I had a slightly similar experience in my youth where I was living with someone and we split up, but had to stay in the same apartment for a month until the lease ran out. She pretty much took up with some other guy and would be loudly fucking him in the next room while I attempted to sleep on the couch.
Now, in my case, I did not have any “claim” on her anymore but it still hurt like hell. Human nature, and a pretty crappy thing to do to another person. Keep your pants on for a month, for fuck sake.
I saw the title, “Why did you fuck that guy on Holiday?” and I was thinking, “you gotta be like zee ee-po”, then I opened the thread and he started saying he was for scuba.
I can shake the image of GomiBoy getting a ride to the airport on the back of the moped of the guy fucking his girlfriend.
(btw, mostly funny, WAAAYYY underrated movie. Hoffman and Baldwin are gold in that shit. “Along Came Polly” for those following the hijack.)
To be perfectly honest, it’s not about her fucking someone else. It’s about how and when she chose to fuck someone else, and about continuing the fling in the face of all decency and the advice of her friends, about her incredibly selfish behaviour that’s designed to hurt me. It’s about not being able to restrain herself for three fucking weeks to save the feelings of someone she used to say she loved and still lives with.
It’s about respect and common courtesy. I wouldn’t do this to her, because I am a good guy. I try to respect the feelings of others, and restrain myself from creating situations that I flat-out know will hurt someone else (as much as possible - I’m not a saint after all).
Trunk - I have no earthly idea what you’re talking about. but yeah, I like diving, so I guess if nothing else we can dive together
**lieu ** - me and my penis have had several long heart to hearts (he has his own heart, just like his own brain). He still wants to get toes deep in her at every possible opportunity. Brain says no, but hey, what’s a penis for if not thinking for itself? Don’t worry - any sex will be just that. I am not changing one iota from my plan. I’m gone on the 1st, not coming back, and not going to waste any more time than absolutely necessary on this fucked up relationship.
**Stonebow ** - the holiday had been being planned since Sept 2004; non-refundable or changeable tickets, big group of 19 friends going, etc. etc. etc. That’s why I went; if it was just the two of us, I would have cancelled out like nobody’s business (or made her cancel out) - either way I wouldn’t have gone.
BinaryDrone - got it in one. I didn’t have it quite as bad as you did - I didn’t have to hear them fucking every night - but it was pretty hard to avoid as the large group would get together for dinners or parties or whatever and these two idiots were hanging all over each other.
Can someone explain to me what “be like zee ee-po” means?
GomiBoy, your ex is a skank, no doubt about it, but so long as you say things like “Don’t worry - any sex will be just that” you are your skank’s doormat. Drop her. Walk away from her. Don’t look back.
It won’t be funny in the retelling. In “Along Came Polly” Hank Azaria plays a French scuba driving instructor who tells Ben Stiller he has to “be like zee ee-po” (be like the hippo).
Ben Stiller tells him he doesn’t know what that means and Hank tells him a story about a hippo who wasn’t happy with who he was, so he tried to look like a zebra and a giraffe, but when he finally just decided to be a hippo, he was happy.
The French scuba instructor also (spoiler, but it’s only 10 minutes into the movie anyway, so it isn’t much of a spoiler)
fucks ben stiller’s wife on their honeymoon
Azaria also says, “are you for scuba?” to mean “do you like scuba?”
Your mistake, not hers. She wanted to and he wanted to and why shouldn’t they, so as not to hurt your misguided feelings? Give me a break. I do agree that wanting to come back to you after is ridiculous and pit-worthy, thoug. I amnot saying she is a princess, but she is an adult (I assume) and single and I think it is ridiculous for you to get upset about that part of it.
So what’s she supposed to do? Never get laid again to spare your feelings? It’s not your problem any more what she does. You need to move out and move on.
She’s your ex, you have no claim on what she does. If she wants to fuck one of your friends, more power to her. Sound to me like you are the one having trouble grasping the reality of the situation here. You guys terminated an exclusive relationship and started another as fuck buddies. If you can’t handle what that entails, then it’s you who has the problem, not her.
As for her wanting to get serious again-well, thats a call you have to make. Personally, I’d move out as planned and use her for recreational boinking until one of you becomes involved in a new relationship.
Call me old fashioned, but when you break up, you break up. You scream at each other, you let her throw breakable objects, you pack a bag and you go crash on a friend’s couch. Are you saying that of those 19 friends, none of them would take you in?
IMHO, even the recreational boinking sounds like a bad idea waiting to happen. Also, I can’t for the life of me see how that could possibly be construed as “revenge.” Nor can I see why revenge is even necessary, um…ever.
To reiterate, it’s probably time for penis to look for a new home if it’s not interested in splitting a leaky apartment with strange roommates. There’s always the option of a temporary stay in the Palm Hotel and such.
I’m going for “c”. Five years after this, are you going to look back at your behavior and be proud of dicking around with you ex in an effort to “get her back” for hurting you? Or are you going to shake your head and wondered why you bothered with that twisted, unhealthy nonsense when you could have been moving on.
Your ex is a tacky, classless, skanky ho. And you want to be just like her?
I think weirddave made a good post. Though I can’t help but wonder why when sex enters into a story everyone always seems to be all for throwing politeness and courtesy out the window.
I mean, it sounds to me as if this group of close friends had a trip planned. OP and ex broke up but are still going on this trip relatively shortly after break-up. No, she’s not under any contractual obligation to not fuck a mutual friend while they’re all traveling together, but it’s the fucking (pun intended) considerate thing to do.
At best the ex was inconsiderate and rude, and at worst was being spiteful and manipulative (her asking for a re-try at the relationship immediately after the trip lends me to think it was the later).
Sex is great, but there’s a time and place for everything, and this was a time for her to keep her dick in her pants, so to speak.
Heck, even if none of them would take him in, it sounds like it should be pretty easy to find one who will take her in.
The real mistake here was thinking you could go on vacation with a recent ex and have it go smoothly. Sure, the trip was already paid for, but that doesn’t make it a good idea.
What kind of friend would ball your ex, knowing you still live with her and then be a party to rubbing it in your face? I’d be pissed at him as well as at her. And, what with revenge being sweet and all, I might bring some other girl home, ask your ex to sleep on the sofa, and then you and the other girl should lock yourselves in the bedroom and make as much noise as possible. Repeat every night until you move out. Tell your ex she needs to get her head around it----actually, that ain’t a bad idea in and of itself.
