Dave – as long as you are lining up drinks, I will take a beer. And on an unrelated note, tomorrow I leave China and head home. Yay!
Ah, well, you’ve helped us in our search for truth. 
hands SFT a towel
It’s a power/dominance/degradation thing. To some extent, I suppose it could also be a “well, if she loves me THAT much…” kind of thing, but I can’t say, for sure. It apparently appeals to a lot of guys, but not this one.
Interesting. I hadn’t heard that, before, although I guess it makes sense, now that you mention it. What’s a “snowball”?
You’re welcome. Oh, and welcome to the SDMB. Did I welcome her, before? I dunno. Damn that alzheimer’s.
It’s nice to see you weren’t afraid to dive right in to the deep end. 
Aw, go ahead! What better way to get noticed, around here? 
Welcome!
One beer for Contrary. Will that be a Tsing Tao (the only Chinese beer I can name), or something domestic?
At this point, right before I head for bed one last night in China, I don’t really care
I already responded, and Soulburnz already addressed this, but I thought I would add that, as one of those guys who get sensitive, I would prefer you/her to continue, but gently. No need to keep trying to get that golfball through the garden hose but, by all means, continue the stroking that got us there, if you can.
What each man wants, undoubtedly varies, and a man’s climax can’t be extended to the point that woman’s can, but it isn’t over at the point where you first need to swallow, either. (Which is why I, at least, prefer swallowers. Not that spitters aren’t wonderful people, as well, but they tend to get preoccupied just at the wrong moment, if you get my drift.) So, no, all activity should definitely NOT stop, at that point. I think that applies to all men, but YMMV.
I would do this for my bf if he wanted… but it’d be a special occassion thing and I’d be getting major goodies in return lol…
Hey Dave, where’s mine??? I’d go a Baileys on ice right now
Methinks Dave’s living vicariously through this thread… and no one offered me a coke!
Actually I’ll take something caffeine free and no alcohol please … trying to be good
I still don’t really understand, in practical terms, how the spitting thing works. Are there really women who’ll run off to find a sink straight after a blow-job? And, surely, if it’s because they don’t like the taste they’ll only end up tasting more of it that way?
I don’t particularly mind swallowing. It wouldn’t be my beverage of choice, but it’s not too bad & it makes men happy. On the post cunnilingus kiss subject, I don’t like it that much but mainly because it makes the kiss sloppy. That said, I once dated someone with a beard and it really wasn’t pleasant to have to kiss a soggy beard that smelt of me afterwards.
And on another note, I did once have someone ask to come all over my face. Although I can understand why there have been some negative “it’s all about degradation, power” reactions to that idea, I don’t think that was what it was about the time I let someone do it. I would interpret it as being about messiness. The guy I was with was very playful and liked mess. That included things like flicking water at me in the shower. Wanting to come on my face, I honestly think was just an extension of that. Extending it, I think it was a desire for sex to be open and playful and honest rather than “clean”.
Yep, that pretty much sums up my life, in a nutshell. A woman talks to me for hours about sex, let’s me buy her drinks, then says she’s going to bed, and all I can do is say “Nightie Night”.
Sleep well, Contrary.
Nope, I don’t think you did. Thanks! It’s great to be here.
It’s a good thing that it’s the deep end, I have a habit of going head first.
Uh, no pun intended.
Sorry, RH. Here ya’ go. I gotta get a second bartender for this thread.
I’m really not trying to be offensive, here, especially when you’ve been so nice about participating in this thread, but I’m having trouble phrasing this, so please don’t take it as judgmental or an attack or insult. I really don’t mean it that way. But, this is the second time a woman has referred to expecting something major or trading for something she wanted, in return for some “special” sex. (The other reference may have been in the other thread.)
And, I have to ask, why isn’t this wrong? Were you serious, or just joking? I agree, he should want to do something special for you, if you do something special for him. But, I can’t quite get behind the idea of this expectation. It makes it seem sordid, to me.
One Ginger Ale, with a lime twist, for Tanookie. Sorry for the misunderstanding. Our cocktail waitress is <insert joke here>. You’ll have to step up to bar and place an order, tonight.
Well, maybe. But’s it’s a much more interesting life than the real one.
I’d like to chime in to the question about trading favors… I think blackmailing someone or berating someone to do something for you in return for something you’ve done is a bad thing but relationships are all about give and take…
I watch star wars with him and he watches some chick flick with me… I make his favorite dinner but we have my favorite dessert…
Now if I were to allow him to test out a fantasy that I wasn’t too keen on trying then I would most assuredly want kudos in return! If we are clearer about what we want from our partners then I think that alleviates much stress! He can’t say he wasn’t warned and I won’t be resentful
Oh and thanks for the ginger ale
I don’t spit or swallow. I take it out of my mouth before he shoots the load. One time a guy came in my mouth and I threw up and felt sick the entire day.
I enjoy the post cunnilingus kiss. I’d much rather taste myself than his ejaculatory secretions.
Never had a complaint.
This’ll teach me not to do a vanity search…