Are you interested in fighting ignorance or displaying it?
If the former, do your research. http://www.polyamory.org/ might give you a place to start.
Goodness, they have a web site! That means they must be a legitimate interest group. After all, they were subjected to the same rigorous standards that all claimants face when supplicating the Internet Gods. That’s what convinced me that voluntary self-amputation for the purposes of sexual gratification is a legitimate lifestyle choice, after all . . .
Yes, it does have much more risk, I actually agree with several statements here…however I still don’t know if I can agree fully. We take a risk by entering into any relationship (Yes, I know we’ve covered this). 
Putting our heart on the line in many cases, and trust in M_C’s case…
Do not both situations deserve some empathy from us when a person is in pain before us, regardless of disagreements about the relationship?
As to the worth gained. This is a difficult one for me. Maybe the type of relationship M_G is in has rewards that are difficult for us to anticipate being that we’re not in the relationship? Truthfully, right now, I can’t think of many, except maybe comfort from the physical side? Maybe sexual relief? A sense of safety with trusted companion?
The discussion has moved pretty far past my response, so don’t feel as if you have to repeat your argument for me, I am trying to keep up with the thread and can understand if you’re busy.
Hello. The comment you make here seems to be saying that you are more interested in mocking a poor choice of words on my part than the idea the words hopefully conveyed.
It seems to be an attempt to antagonize the situation, unless I misunderstand?
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Okay, I’m a bit late in the game here so probably others have brought this up.
But I fail to see how this guy having (allegedly) having sex with another girl is “disgusting”.
My personal preference is monogamy. But while I would see “my” guy cheating on me as mean, rotten and two-timing, I am not seeing the “disgusting” part of it.
Well this wasn’t a relationship, the guy had an exclusive deal with a sex distributorship and he broke(allegedly) the deal by spending the night in a hotel with distributors of a similiar product. It’s assumed that he at least sampled the other goods, thereby voiding his contract. 
Okay, let me clarify. I define disgusting as something “lose your cookies” worthy.
Garbage is disgusting, re: sex? Doing it with dead people or animals is disgusting.
Breaking a sexual contract? Dishonest, but “disgusting”? That was my question. Do you consider people having more than one sexual partner disgusting? Or is it only “disgusting” if it involves one partner breaking a promise to another?
I’m assuming the OP thought it was disgusting because there were prostitutes involved.
rrrrHHUUH? (ala scooby).
I missed that part, I thought she said it was “another girl”.
That bit of info was kind of slow to emerge, wasn’t it? In fact, I’m not sure if that’s been 100% established.
And we’re just assuming that he sampled a rival contractor’s wares. After all, he may have been trying to rescue these poor fallen women à la Gladstone
I didn’t snip much. Anyway, I think I see your point on this. I had a friend tell me one time about this liquor store job he pulled with a friend of his. His friend took off with all the money and left my friend empty-handed. I asked him where he thought this whole thing went wrong, and he responded that he shouldn’t have brought his friend along for the job. No, says me, you shouldn’t have done the liquor store job!
I think that you think you’re looking at the same type of situation here. If that’s the case, I disagree. People have relationships with others on all kinds of different terms. Believe it or not, I know of men who supposedly refrain from sex for their entire lives based on a relationship with someone they’ve never seen, but feel a profound sense that they are connected intimately with. And this is here in the US! I personally would not care to try that arrangement on for size, but it seems to do the job for them.
She wants a particular kind of relationship. She stated what she wants. It doesn’t happen to be written into a certain code book that this is OK, but so what? All kinds of relationships that conform to all kinds of code books fail miserably anyway. If every single relationship that was based on the 2.5 kids etc. formula were happy, then I could see how that would make sense and have a certain weight of evidence behind it. We all know the truth about saying that there is a one-size-fits-all, nobody-gets-hurt relationship formula. There isn’t one, as much as we’d like to think it exists.
The guy was dishonest about his porking some other chick, she got hurt, that sucks, she vented, you posted, I responded, and here we all are right now looking at a computer monitor instead of outside running around. Nothing is resolved. She still stings, I think I’m right, so do lots of other people.
Relationships are tough ships to steer sometimes. And I agree with the OP that good friends are more important than sex. I count few people as really good friends, but they’re very precious to me. There’s more asswipes out there than you can shake a stick at, you know? It sucks that someone you thought was a friend turns out to not quite be what you thought.
Careful, Doghouse. You might be accused of being uni-pedally ignorant.
This thread is closed at the request of the OP. And quite frankly, I don’t blame her. I am honestly amazed at how judgmental some of you are towards someone you barely know, and who entered into a mutual agreement with another adult. To those to whom this applies: you ought to be ashamed of yourselves.