Okay, so some of you may remember my May/December thread.
Consider this Part 2.
I don’t get what’s up with this guy. We’ve both got really busy schedules. I work full time and attend law school in the evenings. He works full time, teaches (no, not at the law school) and does a host of other activities. We’re busy people, lots of commitments, blah de blah.
So, the last time we got together was the Saturday before last. Movie Night. His Place. Lots o’ Fun. Everything was just peachy. He calls the following Thursday, as expected (I suspect he’s operating off of a dating for dummies rule book). He can’t get together this last weekend because he was attending a friends play (we’re not tight enough that I’d wonder why I wasn’t invited. Not a big thing at all) on Saturday, working on Friday and Sunday evening. Which fits in with his normal schedule so no flags were raised.
He mentions on the phone that I could call him too (in a ya know tone of voice). Hint taken. I throw out the suggestion of hooking up at some point this weekend. He seems all for it. Very Excited. It’s a Go. He’s got a friend’s wedding this weekend but he’s sure we can get together at some point. I ask him for his email and proceed to email him Wed. morning.
With just the right touch of breeziness I tell him that I hadn’t made any plans as of yet for the weekend and if he still wanted to get together, to let me know what his schedule was looking like. He emails me back (about 2 minutes later) to tell me to go ahead and make plans, he’s got the wedding Saturday and a rehearsal dinner Friday. Ooookay, not sure if I’m getting the brush off yet. He mentions he’ll call me tonight. We continue to banter back and forth via email, All is Well With The World.
Fast forward to tonight. He calls and we talk. Everything’s peachy. I tell him about an interview I had today and he wants me to email him as soon as I hear back (which is supposed to happen tomorrow). I mention to him as we’re hanging up that I hope we can get together again before the New Year. He laughs it off and says he’ll call me next week.
Okay, time out.
The hell? Have I mentioned that I live oh, about 2 MINUTES away from this person? And that we’ve been “dating” for about five weeks? And yet, we can’t seem to get our respective schedules to coincide for any substantial period of time for over 2 weeks now? Has this man ever heard of any days other than Friday and Saturday? Do people not eat lunch on whatever planet he hails from?
Ah-hem. Now, ordinarily I’d assume I was being blown off. No biggie. I’m hardly attached enough to really care all that much. Rejection sucks, sure. But it’s not like I’d be dusting off the 'ol Dixie Chicks Wide Open Spaces album and crying into my Corona or anything. The thing that’s bothering me is that he’s actively keeping this thing going. He keeps calling me (if you can consider a weekly phone call regular contact). When I mention getting together again he seems geniunely excited. He averages a 2 minute return email time. I don’t get it. If he’s trying to blow me off why in the name of All that is Good and Right in the World does he keep initiating contact with me? It’s not that hard to NOT call someone. Especially when they’re not calling you! It’s really starting to irritate me.
If you’d care to bear with me through this really bad analogy, it’s like he’s running a baseball stadium and he’s got me sitting in the dugout. He’s not sure if he wants me out on the field or not, but he’s keeping me on the team as official bench warmer until he makes up his mind.
I need some objective opinions on this. Should I just ask him what’s up? Should I use the horrendous baseball analogy? Should I just not answer the phone the next time he calls and cut my losses? I don’t mind being blown off, but I absolutely cannot stand to be strung along. And let’s face it: there’s really not much point in being in the stadium if you’re never going to get to play.
For anyone who’s actually read this far down, thank you for listening, please place your opinions on the table on your way out.
Thank you and goodnight.