Rumor has it that some people dislike me so much that it requires a whole separate Dopefests.
At Dopefests I try to just enjoy meeting everyone, even people whose posting persona I don’t necessarily enjoy. There have been a few awkward moments when I’m being introduced to someone face-to-face for the first time and I realize “Holy shit, I just flamed the crap out of that person yesterday,” but usually it seems that noone carries board shit into the party. So many people are different in real life than they are on the boards and it’s hard to really dislike someone once you’ve broken bread. Even people who have sex in my bathroom!
I try to keep issues that are really personal off the boards - for example, since my boy posts here and knows Dopers, if we had a fight or problems I would never post about them. I get very squeamish when Dopers who are having problems in real life (especially couples or former couples) post personal shit here.
Dislike me ? Hell. I would suggest that dislike is at least a step-up from apathy which seems to torment me most. Dislike is having an opinion, wheras I tend to get none at all.
The people who dislike me don’t know me, so why should I care? It only bugs me when I find out that people have said things behind my back who, to my FACE, are nothing but sweetness and light. I think the folks who I am openly not entirely fond of (as though my opinion mattered) will probably agree that I don’t bother going behind their backs to snipe at them.
If nothing else, folks can be assured that if they ask me a question I’ll give them an HONEST answer. shrug
i figure it is like work relationships. if you don’t get along with someone you just keep it business. if you know the answer to a question asked, you answer it. you don’t go about poking at them, in the more personal forum. just the facts.
i’m more of the way eve is. people i dislike rarely know it. i agree with her, the “cut direct” is a bit tough to get across on the internet.
Those I don’t like mostly get ignored, though I don’t necessarily avoid them.
As far as I can recall, I’ve only been in 1.5 personal flamewars with people. Except for the one whole person I don’t know of any specific person who dislikes me.
When I learn of such people, my first reaction is to cry myself to sleep that night, then write them plaintive emails inquiring as to which body part of theirs I need to suckle to return to their good graces. Then I go through a bitter phase when I hate them, a denial phase when I pretend I don’t know they exist and finally a vindictive phase when I frame them for the death of a prominent political figure.
Usually the vindictive phase releases all tension and I can finally go on with my life.
I feel prickly at the back of my neck; I think Eve is glaring at me.
Well, I’m not sure if I should even be responding to this, given my strong suspicion that jarbaby doesn’t really care for me. She hasn’t said as much, but that’s what I have to conclude from her total lack of response after I went to the trouble of shipping a custom-ordered Till Lindemann Realdoll to her home. (You did get it, right, hon?)
But other than jarbaby, I don’t really think this applies to me. As far as I know, I’ve never really pissed anybody off. The few people I have tangled with are generally either insane or oblivious or both (e.g., seethruart and Wildest Bill), and they don’t count. To my knowledge, no SDMB regulars have me on their shit list.
If someone wants to disabuse me of that notion – or explain that nobody hates me because I don’t make enough of an impression one way or the other – please feel free.
Uh, I can think of three posters I either actively avoid, or try it ignore whenever possible. Although, I have to admit, that for the post part I don’t even know who posts what, because I don’t pay attention to names. And even if I do notice a poster who pisses me off, I tend only be upset for a day or two, then I forget the whole affair.
I usually don’t worry too much if anybody on here likes me or not, but I will admit that if there are a few poster who don’t like me, and I found out, I’d probably be crushed, because I think quite highly of them.
I’ll admit to being upset and/or irritated by some Dopers but since I don’t care for them here, I won’t interact with them elsewhere.
I’ve only been truly pissed at one Doper, and that was kept off the board. We have since resolved things.
[sub]and BTW, it wasn’t Hamadryad. We may not always see eye to eye, but I respect her. There’s no bullshit and that is refreshing.[/sub]
I’ve had personal disagreements with a few people on this board, but for the most part, I’ve got no problems with anyone, and I assume from the lack of flaming that few people have any problems with me. Those I don’t like simply get ignored. It’s easiest that way.
And, for the record, jarbaby, you’re my personal goddess.
I don’t dwell on whether anyone likes or dislikes me. I probably couldn’t tell you if anyone on this board likes me (as opposed to tolerates me) or dislikes me, or even remembers my name.
That being said, if someone I genuinely liked and/or respected professed to be pissed off with me for something, this would really bother me. I’d do my damnedest to figure out what the problem was, and hope that it was just a simple misunderstanding (I try very hard not to be offensive, and to be really, really nice; however, the flirty thing probably annoys some people more than they have the energy/willpower to admit).
My general strategy (when not shamelessly flirting with comely female Dopers) is to be so nice and harmless-seeming that it would seem to all but the most callous that flaming me and/or being overtly pissed at me would be like kicking a six-week-old Golden Retriever puppy. It doesn’t actually take much; I’m actually really like that in real life.
Oh, and jarbabyj? I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again…RRROOOWWWLLL!
[sub]Translation: You’re way, WAY up on my list. And yes, I realize this thread of yours wasn’t a plea for affirmation. I can’t help myself.[/sub]
I know some people don’t like me because someone once posted an email from an anonymous person that included me in their shit list, but I don’t know who they are. There are people I know have gripes with me, but nothing of the vendetta sort.
