Nope, don’t go through a friend. Write her an email saying something along the lines of “I had a good time last night; I wish we could have spent more time together. Would you like to get together and do something soon?” Oh, and always suggest a specific activity, like going to a movie or back to the club, or whatever you both like to do. It avoids that awkward “What do you wanna do?” “I don’t know, what do you wanna do?” routine.
It sounds to me like you did/are doing everything right, and my guess is you’re both just… I don’t know if “shy” is the right word… that you need a little push-start?
I’m nothing to write home about, but I have a brother who I am sure I am better-looking than. And more successful.
I repeatedly let my shyness get in the way of talking to women I would like to know. He has no fear. He will walk up to the most beautiful woman in a bar, and engage her in conversation. He doesn’t get down when he’s rejected. And more often than not, they respond positively. He has received the phone number of women in my presence that has left me slack-jawed in amazement.
I’m thinking about scheduling a blood transfusion with him …
Milossarian, that reminds me of two brothers I know who are 13 and 14. I told my boyfriend a while back that, while Kevin is much the better looking of the two, Kyle will have more luck with the ladies, as he’s friendly, talkative and thoughtful.
Hey! Whatsup? I had a load of fun last night! Well I’d like to thank you alot for the dance, although I wish we could have spent a little more time togeather but I guess I was a little too shy to ask <insert blushing face>. This is really taking all the courage I’ve got but I’m starting to like you, you’re funny and everything!
this is the part I can’t finish
Well I doubt you feel the same way… Houston, we’ve lost all confidence. Anyone wanna help finish this email?
…would you feel like going to a movie, or grabing a bite to eat friday or saturday?
thats all it takes it doesn’t have to be long but open the end of the letter so you do someting together later! I might rewrite your last line on taking all your courage to write it, smells desparate, stand up! be confident! say what you mean! mean what you say!
The worst she can say is no. the best… well use your imagination.
good luck!!
Get rid of that “courage” line. They can smell fear.
I’m sure you will, but be sure to run it through a spellcheck, and use punctuation. Punctuation (IMHO) is a good indicator of interest on her part… I.e., If she writes you a perfect letter, it means she took the time, and (maybe) is trying to impress you.
Thats great if you have exchanged emails before, and she wrote them in typical “IM” format. (All lowercase, multiple periods seperating sentences, etc.)
Remove the part about “taking all your courage”. Self-confidence is probably the most efficient tool to attract people, and you definitely don’t need to advertize you’re lacking it. Same with the blushing face. Being “a little too shy” is OK
Don’t say “I doubt you feel the same way”. Same reason. There’s no reason to assume it, and even less to hint her into thinking she shouldn’t feel the same way, which is what you’re doing. Plus, saying that, you’re basically asking her to tell you now whether she’s interested in you or not. Let her some time to think a little about it. Just ask her out for now.
Hey whatsup? I’m bored outta my mind! The vox was pretty fun eh, other than the heat and all the peeps, got pretty crowded eh? Well I’d like to thank you alot for the dance, although I wish we could have spent a little more time togeather but I guess I was a little too shy to ask <insert blushing face >. I’m starting to like you, you’re funny and everything! Maybe you’d wanna get togeather and go see a movie sometime next week? Or go to the vox again?
Thar she blow! The final copy. Dopers, am I getting a date next week?
I have a lot of trouble with the “I’d like to thank you for the dance” part. Thank her? You gotta make her thank YOU dammit!
Get rid of the “…but I guess I was a little too shy to ask <insert blushing face >…” part.
And the “I’m starting to like you, you’re funny and everything!”
Change the last sentence to “Maybe you’d wanna get together and go see a movie or head to the vox again next week?”
These are my suggestions, YMMV. And you do realize that nothing we say here will guarantee you get a second date right?
Proofread, spellcheck, and get back to us before you send.(so others can chime in)
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*Originally posted by Spit * I have a lot of trouble with the “I’d like to thank you for the dance” part. Thank her? You gotta make her thank YOU dammit!
NO! Definitely keep that part in! That’s good.
[QUOTEGet rid of the “…but I guess I was a little too shy to ask <insert blushing face >…” part.
I agree with that.
Keep that!
I think you might get a date with her–I don’t see why not. You never know, but at least you’re making a step in the right direction!
"Well I’d like to thank you alot for the dance, although I wish we could have spent a little more time togeather but I guess I was a little too shy to ask <insert blushing face >. "
I should have been more clear.
What I meant was, I didn’t like the sentence as a whole. Perhaps if he rephrased?
Hoo boy.
Nothing like the waiting game…
Just remember dude, you might not get the date…or you might!
If it helps, I know how you feel. I can ask any girl out, anytime, anywhere.
But there is this one girl…
I met her 9 months ago, and the moment I started talking to her, I knew something was wrong.
“Wrong” in that every time I email her, it takes DAYS to come up with the “perfect” note. When I go somewhere she will be, I spend a week preparing.
The last time I had a conversation with her, she said (in response to a witty remark of mine) “You deserve a kiss for that!”, and promptly laid one on me.
2 months later, and I still don’t remember what I said that got such a response. It was like I blacked out for a minute.
I guess what I’m trying to relate d12, is that every guy has “the” girl at some point. Maybe I will get my girl, maybe I won’t. Maybe you will get yours, maybe you won’t. Even though I’ve been focused on one girl, it hasn’t stopped me from dating others. You shouldn’t either.
Think how nice it will be for her to come home and find an email from a charming young man!
I expect to hear back in 3 days dude.
[sub]I’ve been meaning to ask…Are you a fan of D12? I mean come on…When Eminem left, so did their talent.[/sub]
I am a teen myself. Well, I’m almost not a teen. I am 19. Lol. I don’t have any advice for you right now, except for love sucks! You read my message board. I have the hugest broken heart in the world. And you were right. I didnt’ lose anything. He did: a beautiful, sweet, intelligent girl with perfect skin, hair, and large breasts. (hahah)
No, but really, Im feeling like crap on the inside, so the best advice I can give you is to go out and have fun. That is what I’m going to do from now on. No more of this serious B/S. When I find the right one, I will know who it is.
