If you were to do a search on my posting history, you’d find that I’m honest enough to admit that I have a blindspot and that I’m not the most “self-aware” person in the world.
Which means I’m wise enough not to speak as if I’m more evolved and enlightened than anyone else. I most certainly don’t go around psychoanalyzing people, as you seem to enjoy doing. I have enough awareness to know that’s not cute.
The guy who brags about how he’s so much smarter and cooler than the company he chooses to keep is a straight-up clown. It’s pretty hard not to laugh at him. Sorry if you can’t see why this is amusing.
I think that’s fine. We like what we like. My objection to the OP is that he declares as universal fact things about larger women that can’t possibly be true about every single woman over whatever arbitrary weight he decides separates fat obese cows from attractive women. As if he gets to decide as a universal truth what is and isn’t attractive for everyone for all time.
Guys have to deal with peer pressure too. At some point, guys who do like heavy women do have to deal with the same social pressures that we do. Some guys choose not to. And stay “closeted.” Other guys get past it and pursue women they find attractive and don’t care what people think.
Leaving out the Urrg, no I wouldn’t basically because I’m not sexually attracted to them.
I make no judgement about personality based on appearance, I’m happy to work and/or socialise with people of all body shapes and sizes, but the extension of dating is that if it works out you’re going to be doing the horizontal lambada at some point and that doesn’t work for me with BBW.
I never declared my opinion as a universal fact. Anything outside what I stated is a testament to your own insecurity. And since you said you were so sure you are awesome in your own skin I don’t see how anything I said would bother you enough to mention it any further.
There are men that like women who take care of themselves, and there are men that like women who make bathroom scales do a 360.
Sorry but the answer is no, fitness and diet are a part of my lifestyle and I would expect any partner to be the same. So simply put she would not fit the life that I wish to live with her.
I am not anti-fat or anything at the end of the day we all live how we wish to live.
I’m just going to let this paragraph sit here. Apparently, in the OP’s experience, all fat women are lazy, delusional, passive, dumb, or etc. and by the way, that’s why they are fat. I find it difficult to believe an intelligent adult believes a complicated issue like weight can be summed up by “laziness.”
There’s the mere exposure effect, but that doesn’t require sex. Though I imagine it helps.
And, of courae, men who like women who both take care of themselves and make the scale do a 360. I’m sure the implication that the two are mutually exclusive was entirely unintentional.
Why do you think that is? In my own experience, it was because the women that were overweight had qualities I could definitely tie to their weight. For example, one woman didn’t think she was smart enough to go to college. She would make these half-hearted attempts, but it seemed more to justify that it was outside her ability. She never seriously commited to it. Parallel to that, she never believed she could ever be thin or lose a significant amount of weight. So she never really seriously tried. She just convinced herself she couldn’t do any better.
Another woman had the opposite problem. She thought she was great. She thought she was intelligent and beautiful. I’m sure a lot of guys would like to be with a woman who thinks highly of herself; I did. But beneath the surface, there was a lot of self delusion. If she did poorly in college, it was because of the professor/subject/etc. Nothing was ever her fault. She could never take inventory of her own faults and work to improve them. And her weight was the same thing- she never considered how unhealthy her lifestyle was.
ISTM like maybe you’re assuming (without evidence) that any negative traits a woman has must be related to their being overweight.
Low self esteem? Must be because she’s fat. Overly high self esteem and blaming failures on others? Because she’s fat.
You might want to be sitting down now, but plenty of thin women have low self esteem due to perceived personal failings. And lots of thin women have an overly inflated ego. It seems like the main thing a thin women has going for them is that they don’t have to risk that any personal issues they have will automatically be attributed to their weight.
Yes, I woud. And have, in fact. Although I’m thin, I’ve never discounted any girl because of weight. A BBW can have the same qualities , in bed, and more.