You are trying to strike a compromise between the big head and the little one. Ain’t gonna work.
I had a lot more to add, but I suspect you wouldn’t be interested.
Regards,
Shodan
Please, add away. You’re one of the ones I respect around here (believe it or not…)
You’re track record, judging by your own words, is weak. Just like your resolve. You’ll be recreation boinking until she cuts you loose. Not the othe way around. Future living arrangements not withstanding.
Well, since you ask your old Uncle Shodan…
If any or all of this becomes non-applicable after July 1, so much the better, for everyone.
You are saying that you have broken up, and are sleeping in the same bed. These two things do not go well together.
You are also saying you have broken up, but she shouldn’t be fucking anyone else. These two things do not go well together.
And you are saying that you are mad at her for having sex without considering your feelings, but you want to have sex with her without considering her feelings. And those two things don’t go together at all.
Ending a relationship is like removing a bandage. A fast, hard yank, the bandage is ripped away, you yell really loud, and then it is over. But then don’t pick at it.
Like I say, maybe this will all be moot after the first of July. But there was one thing you said that made me wonder:
An interesting datapoint will be what you consider to be “absolutely necessary” circumstances, and what happens when you do see her.
And by “what happens” I mean “do you have sex with her?”. Because if you do, the part about “we have broken up, and I am over her” is the part to disbelieve. She may well bring someone else to the farewell party you mention, and she may well engage in some PDAs that will bother you.
lieu said it best, IMO.
Regards,
Shodan
Pardon me, but I disagree. I may boink her, but the choice is mine as well as hers, not hers alone. And I can end it. I have no problems doing that. The situation I am in prevents it.
You can’t not sleep with her because you’re living together? Color me incredulous.
Then end it. You’re obviously still attatched enough that seeing her with another guy gets your bile rising. Don’t kid yourself.
No it doesn’t.
Again, don’t you have a couch? Can you buy a sleeping bag? Do you have friends whose places you can crash at?
Sleeping with your ex is not the best way to move on.
I would just like to attempt to be the voice of reason in this thread and say that Along Came Polly was a terrible movie. Normally, I enjoy that type of humor, but something about it just was resoundingly unfunny.
As long as I don’t have to sit on your lap 
I agree; the situation dictates that we share a room for now. That situation will not last more than 2 weeks.
I didn’t say she shouldn’t fuck anyone else; I did say that she shouldn’t fuck someone from within a small group where I will be forced to take notice. She could have had the decency to shag someone from outside the group if she was that desperate, or else alternatively to take her shag buddy and stay elsewhere.
Nope; I would like to have sex with her, but am considering her feelings. If she does not want to have sex, I won’t pressurize her. Furthermore, if she does not want to have sex but I hook up with someone else, I won’t force her to be present or even to notice it.
For reasons already stated, it’s not quite that simple here.
After the 1st, I doubt there will be any sex. If I meet her at a group function where both of us must be there, then so be it. I will attempt to be a mature adult and if she decides to bring someone along and flaunt herself in front of me I can either take it or leave.
Yep, he said it pretty right. I do control my penis just a bit, though…
And thanks for the comments.
Dude, stop having sex with her. No wonder she has such little respect for you-you’re a complete doormat.
Hurtful and unfair; the situation dictates that I stay here; housemates mean I can’t sleep on the sofa. I could sleep on the floor but choose not to.
If (and that’s a big if - my dick doesn’t control that much of me) we have sex in the future, it’s just that - sex. Nothing more.
I’ve told her how fucked up I think her behaviour has been. I’ve told her I won’t take her back. And I’ve told her that after the 1st I won’t by choice spend much time with her - there are two social occasions with shared friends that will require both of our presences that can’t be changed in the next two months. What about this makes me a doormat exactly?
How about a nice ride in my car, and some candy?
And remember that if you tell anyone about our little secret, God will kill your mommy.
Sorry, didn’t realize she was inflatable.
In that case, can I watch?
And here I will add the only serious comment I have to share.
You can tell when you are over her by being sure there won’t be any sex. Because you will have decided not to do the horizontal bop with her.
Good luck, no matter what happens.
Regards,
Shodan
You, sir, are one sick little monkey. I plan on keeping any future children or girlfriends well clear of you 
As soon as my damn pecker stops finding her so bloody attractive will be a better day for me… but seriously, you’re right. That’s what I hope to achieve after the first, when I look around and see what else is out there (and London is a great city for eligible totty from all over the world! :))
Thanks
Regards? I’m not even sure I want to know who you are
Well, if you ever change your mind and want to get to know me…
Regards,
Shodan
Now I am sure you scare me
Dude, do you even believe this bullshit?
I know a guy who used to say this kinda stuff about his X. Some of the lines are the exact same, actually.
He ended up wasting 8 years of his life on that worthless bitch.
Think about it.
I will waste at most 2 weeks. I can live with that, seeing as how I have already wasted a year on her.
After the 1st of July, I am out of here, and seriously doubt I will be back…
Like any feeling necessarily dissapear right at the moment you decide to split up.
I’ve a tendancy to stay in friendly terms with my exes, and there’s always a difficult phase after you just split up when I was uncomfortable with the concept of her being with someone else (and it worked also the other way around, IME).
I’ve also been once in the OP’s situation : we had decided to split up but for material reasons, had to still live together for several months. We also went together once to a previously planned event during this period. I’m not sure how it would have turned had one of us dated or slept with someone else during this period.
I would tend to suspect, based on my mindset and usual behavior, that I wouldn’t have blamed her for such a thing. As posters had mentionned having decidd to split means that your former SO has every right to date, have sex, with whoevr she wants. But I certainly would have been hurt nevertheless (and this despite being perfectly in agreement with the split-up).