Exactly.
Fat woman weighing in here. I’ve dated men of all heights, shapes, and sizes. Obviously I’m lacking in ‘grotesqueness’ and I just finished yet another degree in December so, nope, not lazy. Oh, and did I mention that 10K that I ran in September? Obviously all fat women are worthless pieces of…
Nonetheless, I’m generally a live and let live kind of person. Sure, I understand that a woman my size might not be your cup of tea, Incubus, but you don’t have to be fucking insulting about it.
Here’s a weird alternate theory: I get attracted to women, not sizes of women. I’ve been attracted to, and fallen in love with, large women, skinny women, and everything in between. I’m not a BBW-lover in the sense that I didn’t select *for *overweight women during my single years, but I didn’t filter them out, either.
If a large woman is a person who’s fun to be with, I will want to be with her, same as with a skinny woman who’s fun to be with. If it turns out, as it did with my wife, that we connect in deeper ways, the weight is neither here nor there.
And once you connect with a woman in deeper ways, it’s not a matter of her v. someone else, it’s all about you and her, and whether it’ll work with her now and into the future.
In my experience, in a big woman that’s usually shorthand for loud and annoying.
In fairness to big women, have you ever met anyone of any size who described themselves as sassy, sexy and fun, and wasn’t loud and annoying?
I’m loving the irony of the OP being schooled in something as basic as sexual attraction when he’s got an active thread poking fun of Dopers who don’t understand easy-to-understand concepts.
What is so freakin’ hard about people liking what they like? Not everyone lets the media dictate to them what is attractive and what isn’t. It’s as simple as that. No pseudo-psychoanalysis is necessary.
BBW? Yes, but let’s get clear with the fact that most fat women are not BBW, they are simply fat and unattractive.
I have not only dated big beautiful women, I have dated one big ugly woman. May God forgive me for saying it, but she’s just flat-out ugly. Yet her heart is as beautiful as any woman’s in the world, and I like her a hell of a lot. We’ve had a dozen dates or so, and we still get together (non romantically) now and then.
Also one big kinda plain woman. Not beautiful, not ugly.
Hey, I’m no prize myself! We dumpy lookin’ guys will take what we can get!
It’s one of those irregular adjectives: I am sassy; you are overbearing; he is obnoxious.
I don’t have a big-girl fetish. I wouldn’t date someone of any size (though especially a thin or average-sized woman) who made “BBW” a significant part of her identity or self-concept, even just in a sexual/romantic context.
I would, if I were on the market, date anyone I was compatible with whom I found attractive, and fat women aren’t disqualified from that.
So it’s hard for me to know how to answer the question.
What a strange last sentence this is. I assure you that men who are attracted to slim women (or men) are not - “little boys.” An adult may be immature for many reasons, but personal taste should not be a factor when judging someone. My guy likes skinny women, and he’s certainly no boy. What each of us finds attractive is simply a matter of personal preference. Period. I have never dated a fat man, but I can understand perfectly well that people of all shapes and sizes can be comfortable in their own skin.
Yep, several of the women I’ve dated have not been petite at all.
Where you start to lose me is where your outline stops resembling a woman and starts resembling a Hippity-hop.
I want curves, not roundness that continues in a full circle. That’s just me, though.
Again, apparently comprehension and context are not strong with some of you. Judging someone’s attractiveness based solely on weight; judging who a person is and really anything about them based on one physical attribute is juvemile and childish. You personally don’t find me personally attractive? Cool, live and let live. But to make assunptions on my intelligence among other things without knowing me at all? Grown up men do not do that.
Your experience does not make universal truth.
Sorry for the double post. In the process of editing, I missed the five minute window. :smack:
In the topics about height, I never made generalizations about the personality of short guys. In fact, I readily admitted that I might be missing out on some really great guys. I never said that no woman would or could find them attractive, and I never said they were universally unappealing. What I said was I don’t find them attractive. And I was called shallow for that.
The OP makes a pronouncement from on high that fat women are “just overall lazy, delusional, passive, dumb, etc.” If you can’t see the difference, I can’t help you.
The devil you say!
Who did that? I guess the OP maybe made a few slight passes at it, but I didn’t see it anywhere else.
Unless you’re saying that not giving you a chance SOLELY because you are very overweight is “juvenile and childish” in which case I respectfully disagree.
Why would I force myself to try and be attracted to someone where there is no attraction?
Sure.
My ideal body type is probably average to high end of average BMI range, but I’d prefer someone who’s a bit heavier than that range, to someone who’s a bit lighter.
I’m 5’8’’, 132 myself, so this isn’t a case of being attracted to people who ‘look like me’ or whatever.
TBH I think women of a slightly more larger build are often more attractive, but there’s a limit. If someone calls themselves BBW, it’s probably because ‘overweight’ isn’t enough
You stole my post 
Why so defensive if your reason for not finding her attractive is not the one he was referring to?
If the reason someone dislikes Christina Hendrix is because they think she’s fat, I’m okay with calling that person delusional. They have to have not noticed that most women are about her size. Most likely they look at television or Hollywood and think that they represent normal humanity.
If her body type doesn’t do anything for you, I can’t argue with that. But holding her up as a fat or BBW woman is just stupid. She’s normal with a big chest. (Personally, I agree with you. When seen on her own, without stuff being done to make her look better, her body just isn’t all that attractive. But I’ve known bigger women who are.)
As for my answer to the OP: I again hate categorically denying any subset of people, but I have to admit that I’ve not met any attractive woman who describes herself as BBW. Granted, a lot of that seems to be the personality that goes with the label. You seem to have to be loud and brash to call yourself that. A little bit of confidence is good, but overconfidence is a deal breaker.
Tiny women, ick. My wife is a size 22 and that’s alright by me. Always attracted to women a little big, as long as they are put together. No slobs, have some pride. My concern now is that as my wife and I age is wear and tear on various joints and how much more difficult the recovery time is gonna be if we happened to need new knees &/or hips.