“Recreational boinking”… isn’t that a tautology?
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Hey, is this the same girlfriend who doesn’t help clean and prepare for parties, and then gets completely out of control at the party? If so, does she still owe you money? I was wondering how that all played out.
You said that she thinks she has control. If you’re angered and upset by her behavior, yet are still sleeping in the same bed, then yeah … she DOES have control.
Thank you; that is my one and only point.
She paid me back. That party was one of the big reasons why we broke up.
And to answer everyone else - as i said before, I am moving out as soon as I possibly can. Until then, it’s like it or lump it. As we have other housemates, sleeping on the sofa is not an option, and the few local friends I have who could take me in are out of town for the next 2 weeks at a big trade show.
So grab a pillow, some blankets and sleep on the floor.
Actually, brother of her best friend, so not really a friend of mine. He was actually quite sensitive about it, once he found out the back story.
I have no problems with his actions; if presented with the same situation from his perspective, I likely would have done the same thing he did (my ex is pretty damn sexy). And I honestly don’t have a problem with her shagging someone else. I just have a problem with her timing and her consideration for others (namely me).
Guinastasia Why punish myself more? Why pass up a comfortable bed? It’s only 2 more weeks. I can be a better person than she can, I don’t need to be a dick. And if I can get some recreational boinking as well, then so be it.
Little bit more complex than that; we have shared funds, shared rent, shared housing, and my money is mostly tied up in our flat. I needed to shake that money loose before I could move. And nothing moves quickly in England, especially involving finances.
Don’t kid yourself, Gomi, it’s about the sex. But that’s okay. I know it hurts like hell, and believe me, any kind of revenge is not going to make it feel any better. The bad news is, it takes time to get over it. The good news is, once you are over it, you’ll wonder why it bothered you so much in the first place. At least, that’s what it was like for me when I went through a similar situation. YMMV, but not by very much, I’ll bet.
So which is it?
Well, fine, but then don’t bitch that she’s using you. She can’t do that if you don’t let her.
Ya know, they do that. A lot of women, my ex wife included, fuck around as soon as they break up. It helps their self esteem. You need to get the hell away from this psychobetty. Find someone else to use for sex.
“They were still wearing their fins…”
Best line in the movie (something like that anyway).
No offense dude, but this statement kinda goes against what you’re saying about “respect and common courtesy” and how you are “a good guy”. Trust me, your “revenge”, while it may seem clever now, is not going to help you bring closure to this relationship in the long run.
HAHAHA. Finally, something that actually made me laugh out loud. My gf loves that show!
How could I have missed that one the first time around?
No bitching here… it’s over, it’s done, and now it’s just damage control.
If I took seriously advice from a message board, I would worry about people who say things like this…
You could also explore an open relationship… if you can do it.
Otherwise just get on with your life.
Didn’t like the message, now you’re bashing the messenger?
DUDE.
-you broke up with her, yet you’re still sleeping in the same bed and still having sex.
-you vacationed together and she hooked up.
-you’re angry about it because she’s not being polite/discreet?
-yet you’re still going to sleep in the same bed with her? and have sex with her?
Even I have to say, you don’t have much to stand on here.
That’s my plan; open relationships don’t appeal to me.
Happy Scrappy Hero Pup - not bashing the messenger. not even disagreeing with the message. Just not taking it too seriously due to it’s origins. I agree it’s pretty weak to stick with her at all, but I figure I can be a better person by not letting her shitty actions turn me into an asshole; I can be true to myself.
I never said I wasn’t fucked up, and to be perfectly honest, this is just a chance for me to rant about what’s bugging me; I’m not looking for any validation of either her or my actions.
I have a course already decided (move out on my own ASAP, get my life back), I have a plan of action for the short term (don’t look for it, but don’t deny myself a recreational boink if it’s offered; move out on the first of July, try to be a grown-up and be a better person than she is), and a longer term plan - don’t see her again except when absolutely necessary (i.e. a mutual friend is leaving the country soon, and I will be at her farewell party, as will the Ex), move on with my life, look back and laugh at some later point. I’ve explained why I can’t move out right away, and have further explained that I won’t see her after the 1st of July.
But some semi-anonymous person on a message board telling me I’m pretty fucked up (when I already know I’m pretty fucked up) just isn’t gonna sink in, dig?