Ladies, what is it you look for in a guy?

Crap.

Let’s try that again.
Read this pathetic story, and you’ll see that lack of confidence can even cause you to be terrible in bed.

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Admittedly, I just skimmed through your replies, but I saw a lot of "Sense of Humor"s. I think that’s a pat answer. What I want is a man who thinks, who is aware, who can converse, who is confident. If he is all of the above, a sense of humor GENERALLY follows. The more confident you are the more “wicked” you can be, which is, yes, very attractive, as long as you don’t cross the line into perverse. At least not on the first date.

Age, money, those things do matter to a point. I couldn’t date a perfectly healthy man who sat watching Jerry Springer all day collecting a check from the government, dig? Nor do I fancy my grandpapa.

Chin up and good luck!

A good looking man can begin to look repulsive if there is not a person inside worth bothering with.
A plain man can become drop-dead georgeous if he has manners, taste, and class.
We (women) don’t care about how much money you make on the whole. A man who can hold down a job of some merit does tend to look more responsible and together than a man who lives in a cardboard box.

I’ll tell you straight up what it takes. Thats CONFIDENCE!! You have to have the balls to be able to go up to women and initiate conversation. If you want to pickup good lookin women you have to be good lookin yourself. This is easier than most think. Have a girl go shopping with you (I always do) and have her pick out trendy clothes for you. Appearance is very important. Don’t walk with your head down, look girls in the eye. Don’t be afraid to get busted checking her out, this lets her know your interested. When talking to a girl you notice is not interested, walk away and move to the next girl (even if it’s her friend). Getting rejected and not caring is key. Don’t think you have to be sloppy drunk to accomplish this. Most of my pickups have been when I’ve been totally sober.

Good Places To Meet Girls

  • Party’s (especially ones where you only know a couple people)
  • Bar’s in smaller cities (girls always want to get to know the new guy in the bar)
  • Any sort of group (swim club, golf club etc.)
  • Having lots of girls that are nothing more than friends I would say is the best way to meet girls. (You meet their friends and score with them). This is my favorite because your friend can vouch for you. You have the serious inside lane on this one. You can never have too many friends that are girls.

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Great. But how does a guy manage to achieve this enlightened state when he is, by nature, painfully shy, and tends to lose most of his higher mental functions in any romantically-tense situation? A, uh, friend wanted me to ask this for him…

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–Calredic

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Great. But how does a guy manage to achieve this enlightened state when he is, by nature, painfully shy, tends to lose most of his higher mental functions in any romantically-tense situation, and can’t help but take any rejection personally? A, uh, friend wanted me to ask this for him…

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–Calredic

This is for Calredic

Its like learning how to play the guitar. You can’t just pick one up and immediately hammer out a song. You have to practice. Same goes for picking up women, it takes practice. Try it out and eventually you’ll get the hang of it. You’ll soon notice your score:rejection ratio get a lot better.

This is for Calredic

Its like learning how to play the guitar. You can’t just pick one up and immediately hammer out a song. You have to practice. Same goes for picking up women, it takes practice. Try it out and eventually you’ll get the hang of it. You’ll soon notice your score:rejection ratio get a lot better.

Uh CanadaBoy, I admire your verve. I don’t know how old Calredic is but I am 46. I think I had to turn my pick-up chicks card in when I was 30. Frankly my fear of rejection has gotten so bad, that I don’t go to funerals because I am afraid they will close the casket when I come up for a viewing.

Dear Iswote,
I don’t think Canada Boy has a clue about how to “pick up chicks” long let have a relationship with a real woman. He probably bought one of those “how to” books they sell in the back of comics titled “Great Pick-Up Lines For Dummies.” I think shyness is not a handycap. Site unseen, you seem to be a better canadate than Canada. I think a sweet, shy, honest person beats a puffed up ego maniac all to hell, most of them are all talk and no show any way.

Dear Iswote,
I don’t think Canada Boy has a clue about how to “pick up chicks” long let have a relationship with a real woman. He probably bought one of those “how to” books they sell in the back of comics titled “Great Pick-Up Lines For Dummies.” I think shyness is not a handycap. Site unseen, you seem to be a better canadate than Canada. I think a sweet, shy, honest person beats a puffed up ego maniac all to hell, most of them are all talk and no show any way.

This is for Iswote

The principles are still the same no matter the age. You have to get that confidence up. Obviously your not going to be going to the bar, so join some groups or smoozing at social events is also good. KEEP TRYING. Thats the best advice I can give. The confidence will eventually come.

lswote, I wish I had a pointer for you.

I am of the “I can’t get a girlfriend? Hell, gimme a beer” school of thought. Please be sure to limit your intake, or you will feel terrible in the morning.

Don’t lead a woman on just becuase you are lonely then try and god meet someone on a message board. =)

Don’t be a dick and hang up the phone on her then ignore here untill you are done being mad and start to feel lonely again.

Don’t ask her to come spend memorial day with you and then refuse to talk to her because she was worried about how you were feeling and by mistake irritated you.

Just a few key points my dear.

Don’t lead a woman on just becuase you are lonely then try to meet someone on a message board. =)

Don’t be a dick and hang up the phone on her then ignore here untill you are done being mad and start to feel lonely again.

Don’t ask her to come spend memorial day with you and then refuse to talk to her because she was worried about how you were feeling and by mistake irritated you.

Just a few key points my dear.

Mr. Cynical said:

I don’t like beer, don’t drink. I am of the “geez it is amazing how many days in a row you can feel like death would be more fun” school of thought.

Don’t lead a woman on just becuase you are lonely then try to meet someone on a message board. =)

Don’t be a dick and hang up the phone on her then ignore here untill you are done being mad and start to feel lonely again.

Don’t ask her to come spend memorial day with you and then refuse to talk to her because she was worried about how you were feeling and by mistake irritated you.

Just a few key points my dear.

Don’t lead a woman on just becuase you are lonely then try to meet someone on a message board. =)

Don’t be a dick and hang up the phone on her then ignore here untill you are done being mad and start to feel lonely again.

Don’t ask her to come spend memorial day with you and then refuse to talk to her because she was worried about how you were feeling and by mistake irritated you.

Just a few key points

Don’t lead a woman on just becuase you are lonely then try to meet someone on a message board. =)

Don’t be a dick and hang up the phone on her then ignore here untill you are done being mad and start to feel lonely again.

Don’t ask her to come spend memorial day with you and then refuse to talk to her because she was worried about how you were feeling and by mistake irritated you.

Just a few key points my dear.

One more thing…
I guess I was a little harsh on CanadaBoy, But listen Fella, this guy is looking for a companion, not a one night stand.
Iswote, you said that you like carpentry and women dont go in for that sort of thing…Well I have girlfriends in their 40’s who tell me Bob Villa is the sexiest man alive! Why…because he fixes things!