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Hahaha. Wha? 
Referring to column in one of Cecil’s books where he gives several euphemisms for the sex act.
This says it all. Again, such seriously different places in each of our lives would lead to more headaches than shared romantic experience. And I totally agree that the actual sexual aspect would be the least of our concerns.
It’s possible, but he’s a hypothetical 40 year old virgin and if you’ve paid attention to any of R3d Anonymous’s you can be almost certain his imaginary 40 year old virgin would have fucked a woman if he ever had the opportunity.
This was really confusing until I did a little research and discovered that the OP is the poster formerly known as Anonymous User.
Some of us choose to not make use of prostitutes.
What are you trying to say? Do you think everyone who has sex before 40 has been hiring whores?
No, he’s saying that many 40-year old virgins could have ended their virginity earlier by hiring a prostitute, but did not.
I did something similar about four years ago with a poll. I’ll see if I can find it.
Correct.
I was going to vote no simply because I’m not quite to the point where I’m into 40 year old women, but all the people acting like she’d be some horrible freak made me decide to vote yes. Then I found out that I was in the majority. (34/29 when this post was written. I forgot to submit. And 36/30 now.) It seems mostly naysayers that feel the need to explain themselves.
I can’t see lack of sexual experience being a big deal to me. I don’t know why people are assuming a lack of sex drive–most virgins just handle it themselves. Other than that, it’s so far down the list of things I find important that I don’t really care.
I don’t think people are thinking “horrible freak” or even “virgin shaming”. I know I didn’t think of it that way when I posted although maybe I do harbor some of that in my thoughts. So first I apologize if that’s how it comes off. Continuing though, It seems more like people are asking questions albeit it clumsily and insultingly. Just so you know, you are talking to a social misfit, I’m always surprised that people want to be anywhere near me let alone sleep with me. I don’t even like people much except as a concept. Yet it I’ve managed to have several kids worth genital mixing. I totally get non interest in sex; I don’t get interest yet 0 results outside of a religious issue of some kind.
Nope. I’m guessing our respective sex drives are not compatible.
Think just lots of bad luck. (That and for some reason, I tend to attrack the so-called “Nice Guys”. Hell if I know why. And no, I’m not sleeping with some creepy, wannabe stalker, just for the sake of sleeping with someone. Fuck that shit)
40-year old virgin doesn’t necessarily mean low sex drive. Maybe they avoided premarital sex for religious reasons.
I agree with the other reasons posted here, and I’ll add one more: inexperience. Teaching someone isn’t nearly as sexy as it sounds. I’m way past the stage where I’d have any patience for it.
I’m empathize. In other news, thanks for the link, I forgot about that site.
Yeah dude…if religion trumps getting your freak on, we are not compatible. I can’t imagine avoiding sex for any reason. (Aside from obvious things like STDs or missing equipment.)
(And by avoiding I mean: not seeking it out at every reasonable opportunity.)
Good point. Furthermore, people can have changes of faith, so someone who’s a virgin for religious reasons might not still have religious hangups.
That said, not having religion doesn’t free one from religious hangups. The first time I had sex, I was not the least bit religious, and was astonished to feel very powerful guilt feelings. It caught me completely by surprise, and contributed to messing up that relationship. Fortunately, I got over it.
Good thinking. In addition, there are people who enjoy doing this, um, as amateurs. Finding them might be the tricky bit. Notice that the “casual” vote is very low, and I wonder how many of those were men. (I didn’t vote, since it’s clearly intended for women.)
It appears to me (and I am a Christian, but not one who thinks sex should be saved for marriage), that a lot of these folks get married before 40; and really get married incredibly young. Well, unless one is a Priest or Nun. I used to go to a Pentecostal youth group, and a lot of those people seemed to have tied the knot before 25. Sometimes, it seems to me, that knowing sex is only for marriage tends to accelerate the dating process (for one, ‘casual dating’ doesn’t really exist for a lot of these people, they’ll only accept dating someone that they could see marrying, who shares the same belief on waiting until marriage). There have been more a few friends of mine from Facebook from this Pentecostal church who seemingly got married less than a year after they started dating (or at least Facebook dating ;)).