So you won’t bend and want it your way. Yes, their way is screwed up. So what? Go along. It’s not your (right) way or nothing.
So you can predict how they’ll be, big deal. Is it bringing happiness into your relationship? Doesn’t sound like it. Why not try being tolerant for a change. Yes, yes, your ways are all better in every way. You want to be right? Or you want to be happy?
It’s not going to kill you to go through a holiday that’s messed up and doesn’t meet your exacting standards. Welcome to marriage and in laws. Suck. It. Up. For your wife’s benefit and the health of your relationship.
You’re a grown woman (truly sorry for the gender misidentification), not a petulant child. Did you imagine in a relationship you would always get things your way? Or that only your determination of how things ought to go has merit?
You’ve told us your gender, could you share your age? You seem very young in your reactions to things not being how you want them to be, is the reason I ask.
That $250 formula machine? It’s a Keurig, isn’t it? They’re gonna get a Keuriig for themselves and tell everyone that they’re looking around for pods that make SIMILAC, right?
Ana12, for the record, Baker is also a woman, not a man, and one who’s demonstrated around here for several years that she generally has her shit in one sock.
It is a great idea, I think I’ll do this for my nieces also even though their parents are already saving money for them.
It’s a very smart gift, very helpful in the future!
If you read my previous responses you’d know I shared my age already. But this has nothing to do with anything I said because I’m very mature comparing to people that are my age.
But anyways… you try to prove your point, and it doesn’t matter what I say, you have to be the right one, because you’re probably twice my age and have “life experience”- I get it. I have siblings that are married for 15 years already so I compare my in-laws with theirs if that makes any sense. I don’t expect to have “a perfect family” because no one is perfect. But you clearly don’t understand my situation or maybe you come from a family that is the same as my in-laws and that’s why you’re getting so offended.
BTW I’m very happy with my wife, and she seems to understand more and more every day what I was talking about. We spent Christmas with my family and she was beyond happy at the end. At the same time she looked disappointed with her family, that didn’t do anything for her, and didn’t even try to stop by even though they were 10 minutes away.
Smh… Did you have bad Christmas this year that you’re so ironic? For the record you can google “Baby Brezza Formula Pro”. It works like a coffee machine but it makes baby formula instead. And ohh, it’s $159.99+ depends where you buy it.
Well she didn’t try to show her knowledge in this case. Or maybe recently she became very virulent like couple of other people here including you I guess. You’re all trying to criticize me for not agreeing with my in-laws, but the truth is that your own lives are not working out too well, huh?
Wow no comments :smack: It seems like most of you here are very sad, depressed women with unsuccessful husbands cheating on you smh… But I’m not even surprised if they are cheating, good for them. It’s impossible to be happy with such annoying people like you…
I made a mistake creating an account here, but I just didn’t know any internet forums because I don’t use them normally! lol
Whatever, GOOD LUCK to you mean women- you need it more than I do! Go sign up for a gym instead of eating ice-cream and creating another post!!! Then maybe if you become a little nicer to other people you’ll get the same thing back
You should buy a gift that the baby can use like people said the baby isn’t the one that was a jerk . I would feel bad for the poor kid having parents like that !
Wait, is this the same baby in question in the OP? I mean, for one that kinda answers the question for you and two…wow…if that is the same pregnancy, that’s quite the jump. To go from asking for super expensive baby shower gifts to ‘nope, abortion’.
It’s not that her family doesn’t celebrate the holidays, they don’t celebrate them as you do. Trust me, I’ve sat through more than one family get together with drunken jerks I don’t particularly like in wildly disorganized settings where meals are haphazard. On top of that, we were several hundred miles from home and spending overnights with the in-laws.
You do this because it is WRONG to cut someone off from their family. And that’s what you’re doing with insisting on always spending holidays with your family.
You have two choices:
Go with your wife to her family’s place for half the holidays.
Have your wife go on her own.
Insisting that your wife NOT go to her family for the holidays, ever, is abusive. Don’t do that. If that’s not what you meant fine, but that’s how your post came across.
When you do go over to their place, though, given the disorganization, have a quick bite to eat before you go - not a full meal, just a light snack. It’s a lot easier to deal with in-laws when you’re not starving.
I’d say almost all families have some tension or issues or people that if discussed would lead to a big fat argument so we keep it to ourselves.
Does anyone have a family member where they keep “certain” rooms locked so family cannot see what is in them? I have and its because those family members swiped some stuff from a deceased relative they were not supposed to get.
My daughter has just had her fourth baby a sweet little girl. She knows hard times but she is a battler and her advice to you would be it is the parents job to provide for the child not family and friends, for her baby shower she gratefully received the basics such as cloths, bibs even nappies, no big stuff not even from the family. For the large items she went out at 4am to do a cleaning job, the girl has got her pride and we respect that and help out when we are allowed and wish it was more often. She would tell you to give a small present that you can afford and if that is unacceptable TOUGH
It is the same pregnancy…crazy, isn’t it? She planned the pregnancy even though she doesn’t admit, she was saying she’s happy “for some reason” (?), and then she became less and less excited, and she made a decision of abortion. I tried to help as much as I could but that’s none of my business, that’s her body so what can I do. She has some health issues that began when she got pregnant. The doctors told her to wait but she didn’t want it and her whole family agreed she’s to ready to have a baby.
